How long does alcohol withdrawal last?

Alcohol withdrawal lasts from several hours to several days, but should be resolved within 7 days after your last drink. More on what affects the length of alcohol withdrawal symptoms here.

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Why do people go through withdrawal?

Alcohol withdrawal is caused when you interrupt constant exposure of alcohol to the central nervous system.  Sometimes, withdrawal can be confused with a hangover, especially when hangover duration lasts more than a couple of days.  However, withdrawal is distinct and separate from a hangover and occurs after long, heavy periods of drinking.  But how do you know when alcoholism, alcohol abuse, and addiction have become problems?

People who drink more than a few drinks every day, or who drink large amounts of alcohol consistently over time end up affecting their brain chemistry. In fact, regular alcohol intake “slows down” some brain cell activity and responsiveness, making others work harder to keep up normal functioning. So when you remove alcohol, the brain becomes hyperactive until these parts of the brain (the neurotransmitters) balance out again. This period of balancing out is called withdrawal.

Duration of withdrawal symptoms

Alcohol withdrawal severity and length vary by person. Experts thinks that the different factors contribute to withdrawal include:

  • age
  • central nervous system mechanisms
  • coexisting illnesses
  • genetic influences
  • neurochemical mechanisms
  • pattern of alcohol use

Most people are able to reduce or stop drinking with only minimal withdrawal symptoms. And although the symptoms of withdrawal vary, the time course for withdrawal symptoms can be predictable. Withdrawal usually begins 6 to 8 hours following a reduction in alcohol use, peaks 24 to 28 hours after the last drink, and can last up to 7 days. After you withdraw from alcohol, however, you can and may experience disrupted sleep patterns or changes in attention and concentration days to months after the last drink.

Some people stop drinking on their own (how to stop drinking alcohol on your own). But if you are thinking about detox for alcohol, SEEK MEDICAL HELP. If you stop drinking cold turkey, you can provoke serious side effects in the body such as seizures, hallucinations, or you may even become temporarily delirious. Also, there are medications that can help ease the discomfort of withdrawal.

Alcohol withdrawal questions

Please ask any other questions about alcohol detox or withdrawal below. We are here to help.

Reference sources: NIAAA publication on Alcohol Withdrawal and Alcohol Withdrawal Protocol for Treatment
About the author
Lee Weber is a published author, medical writer, and woman in long-term recovery from addiction. Her latest book, The Definitive Guide to Addiction Interventions is set to reach university bookstores in early 2019.


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  1. I am down to only one beer a day but am still scared of taking the full plunge of full sobriety. Will I be okay? Will I get withdrawals after drinking only 1-2 beers a night for a long time?

  2. Having read some of the messages below, I realise that when I comes to. It drinking, I really don’t suffer much at all! I’ve been drinking daily for nearly 7 years and when I have had breaks of 3-10 days I have only some insomnia and a little anxiety. For the last 3 years I’ve been drinking 1-3 bottles of wine a day, sometimes a quarter bottle of vodka or gin instead. My daughter has been poorly and in hospital and I’ve not had a drink since Sunday and I feel fine. Is this typical? Should I worry if I stayed alcohol free for longer?

  3. hi there
    I had a withdrawal from Alcohol and maybe weed, it happened six months ago and I am still suffering with auditory hallucinations, although the voices have become dimmer over time they still persist all day and night even until points where I can’t hear them well. I wanted to know if there could be a timeline for this and maybe if theres medication to help with this as its really making me loose concentration which is getting very frustrating.
    Thank you
    Kind regards
    H Shah

  4. Hi Nancy,
    Glad to hear that you are doing well! As previously mentioned, the severity will differ from one person to another, and other factors such as your current physical condition, mental state, etc… can also play a role. Many websites offer the potential worst effects you could experience in order to ensure that people take the withdrawal process seriously, as it is potentially life threatening. You may also be keeping some symptoms at bay by taking the diazepam, which is a commonly prescribed benzodiazepine for relieving alcohol withdrawal symptoms.

  5. Hi. I hit cold turkey after drinking a pint of vodka a day for about 5 years straight. Today is day 4. I have experienced very few mild w/d symptoms. Headaches here and there. Rapid heartbeat irritability, bloating especially. I do have diazepam & only take it at night. Feeling better every day. Why do some websites INSIST I WILL DEFINITELY become very sick up to 2 WEEKS after cessation?! Isn’t it possible that some just don’t get violently ill?! Honestly reading that stuff is more stressful to me than this actual process. Please Advise. Btw, I will NOT drink again. Cravings aren’t really bothering me much at all except the 1st 2 days. Any help is much appreciated. Thank you

    1. Hi Nancy. The severity of alcohol withdrawal symptoms differs from person to person. Factors like age, gender, length of use, use of additional substances etc. should all be taken into consideration.

  6. I want to stop drinking beer i have afid on blood thinners tryprol i drink every day almost cause i lost my daughter so hard thats the way i feel good.

  7. I drink a six pack a day of blue moon micro and have been for a year my doc told me I had to quit or die by 50 because of my cholesterol levels so today I quit will or can I experience any withdraws

  8. I have been drinking a 5th everyday for almost a year. I’m at the point now I can finish off a 5th and still want more. I work 12 hour work days. So I’ll drink a 5th in couple hours so I can start to sober so I can make it to work. I’m going into alcohol program on Monday what can I expect to go through in detox and how long will I have to detox.

  9. Hi I’m 29 now I suffer from severe anxiety disorder and have been a chronic binge drinker every3-6 months I’ll give in and binge drink over 3-7 day period consuming well over a gallon of whiskey within that time is it still possible for me to get with drawls ??

  10. My boyfriend had went in on August 30 2017 he was diagnosed with pancreatitis as well of being sucked out with a pump and on a heart monitor and release with a doctor’s advise of basically well u can go home and have a few drinks what really well he followed that and now he had another seizure was told by Stamford hospital to send Tay which he was petrafied and did not want to stay he was sent home with meds we went to his primary which would not give him any more meds well he went to the detox and was sent to the hospital and released now he’s freaking out noone wants to give him more Librium so what do I do next

  11. I’ve been alcohol free for 23 days now. But I just woke up with my chest pounding and shaking. My hands and feet are cold and clammy. Is this normal this late into the process? I did drink a pint a day for almost 3 years.

  12. I was a fairly heavy beer drinker for six years. I had about 6-8 beers every night or every other night, and it wasn’t until recently that I made the decision to quit. It’s been about a month so far, and I thought that by now I would be in the clear as far as residual withdrawals are concerned, but lately I still feel anxious and shortness of breath towards the night, which is when I’d generally drink. Just wondering how long is this supposed to go on? I mean, I know it’s been six years… Does this mean I should expect a few months of this because of how long I’d been drinking, or is this possibly something else?

  13. Hi! I suffered a heart attack 2 1/2 years ago. My cardiologist suggested that I drink 1 glass of red wine a night. I started with 1 glass and quickly moved to two glasses a night. I have decided to quit as I have never been a drinker and I was worried that I was becoming an alcoholic. I have not had any wine for the past 6 nights. I have felt very anxious and just out of sorts. Am I going through withdrawal? An if so, how long should I expect this to continue. I basically drank 1/2 bottle wine every night for the past two and one half years.

  14. Drinking problems for over 40 years had just stopped for 10 months now back in withdrawal hell struggling to keep water down with heaving all the time sweating shaking can’t sleep and feel like death wish i had never touched a drop

  15. Good luck to you all! Congrats in fighting against it.

    I was a monster drinker (bottle of sailor Jerry or cheap liquor a day) and stopped cold turkey. Went to the hospital and lasted several months without drinking, then at a museum event, I drank a few beers and was fine, socially controlled it with the he’ll of my girlfriend at the time. After we ended it I almost fell again until I realized I did it on my own, yes I had her love but it was my determination to be the best man possible for her that gave me the strength to not drink.

    I now drink socially , IF I want to, and have absolute control. I feel the urge to drink about as any normal person does now that I have normalized. I’m happy again though sometimes the depression hits, the amount I drank and in the non stop every day fashion it is said it will take a long time for me to be full again.

    Loved ones help as well as friends, come clean to everyone you want help from, sit them down and tell them you are afraid of your problem and need help. Reflect on the damage done, time and parties missed while blacked out, the money, the withdrawal pains and nightmares and voices, the constant thought you are going to die as your heart palpitations pick up. Personally, I remember the person I want to be, the husband and the rock. Not the let down, costly, unhealthy and often sick drunk.

    I wish you all the best. As far as the length of withdrawal, it’s all on your age and general health life atyle

  16. I am female. Age 56. I drank for 37 years. Went to inpatient rehab 8 months ago. then outpatient program including group therapy. I have been sober almost 6 momths now. Isee my still see my therapist every 3 weeks. Also see a psychiatrist once a month. I take paxil and busbar. Also on Antabuse for almost 6 months. I go to AA everyday, have a sponser and have worked the steps and I pray. I had to leave my husband of 32 years and filed for divorce. It will be final in 2 months. I still have derium tremens that can be severe when anxiety is high. I have been on a slow detoxification with herbals from India to help get toxins out of body and liver for 3 months so far. I am very committed to sobriety. My question is how longer before this shaking stops? Please help me. Thank you

  17. I’ve been drinking a 12 pack a day for about 6 months now and I want to quit. Can I go down to 3 or 4 and be alright it’s been 12 hours and I already got the shakes and and going through I guess hot flashes around the neck where I sweat off and on

  18. Hello. I’m a 25 year old woman. I Do have a drinking problem and as of late I have been experiencing insanely scary withdrawal. Shakes, sweats, panic attacks, super high heart rate, messed up vison. How long is this going to last? I’m extremely scared. They attacks become worse and worse every time they happen. I just quit cold turkey. Is that a bad idea? Should I have weened myself off instead of just stopping after a binge? My heart rate is intense and so are the attacks. This has been going on for almost 24 hours now and I am terrified. I Do not have insurance so is rather not go to the hospital if possible.

    1. Hi Sabrina. Call a toll-free Alcohol Helpline on 1-888-675-1820 to find a high-quality alcohol addiction treatment program. This helpline is accessible 24/7 and gives you the chance to speak with trusted treatment consultants who can help you find an alcohol recovery program suited to your individual needs.

  19. I have recently decided to make a major change to my life style! after finding out i was 18st at 31 years old i have joined a gym and made major cuts to my life style.

    First off i have gone from a bottle of wine daily to a bottle of wine a week.

    i am a 1500 calories diet

    and also go 3-4 times a week to the gym with a special fat burning routine designed by the personal trainer.

