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Do I have a drinking problem?

Is my drinking a problem?

Q: I’ve encountered a reoccurring pattern that seems to provide a challenge for me. Often times when I allow myself to imbibe, I’ll set a specific time that I don’t want to drink before, and of course a limit on the quantity that I allow myself. Almost always I drink before the time of day I prescribed, and I’ll consume more (sometimes way more) than the plan. Simply put……. “My PM actions rarely reflect my AM plans.” This can lead to several days of the same behavior before I finally reel myself in and gain some control back. So I’m trying to figure out exactly what makes it OK for me to break the deal I had with myself. Looking back, I don’t recall even thinking about the fact that opening that beer will lead to many more, not to mention the fact that I am breaking my word to myself. Any insights?

How much and how often do you drink?

A: Whether or not you have a drinking problem depends upon a few factors: how much, why, and when you drink.  Experts recommend that you take a few steps to evaluate potential problem drinking. Not all people who drink every day, for example, have a drinking problem.  During this process of evaluation, it helps to be truly honest with yourself.

1. Keep track of how much you drink – Track your drinking over a couple of weeks and compare it to healthy drinking standards. For men up to 65, this means drinking 4 or less drinks in a day and up to 14 drinks a week. For women, healthy drinking is 3 or less drinks in a day and up to 7 drinks a week. One standard drink is 12 ounces of regular beer, 8 to 9 ounces of malt liquor, 5 ounces of table wine, or 1.5 ounces of 80–proof spirits.

2. Set a drinking goal – Choose how much you will drink, if at all. For women a healthy goal is to drink one or less drinks per day. For men, no more than two drinks per day is a good goal. Write your drinking goal on a piece of paper and place it somewhere you will see it often.

3. Practice complementary drinking behaviors – Eat food before drinking and pace youself to one drink per hour. Also, avoid places or people that make you drink when you don’t want to. Be prepared to say, “No, thanks” when someone offers you a drink that you don’t want. And choose other activities when you feel the urge to drink:

    • allow the urge to pass with time
    • distract yourself with something else
    • remind yourself why you want to cut back on drinking
    • talk with someone you trust

4. Know when you need help – Sometimes, monitoring your drinking and efforts to cut back don’t work. In these cases, you might have a drinking problem. But that’s not the end of the story. There is help for drinking problems – even beyond A.A. and the 12 step alcoholism treatment model.

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Signs of a drinking problem

  • Being late for work because of drinking
  • Drinking after telling yourself you won’t
  • Drinking alone when you feel angry or sad
  • Drinking causes trouble in your relationships, in school, in social activities, or in how you think and feel
  • Forgetting what you did while you were drinking
  • Getting headaches or having a hangover after drinking
  • Your drinking habits worry your family

When to get help for problem drinking

If you experience any one of these signs, seek help from an expert in alcohol consumption. Your family doctor might help you decide whether you should cut down or abstain completely from drinking. Or you can call a national alcohol help hotline to talk with someone anonymously about your situation. You can also seek help from a certified counselor/psychotherapist and address drinking issues using cognitive-behavioral therapy, mindfulness approaches, or non 12 step support.

There’s no shortage of resources for drinking problems. And no reason to be ashamed. There is help to stop and stay stopped. Please let us know how we can help by posting your questions or comments here.

Reference sources: NIAAA Tips for Cutting Back on Drinking

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10 Responses to “Do I have a drinking problem?
10:25 am August 11th, 2011

If you think you might have a problem, you probably do.

9:19 pm December 2nd, 2014

I work all week I do not drink before I go to work or after but I do on Saturdays one day a week but when I do I drink to I am drunk and then some times go out and get more do I need help do I need to stop drinking for good .

12:38 pm December 3rd, 2014

Hello Patrick. That is a great question. If drinking affects you negatively, you may consider stopping. How do you feel physically, emotionally, or mentally related to drinking? While you may not be physically dependent on alcohol, the one-time-a-week binge can be affecting you on all these levels.

11:52 am December 19th, 2014

i have a drinking problem and i would like help to stop my drinking behaviour

2:08 pm December 29th, 2014

Hello George. I know it may seem frightening at first, but alcohol recovery will change your life if you commit to your goal. Here, I will send you some links that can help you start, but first, I encourage your first point of contact to be your doctor.

2:15 pm December 29th, 2014

thanks alot for your advice..kindly send me the links

8:20 am August 9th, 2015

My son is drinking daily and have congestion heart failure and he’s only 22 years old… I’m tired of my own child and I hate being around him when he drinks. I’m afraid of what he will make me do to him or his health getting worsers… I want him to stop drinking asap

3:08 pm August 24th, 2015

Hello Renee. Your situation looks like you and your child need professional help. I’d advise you to call the helpline number displayed on our page to speak with our trusted treatment providers. Also, see if you can find alcohol rehab facilities near you by using SAMHSA’s treatment locator:

11:42 am December 17th, 2015

I have been drinking about 80 units of alcohol per week for about 4 years. I have been functioning but struggling privately with tiredness etc… I have decided to give up and have not had a drink for 5 days now. I do not have a physical need to drink but drink for emotional reasons. I am female aged 49. My concern is that I have had severe tiredness since stopping and a constant daily headache and I am feeling worse than I did when drinking. Will this go away with time?
Thank you

Lydia @ Addiction Blog
9:16 pm December 21st, 2015

Hi, Neve. Of course, it will go away. Now, you’re detoxing from alcohol, and your body needs time to get used to live without alcohol. Good luck!

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