    My question or query is, its my 2nd week finished on this routine and i have started having really bad headaches, loss off appetite (not a bad thing) and just generally feeling crap.

    Is this withdrawal symptoms or a my body shocked by the change??

    any helpful suggestions would be appreciated.

  20. three months alcohol free and my health continues to deteriorate no blog sites talking about that..Im not going to drink or looking for excuses but I’m really bummed out thinking I was gonna finally start feeling better…

  21. I stopped 5 days ago three or four drinks each evening. And now I see I was supposed to taper off. What should I do now.? Other than being down in the dumps, I started running a low-grade fever today. Any advice on what I should do.

  22. i used todrink alcohol and quit it i jan 2017. After 03 months I felt anger, anxiety, fear and depression. how i can recover from this

  23. I moved my brother into our house he used to drink but after 2 months of quitting drinking we went to a clinic and his test came back Postive for Alchol but I know for a fact he wasnt drinking How can I prove this he is mentally chellanged and We dont drink at all in our house hold.

  24. Hi I’m 30 and binge drank heavily for about 10 years, I recently quit and went through typical withdrawal. Anxiety, trouble concentrating and night sweats etc. but it’s been about a month and I’m still getting the night sweats, less severe than the first sober week but still, could that be withdrawal? Or maybe something else? In the past when I quit they wouldn’t last more than a week. Thank you

  25. 48 yrs male. Decided to quit two days ago. Extreme anxiety , shakes. I am afraid to step outside. Today’ woke up with swollen eye and bags under my eyes. One eye bag is so swollen that it looks like I got punched . Itchy and red lesions all around the eye. Insomnia. We shall see today. The reason I am quitting is that I am angry, agitated and short fuse person. The reason is because of abuse of alcohol throughout all these years . Binge drinker mostly on the weekends. My neuro system for 30 yrs of abuse is set to be angry because of alcohol. Google PAWS. It takes time to heal from this especially you neuro system. I never could find the answer for my anger until I just spent 2 days researching this thing. One psychiatrist told me long time ago that people who abuse alcohol are angry people. It’s true. I am a living proof of this. Please whatever you do quit this this completely because it you will become like me. I always postponed it because I always said and only 1-2 drinks. When I drank 60-70 percent of the time I would drink until I passed out. This alcohol will do so much damage to your nervous system that it will come sooner than you expect. I have baby coming and I want to be good dad and I don’t want my son to ever see me drunk. I saw my abusive father who also was an alcoholic how he beat my mother, fights etc. I am done with this drug. Wish me luck as I need to heal especially my anger and anxiety issues that almost ruined my relationship. Stay away from other pills because they are the same thing as alcohol. Do it natural way and join the group therapy.

  26. I was sober for 89 days after going through bad DT in the hospital. I decided to drink and I drank way too much. I had a hangover for 2 days and the third day drank 1 drink and felt better. I have been drinking now about 2 drinks a day for 2 weeks and every time I try to stop drinking I feel sick and I do not want to go through DT again. I am stopping tomorrow, just worried I will go through DT again.

  27. Iv only ever got drunk once and I’ve been experiencing these symptoms for 4 days since it happened it’s strange because I don’t drink often and I’ve only really been drunk once will this pass?

  28. After losing my true love to suicide 6 months ago, I have been drinking a fifth of whiskey daily. I can’t do it anymore, and I want to stop. I’ve had withdrawal from other substances in the past, and successfully quit but have had a seizure before and I’m scared. I don’t have insurance and wondering how severe this will be. Today will be my 2nd day not drinking and would love a reply as fast as possible. I don’t want to drink again, however, I’m afraid of serious problems. Thanks so much

  29. Hi I had stop drinking cold turkey on is it normal to be dizzy an bad axitey after 2 weeks I’m getting closer to. A month am I out the Dts faze cause that was horrible I just want to know if I stay sober am I out the life threating effects now ?

  30. Hey guys , I am 25 andI was a heavy drinker 6 months ago till dec 2015.I started drinking on 2011and I used to drink around 3 bottles strong beer 8% v/v, every alternate day. On november 2015 I started to feel unusua after drinking , and was not able to sleep also, so i started to reduce on drinks and ultimately on 17th dec when I had two bottles of beer , the next day i was feeling completely disoriented , had a panic attact for the first time , became very nervous , was not able to sleep that night , got vivid n lucid dreams and finally decided not to drink anymore. I had gone cold turkey and was’nt feeling good for amost ten day(had some worst feelings ever) , did’nt want to live , lost interest in ll the things in this world, ( I felt maybe this is the psycological effects which is now gonna last for months) , after fifteen days of being sober , I realy could not control my roller coaster emotional feelings (in which i became extremely depressed and sad for a long time and happy for a short time ) , finally gave up and went to a doctor who gave me some pills for ten days to get hold of my anxiety. I had a tablet for the first day and was feeling better. but later on evening , I was feeling the withdrawal symptoms to get worse and started to get damn anxious and very depressed , and even felt that i am losing touch with the reality , i srchd on google and the symptoms were similat to that of DEPERSONALOSATION AND DEREALISARION , so i stopped on the tablet from next day and started to do yoga and exercise ,kept on for some days and was feeling good. After almost 1.5 month of quitting alcohol i was a whole lot better and the sleep patterns were getting normal , but still a shallow feeling of sadness and depressions were there. And sometimes i did’nt feel good for no reason. 4 months after sobriety i had beer for the first time and it was just a glass and felt good only. now its been around 6 months and i drink beer once a week no more than 3 units and everything is fine. I am enjoying my life with friends and family. Everything is perfect and don’t want to get addicted to drinks like before. sometimes i go weeks without drinking and it feels awesome. I feel earlier when i used to drink alot , that time i felt all people drink and drink like me only , but I was wrong. Now i see there are alot of ppl who aclty dont drink and are enjoying their lives perfectly. alcohol affects you mentally and you don’t know until you become extremely dependent to it and it’s symptoms arouses. The most difficult things during withdrawal are panic attacks , anxiety and the emotional rollercoaster of being sad, depressed, happy , losing interest in things, etc. Now i feel i am completely normal but still not like before as i had to go through all these, but I feel, slowly i will be more happy for sure. Thanx guys. For any help, i will be happy to reply. !!

  31. Hi,
    Ive drank on and off since i was 15 since my last child 4 years ago i drink about 12oz or more of vodka i start drinking about 1pm a little till i go to bed. Im on 72 houra of stopping cold turkey i feel worse than yesterday pukey,dizzy , headache and disoriented i feel so depressed and everything is irritating.will it get better , all my brain keeps saying is have a drink and everything will be normal again . My husband says i should just have a little but i know i will want more so i cant just have a little and stop .

  32. My boyfriend is 14 he just turned 14 this month and he took pain killers pretty much ever day and recently has been taking morphine he also drinks alcohol and tonight he just randomly through all of that away,I’m sooo worried do you think he’ll be okay?

  33. I’ve been drinking atleast a fifth of whiskey everyday for about 2 years. I don’t want to drink anymore. I don’t know what to do. If i don’t have my bottle with me at all times i panic.

  34. Hi guys I am happy to say I’ve been sober for 3 months now it has been one of my hardest challenges each and every single day being a struggle and challenge but with the support of my family I’ve been strong and hanging in there. I started drinking at 18 out of depression and rejection from girls I always wanted but couldn’t have I thought smoking weed and drinking would make me cool and somehow wanted by these girls man I was wrong. I completely spiraled out of control the last 4 years constantly drinking and smoking everyday. Now the question I have is even tho I did drink and smoke everyday I still never blacked out or was a heavy drunk yes I had my 3 or 4 beers a night but never lost control. This lifestyle did end me in the hospital about 3 months ago from the weight gained I had made from the carbs I would intake everyday. From the point I had no choice but to quit cold turkey I didn’t accept it at first but now I’m blessed to say it was the right choice although I haven’t felt my normal self in months I know I will. In the mean time my withdrawal has been terrible from not being able to sleep well constant evil and bad thoughts feeling of numbness itching and burning my anxiety has been so bad I usually can’t go anywhere without my parents or someone I trust now the first two months were terrible but this last month has been great although I sometimes feel amazing one week and then terrible the next my question to you guys is what caused me to have such bad withdrawal symptoms? And how long do you think I could have it for? Now I am 5’8 300 lbs but I am active I walk everyday excercise and do work everyday. And to everyone starting this process i can tell you this has been an amazing journey I will never forget how hard it’s been which means I will never go back to those habits have faith and pray to our lord above without him nothing can done. Thank you and have a blessed day

  35. My ex-husband quit drinking cold turkey 13 days ago without informing anyone he was planning to quit drinking. Six days ago our daughter discovered that he was hallucinating badly and extremely disoriented. He has now been hospitalized for six days, and has made very little progress. He has no idea who his children are or where he is. What are the hopes that he may recover?

  36. i went on bender for about 4 days (about 30-35) beers, before that 1-2 aday though I have gone on benders in the past, how long could these withdrawals go. i have noticed I’m not shaking as much. It’s been 2 days since my last beer. Thanks for any help

  37. Recently quit alcohol for 10 days now, the first few days was when I felt depressed like crazy, experiencing symptoms of withdrawals and I did go to the hospital and they gave me two bags of IV and Valium and gravol, recently I still haven’t had any appetite and still have anxiety attacks.. I’m only 20 and I did drink heavily, at least a bottle of vodka, 6 pack of beer, coolers that I’ve mixed with vodka almost everyday for 2 months. I used to be a occasional drinker after my grandpa died in 2014 but worsened this year, anyways my hands and feet are always clammy and cold.. All my tests from the hospital came back good, I was prescribed Valium to help with the shakes but I don’t want to depend on it and end up getting addicted to that and go through withdrawals again, these withdrawals feel never ending and I hope it doesn’t last for too long.

  38. Hi my name is shantelle I’ve been drinking since Thursday today is Sunday I had my last drink at 4am this mourning will i pass a alchohol screening Wednesday?????

  39. I quit cold turkey I know I know after 2 weeks of 750ml vodka each day, nice binge – day one sweats chest pains the shakes you know what you expect day 2 panic attacks much of the same day 3 got better day 4 fine now except waves of panic attacks twice today so not that bad also can sleep tonight hopefully Tom day 5 back to normal p.s never drinking as much again all about moderation also so glad to live in Canada as if I really need for seizures and Dts the hospital is free thank god never came to that although during sleep had twitches that would wake me up hypnotic jerks I believe they’re called…. Good luck to all
    Sheryl all depends on your body weight and tolerance , you will experience a flu like symptoms but I highly really doubt you’ll be a severe case , from what people say it’s really really hard to get Dts unless you never eat and just drink all the time , they reall over exagurate them but still take them seriously however

  40. Good day my name is Laney 45 years old and have been a wild girl since I was about 18 travelled a lot went to college however I have abused my body for a long time I’ve also took yoga rode my bike almost every day ,scuba diving traveling very active traveling I’ve had a wonderful life but the last two years then hell. Anyway I began drinking every day and I’m trying to detox and my hands are numb and I am scared I am a mother of one beautiful son I drink wine I was drinking vodka everyday for about a year and it was not my cup of tea lets say. I’m on day 12 of my detox I’m taking the emergencies and getting as much sleep as I possibly can is there anything else I can do besides check myself in is there a home remedy I can do at home please help me I’d appreciate any of your efforts pace

  41. I am 60yrs old female and my drinking progressed to daily for the last 12mths. I had my last drink 16 days ago and now have had a severe headache for the last 4 days. What can I do

  42. I have been drinking whiskey for more then a year now. I want to quit NOW! What will my side affects be like? I. Can drink 750ml in 3 to 4 days easy.

  43. If someone drinks twice a week for 25 years and then stops cold turkey will they experience withdrawal symptoms? I.E. More emotional than usual.

  44. My husband has been diagnosed with dementia. He drinks 3 To 4 glasses of wine a day. He is 81. He becomes very angry and threatening when I try to put the bottle away . The Doctor has told him he only wants him to have 1glass a day as the alcohol has a very negative effect because of his condition. I am at a loss at this time. Do you have any suggestions as how to handle this. His drivers license has been suspended and I am the one purchasing the wine. If I stop I am afraid of the response from him.

  45. What are your thoughts on tapering off of alcohol rather than going cold turkey? These DT episodes sound absolutely terrifying. I have been drinking at least a pint of whiskey every night for about 10 years. I was reading about cutting the intake by 80% to 60% and so on rather than spending time and an embarrassing “vacation” from workfor detox, even though it is offered. The support organization is called HAMS. Perhaps you have heard of them. I have been diagnosed with a fatty liver about 2 years ago, so I need to resolve this quick. Tonight I was reading through the forum after trying to go cold turkey today. It gave me so much anxiety, I had to take a walk to the liquor store to get a half pint.

  46. I had been drinking from last 15 years but from last two years i had start drinking heavily from morning till night but from last 10 days i had stopped completely but the problem is that i cant sleep in the night,fell very depressed and fearfull in the morning my legs start shaking gong to office and cant concentrate on my work,is this a withdrawal symptom and how long will it affect.Please reply as I am feeling very panic.
    My Sgot is 58 ans sgtp is 77 ,Is this very fearfull

  47. My blood pressure is entirely way to high n my heart is legitimately pounding thru my chest. I stopped drinking cold turkey for 32 days, and relapsed just a week ago. My question is if I drink a few shots, will it reduce my blood pressure?!? I mean, my blood pressure is high from withdraw cuz I am a binge drinker everyday smh… Thanks for ur help if u can…

  48. Hi everybody, I have tried over and over to stop drinking and seems like a bad event in life makes me hit the bottle time and time again. I know now it hurts my family also to see me buzzed but this past Monday did it, got into an accident with my cousin and missed work and forgot to take my kids to school. Tuesday I was hanging pretty bad but walked around, Wednesday wen to work feeling bad for myself, Today feeling better after reading this blog that I’m not alone in this fight with alcohol, thx, day 4 I can be stronger

  49. Hello to all and congratulations for making the choice to quit. It sure isn’t easy and requires work every minute of every day for awhile. I’ve been drinking off and on for about 40 years I think. Sometimes going for months at a time drinking as much as a liter of wine or a couple pints of hard liquor every day. I’ve quit a couple times over the years but for very short periods (month or so) then right back at it. I am now about 30 days out from what I plan to be the last time. I’m determined not to drink alcohol again. My question is… Is there anyone else experiencing an overall feeling of illness and exhaustion to the point of having to lay down for hours at a time. I’m not surprised at the irratibility and anhedonia, depression, sugar cravings but feeling so ill most of the time. Not sure if this is normal. Any advise is sure welcomed. Good luck to all.

  50. I have been a drinker most of my life. I am almost 53. I have a neuromuscular disorder called PARAMYOTONIA CONGENITA. I do not drink and drive, but I can drink 1/4 to 1/3 bottle of vodka a day! Well today I started on a weight loss program with my Neurologist. I haven’t had a drink since 1 am. I’ve been shaking really bad all day. My blood pressure was 139/94. I’m surevim having withdrawals. My question is what do I need to do at home to calm my skaking down? That seems to be my only problem!

  51. Hi. If you drink a bottle of wine every night would Yoi get withdrawal from stopping. I have not drank for 48 hours and so far no withdrawal? Thanks

  52. Renee, You are so young, get sober and stay sober, get help. Dont let alcohol ruin your life, BECAUSE IT WILL. I am 57, and have had it good over the years, but drink has totally destroyed my life. So far I have been lucky TOUCH WOOD, but as I age I cant cope with alcohol like I used to. It also destroys the lives of people around you. What my husband and family have put up with from me is so unfair. Mood swings, voilence, illness, selfishness.
    You will never have any friends, you will never have any money, you wont have a normal life, because alcohol destroys ALL relationships.
    You can get meds from your doctor to stop you feeling like a drink, you can also get meds from your doctor to ease the withdrawal symptoms.
    Get all the help you can NOW, and you will lead a loving clean normal life.
    What i’d give to turn the clock back, and be your age, I WOULD NOT TOUCH A DROP. good luck?

  53. I have drank alcohol since I was 14. Became a problem at 16. I am now 21, and started detoxing. I drank 5-7 days out of the week, consuming wine, vodka, beer, Gin, rum. Today is day two being sober. My symptoms of alcohol withdrawl include, Anxiety, Itchy skin, Exhaustion, Insomnia, but thoughts and dreams, i have a Bad sense of smell, anything makes me hurl, and I smell alcohol, vivid lucid nightmare, Thirsty. I havedone self detox before In september, I went 28 Days Sober, but this time just seems worse, any tips on medications that Can stop these symptoms, or at least ease them? I am hoping to finally over come my bad drinking and become sober.

  54. I have had a alcohol problem for 20+ years. I dont drink spirits, never have. Just red wine, I have stopped and started on and off for years and never had withdrawal symptoms. One time last year when i stopped for a while i got a sickly headache each morning, but thats all for a couple of days.
    I didnt drink for 4months last year then started when on holiday in september, red wine every evening when dining. When i returned home I slowly but surely started on the red wine again, my max is 1/2 bottle always between 5.30pm and 7.00pm, wierd I know, but this is how its always been, I drink when preparing the evening meal.
    I drank 2 big large glasses of wine at least 5 days a week up to Christmas, and then about 3/4 a bottle every day over the festive season for about 2 weeks. I then stopped, and have been dry for 5 days now, but this time I feel very heavy in my chest area, a very anxious uneasy feeling, almost a scared feeling, nothing really terrible, but its not gone unnoticed, and some rapid heart beating from time to time. I always stop drinking at the start of the year and get fit and excercise for 4months before my holiday, then i will have red wine again on holiday with my evening meal, and maybe a cocktail before dining, then when i return from holiday stop again.
    I find my holiday a great big look forward to, and I am worried now that I may have to have no alcohol when im away? I know i went to 3/4 bottle a day on the run up to christmas, and continued without a break, what do you think?
    I feel fine today (my fifth day). I have never been a good sleeper, and seem to get my best sleep from about 6am to 10am in the morning, I have never had a good nights sleep in years if I drink or dont drink??? any comments, happy new year to you all xxxx

  55. I drank half a bottle of vodka half a bottle of morgans spice and about 8 bud beers last night I drank water and ate, I drink once a week only but I bing drink and look forward to the next week when I can get my fix, I think I have poisoned myself or are having withdrawel symptoms, my body is shaking I am dozy my chest is tight I feel numb I feel faint I feel panic and fear and I am afraid that I will die on my sleep that’s if I fall asleep when I try to I jump up like the feeling you get when your falling of a cliff I stoped drinking about 11pm last night and it’s 5pm just now what can I do, I have ate some bananas and yoghurt and glass of milk and I am drinking water

  56. Been drinking since I was 17, but only socially on weekends. Around late 20’s, I was drinking more like 2-3 days a week with getting “drunk” once. And then mid 30’s father died and after that all down hill.

    44 now, and for last 2 years have had 2-3 beers everyday with probably 6-7 or even 8 1x per week. So much easier these days with “double IPAs” other than trying to do it with Bud.

    This is my second “detox” The other one was an infection I had in my ear that was super bad so I had to take the anti-biotic for 2 weeks with no beer.

    Words of wisdom…the second time the effects are easily 2x the first. Its not like trying to quit smoking where each time is about the same ( I smoked from age 23 to age 32). Day four now of going cold turkey:

    Tingling in fingers and toes
    Face is flush, left side kind of numb
    Twitching in muscles
    Racing heart

    What helps: EXERCISE. Walking, running…swimming…anything. Its like magic. And so is mint tea or just water with lemon. Tons and tons of water.

    So I realize now I have a very bad additive personality and I’m curious if I can have 2-3 beers once or twice A MONTH and be in control of it. With the smoking, what I do is smoke on the 4th of July and when I go camping I’ll have a cigar 2-3x per year. ZERO desire to smoke the next day but I think with beer it might be different since I love it so much.

  57. My Dad has been a drinker for as long as I can remember (and I am 45). Just recently he was arrested for his 2nd DWI in less than a year. While in jail he started going through detox ,so bad the jail took him to the hospital. That was 3 weeks ago. He was released from the hospital back into jail custody and then they released him to my brother. My question is, how long does detox usually last and is disorienration normal even after not having any alcohol for 3 weeks? I am concerned that something else might be going on with his health, should I be or should I just chalk it up to him being an alcoholic?

    1. Hi, Frances. If you have have questions about addiction treatment and your options, immediate help is available. Call the helpline displayed on our site to speak with a trusted treatment provider. Also, you can check SAMHSA’s Treatment Locator: to find treatment center near you.

  58. Hi..I’ve been a drinker for 23 years usual daily intake 12 bottles of beer 2 bottles of wine. I had 3 days off and had liver count blood tests. My doctor said count was very high. My question is am I able to have a normal blood count within 2 /3 weeks. No alcohol and plenty of fruit vege water and fibre instead 🙂 ?

  59. Today I am 5 days sober. I first drank at 13. I’m 32. For the last ten years the only time I didn’t drink was in jail. Anywhere from 6-24 beers a day. I have a headache tonight. I think my blood pressure is fixing itself. I’m done drinking. Not for my kids, wife, family, or career. For me. It’s not really a headache just top of head pressure. It feels good to know my body is correcting itself. Lemon water helps. My sight seems better. If I can do it so can you.

  60. Been drinking since i was 16, im 42 now. Had my first detox seizure back in 2006 at least i was sitting on the couch with my wife…went to the ER had an mri and ct scan done…dts were a bitch but bearable. Second one in 2010 same deal as 1st but had to add exrays as i had slammed the bridge of my nose on a very heavy butcher block. Dts about the same. Now i have had my 3rd and i know to be final relapse with you gessed

  61. LIBRIUM LIBRIUM LIBRIUM. Can’t stress that word/medication enough. It probably saved my life since I would experience MAJOR withdrawals only a few hours after my last drink. I was a 24-30 pack of Natty Ice a day kinda guy. I would drink literally every second of every morning boo and night around the clock. This went on for almost 2 years. Then my body started letting me know, its time to quit. I would have every symptom you can name. Hallucinations, Seizures, massive massive anxiety, migraines, vomiting, dt’s. I was hospitalized once. Only to walk out the door and get more booze. The symptoms wouldn’t quit until I chugged a 6 pack. I was living on the edge of life and death. Torment and pain had come from something I thought was bringing me joy and happiness. So I went to my DR. She prescribed me ativan. It did absolutely nothing for the withdrawals’. So there I went again, drinking. A few weeks went by and I stayed drunk until I ran low on dough. Then bam! Here we go..again. Back I went to the DR. And this time I suggested we try Librium after doing my own research on google. Well she prescribed it and I took it with the mind set of this is it. If this don’t work idk what ill do. Well guess what. It didn’t just work, it saved my life. NO symptoms whatsoever. Librium was a gift from God. I quit cold turkey that day and taking it one day at a time, I’m planning to remain alcohol free for good. Good luck everyone who is suffering and if at all possible, try Librium. I can almost guarantee it to work for you. But then again everyone is different.

  62. Hi.. Im 164 cm 56kg.. Had a few biz trips … Had wine 5-7 glasses with 2pint -3 beers kilkenny / guinesss stout -two days every week for about 4mths. Dranked ard 4pm till 12-1am Rested and skipped 2weeks within the 4mths. Binge 1 -2glass / week on average.
    Came home to after 2 days with diarhea & clusterheadache. Drag 2weeks with terrible headache and bad breath , eye twitch , depression & anxiety since my last drink.
    Had electrocyctes 2-3days with multivitamins b , cleared my headaches, but my heart starts to palpitate loud. Highest pulse 91 only a day but average 74 .
    Now heart clears but still have a little shoulder ache n very very mild tension on d forehead.

    Its my 7th week now.. Is it normal?

  63. Hi, I’m currently on day 7 of not drinking and feeling pretty good. I would say I was a heavy drinker for about a year but the last 3-4 months I drank a bottle of wine almost every single day. The only days I didn’t drink was when I binged drank the night before.

    Day 4 & 5 were hell. I had a minor panic attack and had symptoms associated with a heart attack and it scare the crap out of me. That night I also had a very disturbing nightmare, but that was the only one. I decided to quit cold turkey and have no insurance or funds to pay for treatment, but on day 7 the only symptom I have is night sweats. I’m wondering how long these will last and if this is a good sign that this is my only symptom after 7 days.

    I still fight cravings but I do want to quit for good and realize how dangerous this can be so I don’t want to go through this again. My irritability is gone, which was really bad the first 4 days. My shaking has decreased over the course of the week as well.

    Can anyone tell me if having night sweats on a regular basis is a normal temporary symptom? Thank you in advance for your reply 🙂

  64. I have been an addict to almost every drug in the book and the best advice I can give is to smoke marijuana when coming off of another substance. Weed is mentally addictive yes but its side effects are a lot less severe and is much easier to stay away from with just determination so unless you are spiritually weak and completely unable to control yourself with compulsive behavior, (which some people are and its not a bad thing it is just a fact of life ) this method has proven highly successful for me through all forms of addiction. If you feel this method would not work for you there is various treatment centers that truly do help but you gotta weed through them and find one that promotes activities that you truly do enjoy

  65. I am like many of you, I’ve been drinking for four years. It started as wanting just a buzz and do my housework. Than I thought that’s a great feeling, so I started drinking more and more, until I was drinking one gallon of wine a day.than it was whiskey, vodka 100 proof, non mixed by the way. All straight. And 34 case of 6 point beer, I have experienced with drawel nightmares, I saw many a time, satan himself. It frightened me so I quit, but went right back too it. Over and over again. I also had seizures that scared my husband too death. I’m surprised that he’s still here. Bless his heart, he always helped him me.

  66. Hello I just stop drinking I am a heavy drinker me and a co worker worker would buy a case everyday I would finish about 9 after work then finish the rest of the 12pk @home then drink the beer that was left from yesterday I have been drinking like this for a while it was just on Fridays then escalated to every day this is my 2nd day sober but I have to say I feel depressed, I feel like I don’t know wat to do with myself it is crazy cuz it only been 2days I dont even have a taste for food but I do eat just feel out of my head in a average week I would drink a 12pk a day and a 2 cases on the weekend I do have a big BELLY which all my family are getting worried for me I cant say I dont want a beer cuz I almost slipped today I am going to try and stay strong but it is hard

  67. I love drinking red wine and I think I have handled it, for the most part, really well, its been fun! I drink way too much and I know I do, about two bottles of wine per night every night on average. At my doctor’s Sept 11, my blood pressure was 180/100, so I started monitoring it at home (where it started at 200/100) and cut out the alcohol to see if it helped- and exercised and ate right blah blah blah…. I quit for 4 days, then drank for one, one off, then drank again, my blood pressure went up to 170/100 again. Found this site, and others, I guess I have withdrawal symptoms which means I have now a huge problem and can’t keep drinking the way I like to:( My blood pressure is hopping around, I am sweating a fair bit (but menopausal so it was hard to see at first), I have been feeling sick and nauseous. Sometimes a bit shaky. So I went 4 off, 1 on, 1 off, 1 on, and now 3 off. Does this count as tapering? How much longer will I feel like this, and is it still dangerous? I am scared when I think how close I came to a stroke or heart attack, could I still have one detoxing? My blood pressure is now down around 120-148/ 85-100, its a bit high in the morning (145/100) which is kind of creepy. my pulse is OK but races and pounds a bunch. When am I safe to relax? I feel like an idiot now, that I should have seen this coming, isn’t denial great? Now I can only drink a bit socially occasionally, and never let it escalate again or next time I will probably kill myself detoxing ouch….I never thought it could happen to me….right? lol… Any helpful suggestions? I won’t see my doctor for two weeks- do I need to check in to the hospital now or am I almost through this? Thanks for reading:)

  68. I am a male who drank for 15 or so years and am 36. I have had bad withdraws and even when I go months clean and then slip up for a weekend, I now get them. My concern is I finally stopped 18 months ago and started eating perfect (no meat all veggie) and training for a marathon. I was real focused, but then I started getting leg and arm twitches, not so much spasm (which I can get after a long workout). They will not go away and they can be seen on the surface. If you search it, a lot of bad thing like ALS and other things come up. I been to the doctor many times and got blood work to check different levels and all good. I added meat back in to diet and took magnesium pills. Nothing worked, so I wondered if it is withdraw. Is my brain /muscle use to a full load of alcohol and now twitching for the relaxer? Have other had this and if so, for how long before they went away. I my drink habit was bad where I could eat one time a day or more and drink a half pint or pint of vodka most days during some periods of my drinking. So, I am 100% i had some malnutrition. I had years off and months off in between the year where I ate good and took vitamins and those times were fine. Only other change this last time is I had a a Hyperthyroid and they gave me treatment (radio iodine) to kill it and then put me on thyroid replacement. So, that is the only change my body seen other then age. Since the twitching will not go away, I get bad anxiety thinking the worst so i have since been off and on again drinking. It seems to be less twitching when I was on again but that could be because I just ignore it easier. Just looking and praying that I can move on and stop dragging this along. I was doing so good but this unexplained twitching that goes to every part of my body is not letting me relax and focus.

    Also, thanks everyone for your stories and successes!

  69. hi, I’m wanting to detox hopefully in my own without having to go to a detox centre, I drink anywhere from 6 to 10 drinks a day for the last 6 years, I also smoke quite a bit of pot as well daily, I be always struggled with addiction since I was 13 and am now 30 I feel like it’s time to change I’m slowly killing myself and it’s no life. I’ve never had to detox from alcohol before so I guess I’m wondering is this going to be safe to do at home

  70. my husband has been a heavy drinker for at least 10 years now. About a month and a half ago he decided to quit and started going to nightly AA meetings. After about a week and a half, he was deployed for 3 weeks to another country. The last night he was there, he drank. At first he said he felt horrible about it and that he was ashamed of himself. Since he has been home, about a week, he hasn’t drank but he sleeps all the time, is negative (more than usual) says that he is pissed because he just wants to drink and was happier when he drank and doesn’t understand why he can’t drink now. I know this is probably for people with alcohol addiction but I don’t have anywhere to go. I am just wondering if this is part of the withdrawal. I understand that it is his issue and I need to let him deal with it, but it has become our issue as well. I completely support whatever decision he makes (I’m hoping for the sober but will take what I get after 10 years of marriage) I just don’t want to crack and tell him “whatever makes the man I married come back” if that makes sense. Please help…I’m loosing it and don’t know how to handle this.

  71. HI, My husband has been a drinker for 20 odd years and has landed up in hospital on 3 occasions, the last time he was told he was just 2 days away from death. I’m glad to announce he hasn’t had a drink since leaving the hospital 5 months ago. He has these wee bouts of memory loss where he forgets what he was about to do and goes into a wee trance for a few minutes or so. Is this just side affects of the alcohol and if so how long will it last?

  72. Thank you for the advice. I know I need to tell him. I hope it does not delay my surgery. I am in a lot of pain, which is another reason I drink so much. I would rather drink than take the pain meds. Please keep encouraging me and holding my hand.

  73. You need to tell your doctor without a doubt, and you need to tell them Asap. I drank for 25+ years 4/5 nights a week. I have stopped now because I was rushed into hospital with stomach pain a few months ago. I told them about my drinking because I was scared of any meds or treatment they would give me that could cause me more harm than good. I was embarrassed to tell my doctor, I was worried what he would think of me, I was worried about the surgery reception staff, the dispensary staff, the nurses and the local gossip in the small village where I live. I got such a fright when I was taken ill, and I now have changed my total attitude towards having a drink problem. I don’t care anymore what the doctor might think, or anybody else it’s my problem and I used to be ashamed of myself just like you are. The thing I have learnt since I told my doctor about my drinking, is that I am one of very very many people who have to admit this to their doctor, they are dealing with problem drinking, drug addicts, solvent abuse, all sorts of addiction problems every day. Years ago it was different, but if everyone came out of the closet the surgeries would be chockablock with people. Tell your doctor he won’t judge you that’s what I used to think, he’s dealing with this kind of problems 24/7 do yourself a favour. X

  74. I am having surgery soon and will be hospitalized for 2 to 3 days. I’m worried that I will have withdrawals in the hospital. I am too ashamed to tell my doctor. Can I slowly cut back over the next three weeks and not have withdrawals? I started drinking every evening after witnessing something horrific in 2010. About half a bottle of rum per night.

    1. Hi Cowgirl. You need to tell your doctor if you drink chronically. It can affect the surgery and if you need to be put under anaesthesia it can cause side-effects. Tell your doctor, so that you may find a safe solution together.

  75. I had a drinking problem for about 5:6 months everyday I was drinking vodka jack Daniels lambrini and beers? About a month ago I started getting withdrawal syptoms and havnt drunk for 3 weeks only had 2 little sips within 3 weeks for a month Iv been getting hot and cold being sick feeling sick headaches and since I havnt been drinking iv got really bad anxiety and keep thinking the worst? Am I over it or is something bad going to happen? I’m 18 years old! In that month i felt like I was in a dream being sick breathing was different only syptoms I have now is feeling sick and really bad anxiety just wanted to know am I over the stage now as really worried something’s going to happen

  76. I am in recovery and am reaching out to others now. I have a question because I don’t trust a friend’s word who is states away in an altered state with alcohol. I don’t see him so I don’t know when he’s being honest about the length of time abstaining from alcohol. He believes he MUST have early stages of MS or Parkinsons. I believe tremens to be his true ailment. He says he made it 30 days and was still experiencing trouble with tremens. I at my worst did not experience more than 4 days and was to the point of hallucination a couple times. His symptoms all point toward withdraws but I still encouraged him to see specialists to rule out MS or Parkinsons. If I were to assume he truly stayed abstinent for 30 days, has anyone ever heard of such lasting withdraw symptoms?

  77. Hi just a quick question I’ve suffered anxiety/depression issues since about 14 and heavy drinking and alcohol dependency have crept up out of no where, I’m only 27 and I’m currently cutting my dose day by day, is it normal to feel like ya really lost in your head and almost feel like your dying ? Really unpleasant but trying too stay strong

  78. Hi there, I had been drinking heavily (2 bottles of wine a few times per week) for about 10 years. I don’t know what happened, but I just stopped and didn’t want to drink anymore. It’s been 18 days so far. I haven’t had a craving at all.

    My question is – I did not have any w/d symptoms the first week. I felt completely normal. The second week is when I vomited slightly and started having headaches. I’ve been incredibly tired this past week and feel not clear headed. Last night my muscles would tense up then relax. I had restless legs and my head just feel so swimmy. I felt intense pain all the way to my bones. This happened after 17 days. I feel kind of wacky in my mind today – my reactions to things are a bit overboard. Is this all normal this late in the process? I’m surprised about last night and last week with the vomiting.

    Thank you!

  79. I had been drinking regularly for years and recently stopped. It’s been 4 weeks now and I really have not experienced any withdrawal symptoms aside from extreme tiredness and headaches is this normal?

  80. What’s wrong with me I had a big drink on Saturday it’s not Thursday evening, I keep having hot sweats almost like panic attacks I can’t concentrate and I’m really thirsty

  81. Hi.. iv drunk alcohol for years..few cans a night then usually a lot more on the weekend. I had dizzy spells for over a year now so I went to the doctors and my liver enzymes where raised so iv quit drinking through the week all together and just have a few over the weekend. . I’m still feeling dizzy/tired/lethargic and this is the 3rd week .my head just feels like it’s filled full of pressure and I’m in a bubble .is this withdraw symptoms? Thank you

  82. Ive been free of the devils juice for two weeks,my nightmares still coming strong my headachs even stronger but am commited on being alcohol free for the rest ov my life.l was sucidal l was beating up my 4year two year ashamed of the last 6years ov drinking morning to morning,l jst stoped and dats it am never going back there not even a sip alcohol robbed me ov 6years of my life n relationships its tym to stop n its now so ifu r out there n some how feel the some,pliz join me on anew n beta journey to a beautiful alcohol n its side efects free life. The blog has been very helpfull

  83. I find that this helps if you are trying to stop drinking, if only for a week:
    Remove or discard anything in your home that you associate with drinking. For me, that means all alcohol, cigarettes, ash trays, keeping ice cube trays empty or hiding them, discard limes, any mixers, hide lighters, etc.
    Make 5 post-its and put them around your home. All you have to do is put an exclamation point on the post-it.
    Don’t call your family or friends. They have heard it all before and they know that you drink too much and they have busy lives. Go to an AA meeting if you need support or company. Just listening is a BIG help for many people.
    And read, read, read all you can about alcoholism. Read until you are blue in the face.
    The first 48 hours suck. Hang in there!
    One week without any alcohol is a gift from God.

  84. Hello, i drink wine every night, not the point of fall down drunk. I am wanting quit soon. What medications if needed would i ask my md for? Do i even need meds? Could excercise help with any withdrawl symtoms? Thanks for any help, brian

  85. Hi Dave if you are about, I would really appreciate some advice. I went so long without a drink, but to my dismay I drank nearly every night for a fortnight when on holiday, then started again when returned home 2/3 bottles the first week back. I had a very distressing holiday with a big fall out with family who have been really cruel to me. Anyway that should not be an excuse it was up to me to nit drink.
    I am back off it again it’s been about one month without any so far, and I intend to stay off for good, my husband totally refuses that I have any excuse to drink, and he’s right, just wish I had done something sooner.
    I was admitted to hospital early hours in the morning with terrible pains abdominal, back,right side, I thought I was having a heart attack.
    I was told I had raised maylese (white blood count) and deranged liver function tests. At first they thought I had pancreaitis, the pain left me after an hour or so.
    After an ultrasound scan which showed gallstones that is what they put it down to, I am awaiting a follow up appointment.
    When I was having the ultrasound I heard the radiologist say to a student she was teaching that I had a fatty liver.
    I asked her about this and she said with life style changes it can be put right.
    It was never mentioned to me by the doctors at all, in fact it was never mentioned again.
    I went to see my GP when I was discharged and told him I was worried he said it can’t be reversed and to lose weight and go on a low fat diet. I remember been told some time ago that from drinking for so long that I would definitely have a fatty liver.
    I am now out of my mind wondering if I have chirossis, and if it’s to late to do anything. Just don’t seem to find anyone who cares to discuss anything with me. Apparently my bloods were still raised when they discharged me, any advice greatly appreciated xxx

  86. Good evening. I was a pill head for years and have been tapering of suboxone for some time now. I starting drinking a few glasses of bourbon each night to wind me down. I’ve now been doing that for approximately 4 months. I’m concerned I’ve done it so much I will be thrown into withdrawals if I quite. Can you guys give me any advice or heads up on what I will go through. Again it’s been just after Easter of this year when I started. So really I’ve been doing it for three months. Anyhow. Thanks in advance for y’all’s help.

  87. Hi all, I am hoping hoping one ( or some) of you can give me advice on a safe at home taper schedule. I have been drinking approximately 3-4 ” standard” drinks, occasionslly more for about 2-3 years now. So basically about 1/2 to 3/4 bottle of red per night. Sometimes less. I know, like many of you that I only drink this amount because I hear these horror stories of what withdrawl will be like and want to stop but do not want to go through this going cold turkey. I have heard of some successfully tapering off at home using alcohol and beer mostly. I have 2 young children and leaving them to go to a clinic is not an option unless as a VERY last resort. I already have anxiety/ panic disorder ( have had it my whole life) so the thought of going away and leaving them and what it would do to them, is half the problem. I have support around in the way of having my mom come here and stay with me-to help with withdrawl symptoms… My husband is supportive but he has a company to run and just could not handle the domestic end of things. I will hire a nurse to come if I have to if I need meds… I just really would like to do this at home. I am so scared about having DT’s or other major sypmtoms it’s hard to wrap my head around what to do. I am so used to doing things as I do. I know I have had a problem for some time and I also know that there are a lot of you out there who’ve had situations similar to mine, or far worse and I’m just looking for some advice. Thanks and I commend all of you who are willing to share your stories with us.

    1. Hi Jennifer. Beer is the best form of alcohol to use when tapering off (wine or hard liquor are not recommended). Try to limit yourself to drinking no more alcohol than necessary when you start tapering. Drink just enough to keep the sweats and shakes at bay. Gradually reduce the consumption of beer as you continue to taper. There is no universal tapering schedule because people, as well as their drinking habits, vary greatly. It is also very important when tapering off to fight dehydration and to replenish lost vitamins, so drink lots of fluids, Gatorage and take multivitamin supplements. Also, ask the pharmacists at you local pharmacy to help you by recommending herbal remedies or over-the-counter medications that can help you endure withdrawal symptoms.

  88. I’ve been a binge drinker in social settings since I joined the military 14 years ago. Never seemed to be a problem for me because I’d have weeks, months and even years at a time where I wouldn’t have access it and that didn’t bother. Two years ago however after my last deployment and new job with a lot of down time if fell into some really bad habits. Dinking almost daily some times up to a bottle of hard alcohol. At some points I would taper off when I felt withdrawal symptoms just to fall back into unhealthy practices.
    This Saturday I had a huge way up call after two straight days of almost straight drinking. I woke out of a dead sleep and was sick vomiting, shaking, with a pounding heart and sense of complete doom. It frightened me back to reality. I felt really fatigued, jumpy, and socially withdrawn the next few days but still able to conduct my daily business. I havnt had a drink in four days and feeling significantly better even after exercise. I’ve removed any alcohol from my possession to avoid any temptation.
    What I’m wondering the most is besides the insomnia and nitemares which has kept me up since…..should I be worried about any significant delayed symptoms? I know the most common response to this would be go consult a doctor but I refuse to out of fear of affecting my career.

  89. Hi daniel,

    First, I want to say that you sound like you are very strong and determined, and have shown before that you can overcome the addictive powers of alcohol, so I’m confident you will get through this rough period! Keep up the abstinence and the anxiety will pass.

    Second, if you are worried that you have done damage, then that is a clear sign to see a doctor! You mentioned high anxiety and I imagine thoughts such as those are not helping.

    You are going through some classic withdrawal symptoms (physical and psychological), which is common when drinking has been stopped suddenly after a period of heavy drinking. Do not feel too proud to tell your GP about what you are going through, as withdrawal symptoms can reach dangerous stages up to 5-7 days after stopping drinking in some cases (rare), which require medical attention. Remember that it is your GP’s job to provide you with care and sound medical advice, regardless of how you got to the state you are in. He/she may prescribe you some anti-anxiety medication while you are going through withdrawals (a benzodiazepine), which will help alleviate the symptoms you are experiencing, or may refer you to a specialist to discuss anxiety and develop tools for overcoming anxiety. You really should have a proper assessment done to ensure you are not entering dangerous withdrawal stages and to see if medication is needed (and to help you through this rough stage).

    The anxiety and insomnia will persist for some time as you brain adjusts to no longer receiving the relaxing effect of alcohol. Essentially, your central nervous system is in a hyper state now, as it is used to being calmed by alcohol, and will take time to readjust. But it will happen if you stay strong! To help with this, I can suggest some natural remedies from a pharmacy: valerian root and melatonin. Valerian root will aid in relaxing your body and mind, and melatonin will help you establish a regular sleep cycle. Both have shown to be quite effective in helping people who are suffering from sleep problems.

    It is worthwhile to consider seeking help from rehab or AA, as this is not the first time you have suffered from heavy, problem drinking. Alcohol is an extremely powerful substance that some people have a predisposition to developing an addiction to. At this stage, rehab might be the best option, as it is clear you were using alcohol to self medicate. In rehab you will learn alternative strategies for dealing with stress and trauma in life. AA works very well for some to strengthen their resolve not to drink, and to meet others who are recovering, have been down similar paths and who can understand what you are/were going through. An initial rehab followed by regularly attending AA meetings would be an extremely powerful approach to removing the dangers of alcohol on your life or those who love you.

  90. Hello everyone, I’ve been drinking a bottle of white wine everyday, for a month. I want to stop but I’m worried about how severe my withdrawl will be…. I’m not stranger to addiction because I am an addict… Should I taper off? Detox is out of the question I can’t afford it… I don’t know what to do. Also my husband has been using cocaine and beer pretty steadily for about a month as well. I want to get sober but I don’t know if he is ready… Anyhow, that’s a different question for a different blog. Back to what I was saying… Will I have serious withdrawl? 30 years old average weight. Nothing but wine. No hard stuff… Let me know guys! Thanks

  91. Hi guys

    I am 27 an up until last year October I had drank for years but particularly for the last year then I didn’t feel very well I also got very fat. This lead up to as I said Las October when I finally went to my GP. I had a liver function test and I had done quite a bit of damage to my liver an was told if I carried on drinking I would die. This was such a shock an I stopped straight away in two weeks there had been a improvement and the by two months my liver was back to normal I then still carried on being sober till my nan died were I started here an then drinking agen. It was sober for about four months an felt the fittest I’ve felt for years. I now since my nan died slipped right back into my old heavy drink pattern till Friday were I got hurt because I was so drunk an had been on a four day binge an had a few bad falls. I have completely stopped again since Friday evening but feel soooo anxious I’m also getting terrible shakes an pins an needles in so scared as I’ve always suffered with high anxiety will I start feeling better I haven’t gone back to my GP too afraid an arm I cant even sleep I know I will not touch a drink now I’m strong enough an determined enough just now paranoid I’ve done damage again or worse wat to do? Also do I need help like AA or rehab

  92. Hi Kay,

    If your boyfriend is going through withdrawal, then he is likely experiencing a roller coaster of emotions with a lot of discomfort. It is completely normal for one to tend to shy away from others during withdrawal, as they will become anxious, irritable, sad and generally upset. This behavior is very common among those experiencing withdrawal symptoms and it may take a while for him to rebound and become his old self again. The alcohol has altered his brain chemistry and he is now going through a period of resetting many things in his body and mind, which can take some time. Please try to be patient, not take any irritability or distance too personally, and support him through this process. Good on you for being there for him!

  93. Hi Donna,

    First, I would suggest that she seek the counsel of her doctor with open honesty about her drinking levels, as even ‘smaller’ amounts of alcohol dependence can produce severe withdrawal symptoms. Her doctor will know her medical background and may prescribe a benzodiazepine to help combat any withdrawal symptoms, or may suggest a particular plan for her to follow.

    Alcohol affects each individual differently depending on a number of factors; therefore, it is not possible to definitely say whether or not your friend will experience withdrawals (or of what severity if she does). That said, given the effect that alcohol has on the central nervous system, brain chemistry, and subsequently, a person’s general demeanor, it is likely your friend will experience some mild to moderate withdrawal symptoms. These may be in the form of tremor (the “shakes”), nausea, fatigue, mild anxiety, GI upset, difficulty sleeping, increased pulse, headache and others over a course of 1-5 days. Your friend may experience fairly manageable physical withdrawal symptoms; however, as someone who is dependent on alcohol, she may find the psychological symptoms to be more unpleasant and longer lasting. These will be in the form of irritability, anxiety, difficulty sleeping, general disinterest in normally pleasurable activities and sadness.

    In order to help your friend, I suggest making yourself available for emotional support and offering her distractions from drinking. She will need to take her mind off of her routine, so perhaps planning sober things you can do together for the first few days (provided her physical withdrawal is not too bad) is a good plan. Also, to help alleviate withdrawal symptoms, let her know that: magnesium, b complex vitamins, milk thistle, GABA, valerian root, a multi-vitamin and electrolyte replacement drinks with proper nutrition can go a long way in addressing some of the deficiencies she has likely incurred from that level of drinking. And if she does not want to see her doctor/does not want to confess her level of drinking, you cannot stress enough the importance of her seeking medical attention should her symptoms become severe! I have seen people undergo severe withdrawal on what others would consider “social drinking”, which required medical help. She will need to be honest about the amount she has been drinking in order to receive proper care.

  94. My boyfriend recently told me he has drinking problem I have been trying my best to give him all the support I can he try quite by his self… My worry is that he been very distance to me is this something that happen when your going through with draws

  95. i wish i could quit. i want to. “well step 1 is wanting to”.. whatever. step 1 never materializes into step2 – actually starting. i can’t even force myself to start a day 1. tonight i’ll go to bed begging to try. tomorrow i’ll wake up with a “clear” mind and oops, kick the can another day, i’ll start drinking. trust me. i promise.

    i only come to this site when i’ve been drinking all day, when i finally reach my honesty intoxication level. you won’t find me tomorrow morning on here. tomorrow i’ll wake up fresh, feeling fine, and crack another case of beer to celebrate my happiness. that’s just it, i drink when i’m happy. that’s practically worse than drinking because you’re sad. sadness goes away with time. happiness fills all other moments, the majority of moments for me. i enjoy drinking but i have no proof of what’s so fun about it. i drink too much now to notice any subtleties. or probably actually i don’t NOT drink long enough to notice any. i just drink. always.

    i feel like i’m in a league of my own. i can’t find any info online (besides this forum) for drinking problems at this level. i drink 24 beers every single day. that’s insane! i’m typing this at 8pm after all day drinking, just as clearly as i would type it if it were first thing in the morning as i have a cup of coffee. i dare not say “first thing in the morning when i’m sober”. i know better. i exist with some level of alcohol in my blood at all times. i’m never truly sober. alcohol in my veins 24hrs a day, 7 days a week. i don’t get drunk. i’m drinking to medicate. all there is to it. i can tell you it’s noon without even looking at a clock. BAM, light switch, liver says DRINK. i know all of this. yet even knowing it, knowing the level of awful this situation is, i continue doing it. day in, day out. i won’t try to quit tomorrow. i have no interest in quitting. no motivation. at least not until i’m “fully medicated” like i am now.. then the truth comes out as i’m doing right now. i then admit interest, i admit concern. motivation. etc. day in. day out.

    i know what it is. i’m waiting for someone to quit for me. that’ll never happen. but will that knowledge make me suck it up and quit tomorrow? no. it should. but it won’t. i want it to. but i won’t.

    doing a lot of searching online, most material i find just discourages me. maybe 1% of you drink or used to drink as much as me, but it’s really hard to find you. i’d sure like to talk to people like you who can relate to this “senior level” critical drinking problem i’ve caused myself. everything i read online, searching for some way to rationalize, i can’t find anything beyond the proverbial “if you have more than 2 drinks a day you’re what doctors and scientists call an *alcoholic*”. ooh.. ahh.. so what do scientists and doctors call an alcoholic who pounds 24 beers every day and can still recite the alphabet, still make complete sentences, wake up the next morning feeling FINE, hasn’t had a hangover in years? there’s no word in the dictionary for specimens like me. i might as well be the walking dead to them, i guess. that’s how i feel. probably true too.

    i can’t talk to someone that has an alcohol problem because they binged 3 nights a week. sorry, no offense. but i LIVE drunk. i EXIST drunk. i act the same way all day, all night, alcohol does NOTHING to boost my mood or behavior, yet i slam beers down one after another just to keep my liver and brain from setting my soul on fire. and worst part is no one even notices it. they’re pissed because “i’m lazy, i’m unreliable, i’m unavailable if it requires driving. all very valid reasons to be pissed. but nobody is pissed at me because i drink too much. why?? i want that!! i’m not violent. i don’t pass out. my child is well fed, well dressed, outstanding grades and behavior in school. my wife and i don’t fight. so what’s the big deal? i just effing drink all day and all night while i produce all these positive results. i behave, i respect, i work hard, so drinking isn’t a problem…” yet the irony is it’s really MY ONLY PROBLEM!!!! but nobody notices!!! why??? i’ve tried to tell them it’s a problem. they tell me “then just quit”. well ok then. abra-cadabra, why didn’t i think of that. i quit. tah-dah! i’m cured..

    i don’t know wtf to do. besides the obvious, “just quit”. but how? don’t drink tomorrow? ok sure, piece of cake. why didn’t you say so earlier. i won’t drink tomorrow. there, that was easy. i quit tomorrow.. just like i always have.. 1 minute before i start drinking again tomorrow, just like i always have.

    i can’t make this leap on my own. all there is to it. i’ve proven that to myself thousands of times over.

    i don’t really know what i’m saying or asking for here. i’m avoiding the truth of the matter that only i can do this, but i’m also admitting how much i suck at even giving it an honest shot. i guess this rant is just me asking someone to cry me a river and bake me a cake. it’s so frustrating. something as simple as “don’t drink tomorrow” is not only epic impossible for me to even try, but epic impossible for me to even understand how/why i can’t/won’t/haven’t tried. nevermind the non-drinkers who can’t comprehend it. i’m the blazing alcoholic who totally agrees and can’t comprehend it either. wtf?? “don’t drink tomorrow…” OK. I WON’T.


  96. Will a person go through withdrawal if they have been drinking two to three glasses of wine every day for the past two years? My friend is an alcoholic and has been good for about 30 years,but the doctor told her she could have a glass of red wine for her heart, which she has been drinking, but now she is drinking more. She realizes she can’t do this and admits she is an alcoholic. She plans to go to AA. Which helped her the last time. I want to be able to help her if she will go through withdrawal. What can I do?

  97. Luthando,

    So glad to see your response, and so soon! I’m glad of your decision. I’ve been on that merry-go-round so many times I’ve lost count.

    Why is it that we alcoholics can do well not drinking and suddenly life starts looking up and the first thing we think of doing is having a drink so the ‘good’ becomes ‘better’? It is amazing to me how absolutely cunning and downright evil this addiction is and how our mind will tell us the most outlandish justifications to encourage us to drink…yet we know very well, deep down in our soul, exactly what will happen once again.

    The only way I can ever put into words what alcoholism is, it’s a ‘Demon’…it truly is! It’s a genuine part of our personality that has an incredible amount of control over our own well being and we are SO SO helpless against it once we take a drink. Seriously, if there was such a thing as an ‘exorcism’ for the demon alcohol we’d all be the better for it 🙂 But, such a thing does not exist and we have to rely on our gut strength and the strength of others to pull us through.

    Be well, Luthando. One day at a time, sometimes one hour at a time, and sometimes it’s even one minute at a time…but the day’s turn into weeks, and the weeks turn into months, and the months turn into years and your life will continue to grow and be better and stronger with each day that you remain a sober person.

    God Bless,

  98. thank you dave much appreciated and you are right , think i better not drink at all even if i think i can handle it and even when ive done so well without it for four months and started slipping again . but thank you again for the truth and concern and i will keep everybody posted every week if not monthly on my progress to ensure thAT i dont slip again or think that i can handle moderating drinking when no alcoholic can especially a recovering one like myself . things are finally going so well in my life and the last thing i need is this louzy addiction to spoil everything again.

  99. Luthando,

    Be very careful with your experimenting with drinking again. You obviously are already concerned that you are relapsing, and if you have a concern, then it’s probably happening. You have to be honest with yourself.

    I quite and started many times in my 25 years of drinking. I would go as long as six months and then thinking to myself ‘AH…I can handle this now’. NOT! It would start with a drink or two and I would feel satisfied, and I would say ‘Now I can handle this’…NOT! You will find when you first pick up a drink after a period of abstinence that you will very quickly feel the effects of alcohol because your body has not had it for awhile, two drinks satisfies you….but believe me, that will not last for long.

    Within a month you will find yourself slipping more and more, and eventually you will be right back where you started from. I’ve done this to myself many times, and I’ve seen this happen to dozens of my fellow alcoholics. Once your an alcoholic you are an alcoholic for life. Your choice is either to drink or not to drink, there will be no moderation.

    I will say this much….I did have to prove to myself that I could not drink normally…and maybe that is what you will have to do also. Us alcoholics can be a hard-headed bunch and only by trial and error do we eventually prove to ourselves what we are.

    Not being mean…I’m just telling you the truth and laying it on the line.

    Be Well,

  100. Congratulations Soberasajudge! 100 days is awesome!

    My first trip abroad being sober (of all places, Italy)….nope, I didn’t touch a drop! I drank fizzy water and drank a whole lot of coffee 🙂 You do not have to drink on your trip. While others had their vino, I enjoyed hot coffee and a couple of awesome pastries and I was more than satisfied. That sugar kick has satisfied many a alcohol urge for me over the years. For me, sugar must release something in my brain…soothing, calming, happy, content.

    Be well and be careful 🙂

  101. hi its been four and half months since my last drink , now im lying its been three days but only had in moderation with my cousin when to visit him and i feel like ive really learnt how to control my drinking but before then i ddnt drink for four and half months and im scared that im going back into it even though im happy i ddnt over drink like i used to last year . since then ive been having these huge urges to drink more but i keep fighting them by doing other things or praying . i just hope that im not in relapse or anything .

  102. Still not had a drink about 100 days or 3 months now. Has it been easy? yes it has I am amazed. I have at certain times felt like I could murder a lager or a glass of wine but not as often as I thought I would. I still feel very tired, and my memory is hopeless. Was hoping to have the confidence to start driving again, but I still feel not alert enough. My GP wanted me on statins as my Cholesterol was high, I had my cholesterol rechecked today so I am waiting for results. GP said the alcohol could be causing the high count? So I am interested to see if it’s come down now. I was also told my tricodolites (sorry spelling) not sure? We’re rather high what ever this means so I am interested in seeing if they have come down as well. I have done all this and tried so hard yet I know that when I go abroad next month I will have a drink, it’s just so crazy this demon alcohol how it messes your life to such extremes x

  103. Congratulations Lynn and Rich on your decision to recognize your drinking and to do something about it. I just celebrated my 6th year of sobriety on April 14. I can tell you, you will be glad you moved forward from your drinking and have decided to be sober.

    Rich, I totally understand your wanting to drink a beer, and if you can go 7 days without one then you are lucky to not be having severe withdrawals. Lynn, same with you. 14 days without drink and you are feeling euphoric (this can be followed by depression)…but keep the faith and know your on the right track. It takes T-I-M-E for your body to fully and completely detox from alcohol…not only physically but psychologically. In face, the physical withdrawal is only one step in the process….that psychological one can take awhile. I found that through my first year of sobriety I had to deal with every single event where I use to drink. Birthday’s, 4th of July picnics, Halloween parties, Christmas parties, or a big snowstorm where I’d be housebound for a few days was one of my favorite times to drink…..each and every day I had to learn to get through that day without alcohol. After I had completed that first year then I knew I could do it again… one day at a time! I know that’s such a cliche’, but it’s so so true!

    Most importantly, steer clear from the people who you use to drink with. I will not lie, I had to give up a few of my friends (dear dear friends) who were heavy drinkers and found my wanting to be sober a bunch of nonsense. Actually, I do not think these people were alcoholic, they were just heavy drinkers (there is a difference), but I knew that I had a problem and that I had to alienate myself from certain places/times/people in order to go forward and maintain sobriety.

    That being said, joining a support group is an excellent resource. I did not do this…but I wish I would have. I joined AA just this past winter! AA provides a place to share what you are going through and what you are feeling. What is particularly great is that they usually have meetings going on at key ‘drinking holidays’….a place for YOU to go and be safe. This is not something you may choose to do forever, but for those first months/years, it is there to help you get through those particularly difficult times. You may decide later that you do not need to attend meetings, but you will know that if you ever find yourself ‘thinking’ or ‘yearning’ a drink, that there is a safe place to go and discuss your feelings before you act on your impulse.

    Alcoholism is forever. There is no going back, there is no ‘I’ll do it just this once’…it is now a part of the very fiber of your existence and a strong one at that! You can choose to ignore it, but the demon will then appear. You can choose to address it and work on it everyday, and the demon will be kept at bay.


  104. Ive been smoking marijuana,cigarettes and drinking heavily for ovr 30 years !! (Im a 48 year old woman)!! My guestion is , ” do i stop everything cold turkey , or do i stop gratually ??? IM SO AFRAID I MAY HAVE A SEIZURE.!!! Need help from someone that was in a similar situation and has been able to quit ……need.a plan………..thnx !!

  105. I have been drinking an average of 20 plus beers a night for over 20 years today is my 7th day without I’m on lorazepam if find its really helping me but i still really want a beer but I think I’m going to make it without

  106. I have been drinking for 15 years on and off but for the last 8 years it has been more so each night, ranging from 3 strong cans of Lager to 2 bottles of wine but more often than not a bottle of wine at 12.5% alcohol volume. I know the reasons l was and the affect of trauma’s l experienced but l decided to take my power back. I am now day 14 free of the poison and felling pretty euphoric most of the day but then quite fatigued and irritable with a dull, not painful headache. I am drinking liver detox herbal tea’s and milk thistle to cleanse my liver. I have just come across a book by Dr Patrick Holford called how to quit with out feeling Sxxt (how it is spelled on the book.)The book actually is about all sorts of addictions from smoking, tranquilizers to cocaine. I am finding it really helpful and have just started taking the amino acids today, i will keep you posted how the next week-weeks go.
    I have been taking the 5HTP for sleep and this really helps along with valerian, calcium and magnesium (from the book). It also gives formulas of different Amino acids to help rectify the damage done to the neurotransmitter of the brain. Just wish l had of have all the amino’s in before quitting the poison of alcohol.

  107. Hi there,I have just stop drinking which I used to drink every night to help me sleep but now I’ve got pains in my back,,is this normal please

  108. Hello Angel,

    Congratulations on your 5th day…and I hope that you will continue on with your sobriety. It would be great if you can seek counseling or join a local support group (AA), which will help you tremendously.

    Concerning your dizziness and feeling weak…you really need to see your primary care physician as soon as possible. These may not necessarily be signs of alcohol withdrawal, your symptoms are also warning signs of taking tenormin.

    Withdrawal can last anywhere for a couple of weeks to a couple months, depending on how much and how often you drank. I think typically 30 to 50 days most people are through the worst of it. Do not hold being an alcoholic back from your doctor, he/she needs to know the truth and they will not judge you but will congratulate you on your stopping the drink. They may even be able to point you to a direction for counseling and help. More and more doctors are becoming familiar with alcohol abuse and are far more knowledgeable about it then ten years ago.

    Take it one day at a time….baby steps will lead you to giant steps. The first days are the hardest but the reward of living a clean and sober life is so worth it. I have now been in recovery for nearly 6 years and my life has change dramatically in so many wonderful ways.

    God Bless,

  109. I am a alcoholic. Have stopped drinking for past 5 days but still am felling dizy and week. I take tenormin 25 mg for high bp. My bp is in total contol. Can you please Help me. Thanks

  110. i have been drinking regularly for 3 years a bottle of rum 37.5% a week. I have stopped for 7 day now and wondered how long the hand tremors will take to disappear.

  111. I relapsed after almost 8 years
    I also have bipolar and take 300mg of lithium a day
    Zopiclone at might and lorazepam
    Although I stayed of drink a long time isI anused the lorazepam as it became less effective . I have been drinking on and of for over a year now and the time inbetween drinks has got closer.. I was a daily drinker .. I have been in AA for years and done lots of device .. I lost loved ones and marriage ended in sobriety but I didn’t pick up ??? When I did nothing unusual had happened !!! I only a few days away from my last drink at the moment and the obsession has returned again !! I spend half u time thinking how to get it and the rest how to hide it … It’s exhausting.. I still go to AA but have started going to meetings where people don’t know me as well as I feel deep shame… How long does it take for the alcohol to leave the body ???? It’s hard to tell the differance between my mood .. Is it the alcohol or the bipolar??? Booze is once again my constant companion.. If not drinking, I’m thinking about it . It’s act drivinge insane!! I have been here b4 .. I’m so angrey with myself !!!! I have been in hospital any tes and even had ect … I feel a complete failure!!! What do I do .. Please help xx with gratitude xn

  112. Hello Jack,

    What a horrifying withdrawal that was! Jack, are you OK now? Did you go forward with recovery?

    I think the tremors and gut-wrenching feeling you have in your stomach with withdrawal, along with the body aches and that horrible remorse of how you got yourself into this situation is about as low as anyone can feel. I remember having the shakes so bad in the evening that I would not be able to bring the drink to my mouth…I would fix the drink and sit in on the table and lower my mouth to the glass and drink until enough alcohol would enter my system to calm my jitters down. Six or eight big gulps and within 5 minutes the jitters would be gone. When you reach this point in your drinking then you are only drinking to feel ‘normal’…to chase the euphoria is something that then requires amounts of alcohol that the average non-alcoholic person couldn’t comprehend (and would kill a normal person).

    Jack…I hope your OK now. I never had a seizure, and I never blacked out…even drinking the better part of a half-gallon of vodka a day my body somehow had built up a tolerance to it that still makes me wonder how I survived.

    Thank God, I am so thankful that my last drink is now over 5 years in my past. I know I have another drunk left in me…but can I survive another detox? I don’t know if my body could go through that one more time.

    Peace Jack, I hope you either have or WILL soon find your way back to the world of the living.


  113. It really annoys me jackslookingat, people with drinking problems or alcoholics which ever way we say it, are just looked down on like a crud on someones shoe. There is all this help and availability for people who smoke, and no body seems to think that smoking is any where as bad as drinking too much. I lost my brother to Liver cancer he was lovely the drink just ruined his whole life. I lost my dad to lung cancer and liver problems (drink related). My mum never touched drink or smoked!! so strange how different we all are, but I definitely think it runs in families, but we are looked upon as scum. I don’t look like a full blown alcoholic, shaking, red faced, untidy, nit looking after myself type of look. I often wonder how many of these people who condem us have a drink problem as well and keep it well hidden. It should all me more out in the open and discussed freely but even I after saying all that would not tell anyone I have a drink problem. I only discuss it with my husband , none of my close family know. My family knew I had a drink problem about 20yrs ago but because I don’t see them often, and because I drink alone behind closed doors they are none the wiser, and think I’m over all that. SO WRONG! but even they would condem me, people just dont understand one iota. Sorry to babble on xxx

  114. My absolute worst withdrawal was after a period of drinking one or more bottles of vodka a day. Got to the point where I simply couldn’t go out to get any more. Tremors started pretty quickly and became very bad. I was unable to walk for 4 days. Had to crawl to the toilet – and even then, I felt like I was going to have a heart attack. I was shaking too badly to even bring a water bottle to my mouth. I waited days until my mother came and brought me some ice to suck. I was too afraid to go to the hospital because I know how they feel about alcoholics and I was afraid they would keep me there and torture me. I just wanted it to over or to die. I was so afraid that I had finally got to the point where these symptoms were going to be permanent and I would be stuck in hospital forever – awake and thinking, but unable to move. After seven days I could walk if I held onto a wall or someone else. I did have a seizure though – thankfully while sitting down. It was two weeks before I considered myself relatively OK. People think ‘for godsake just stop drinking’ – it is just not that simple. You have to be very careful.

  115. Congratulations, Sober!!! 27 days is wonderful. Yes, you will have good and bad days, your body is still adjusting. One thing to remember, even when one stops drinking doesn’t mean that everyday is going to be a perfect day…you will still have up’s and down’s like everyone, you just will find different ways of handling those ‘up’s and downs’ 🙂 I know it took me awhile to learn how to handle situations and moods and life problems as a sober man as opposed to my old ways of drinking the problems away.

    Greeting’s Laura and congratulations on your 7 days of abstinence. It is amazing how subtly the addiction of alcohol can work itself into your life. Mine was a slow progression over a couple of years when I was in my early 20’s…I didn’t realize until I was into my mid 20’s just how out of hand my drinking had become….and even then it was nearly another 25 years later that I finally FINALLY did something about it.

    Just the fact that you are reading this blog, and the fact that you are questioning your drinking is a sign that you may have a potential problem. Your alcohol consumption is fairly light (in the world of alcoholism)…so your withdrawals mayl be minor. Headache, body ache, may be all you experience.

    Drink lots of fluids and take a multi-vitamin to help your body adjust. If your headaches persist I would see your doctor soon as that would not be normal.


  116. I have drunk roughly 4 or 5 bottles of wine every week for a long time (sometimes more if I have company).This is my 7th day alcohol free and I’m surprised at how much I’ve thought about wine. In fact, I’ve not stopped thinking about it and yet I never thought I had a problem. One thing I noticed was that on day 5 I developed a headache (I never get headaches). On day 6 that headache was horrendous. Today, it’s still there, but maybe not as bad as yesterday. Is this alcohol withdrawal? Or should I be worried about something else? I don’t have the shakes, or sweatiness or broken sleep … although I still wake up feeling as exhausted and dehydrated as if I had drunk a bottle of wine the night before. I’m also a bit achey. Is this normal? Many thanks.

  117. Hi Sober…are some mornings better than others? I’m asking because during the post-acute withdrawal phase there are cycles of several days which feel just as you describe. These episodes should only last for a few days, and disappear soon after they arise. Be prepared and get into counseling or any kind of support group because post-acute withdrawal symptoms can persist for months.

    Here’s how you can help yourself feel better: Your exhaustion could be due to dehydration (alcohol dehydrates the organism), so drink lots of fluids. Eat nourishing food, get enough (but not excessive) sleep, and treat your body well, also a good multivitamin can help you raise your energy levels.

  118. anybody out there???? Its 27 days for me today, I am doing fine, but I seem to find it hard in the morning only a sickly head, but my body feels so stif,f I am fine once I get up and about, I feel like my bones have dried up. I seem to be getting worse than better. I am not really missing the demon drink but I am extremely tired or fatigued most of the day (never know the difference). Am I still feeling like this due to withdrawral? or is there something wrong with me? any advice anyone regards xxx

  119. JB,

    I feel your pain and I understanding how easily a major life event can propel you from being a normal drinker into a problem drinker. Somehow I think we as alcoholics are, for lack of a better word, ‘pre-wired’ for this disease…weather it’s hereditary or psychological, I do not know. Some people are just able to drink heavily through some difficult life events and then return to normal…but there are others (like us) who seem to develop an addiction.

    Panic attacks and alcoholism can go hand in hand, particularly if you are abstinent from alcohol for a period of time. I’ve certainly had my fair share and they are terrifying. It amazes me how incredibly difficult it became to handle day to day problems without the aid of alcohol…without it I was unable to function. It does take time to recover from this.

    I think AA is a wonderful organization that has helped many many people. I know the first step into that meeting will be a difficult one. Perhaps you could possibly seek private counseling with an addiction professional to get a more personal in depth look at yourself and an addiction counselor can guide you in the right direction as to what may be the best course for recovery for you. I have no idea where you live or what type of community you live in. I know for many who live in rural areas and small towns that being ‘discovered’ can be devastating particularly with having children. Also, a professional can help you through the initial stages of detox and those rocky first few months where you may need more help than just counseling alone can give to you.
    Some people are able to detox themselves without problem while others must have medical assistance. In either event, do not be afraid…these people are here to help you and despite your fears, chances are that most people who know you also know there is a problem, they are just not saying anything as they feel it is none of their business or are uncomfortable talking to you about it. More then likely your family and friends will give you a ton of support and encouragement.


    A 40 year old who is drinking heavily and throwing in drugs with the mix is a time bomb waiting to go off….it is just a matter of time. Here’s the problem….if they have no desire to stop what they are doing then there is little that you can really do to make it happen. Not until an addict has found within themselves the fact that they need to change their lives will that ever be possible. You can preach, you can scorn, you can cry, you can beg….but it ain’t gonna happen till they are fed up with themselves….take it from me… been there, done that, got the t-shirt!

    An addict is not the only sick person within the family unit…addiction harms everyone. You fully realize this and obviously it is hurting YOU, and you need to seek help. There are many great organizations Al-Anon <friends of alcoholics/addicts, which is a group that meets and discusses their personal feelings and problems. Also, a personal counselor can help you work through what you are dealing with. Many counselors believe in 'tough-love' approach, others believe in interventions…many ways of dealing with an addict who is out of control and it's best to seek one on one counseling to determine what is the best course of action for you. But know…chances of recovery are usually low until the addict fully realizes they are out of control and want this help.

    You need to take care of yourself and not allow the addicted person to take you down.

    God Bless,

    I need to say this… I am not a counselor nor am I in the addiction profession. I am a long-time alcoholic who has been sober for 5 years. At the pinnacle of my drinking, I was consuming nearly 4 half gallons of vodka a week. I was totally functional, I worked a regular job, have a house, drove a car, no run-in's with the law (by the grace of God)… but none the less, I was totally and completely addicted to alcohol. I tried quitting many times over my 25 years as an alcoholic…more times then I can count. Sobriety was fleeting, lasting anywhere from a few days to a couple of months, but always returning and becoming worse then it was before.

    I woke up one day and realized I was going to lose it all if I did not change. I am not a particularly religious person, but I did ask God to help me. I, without the aid of AA or medical assistance, detoxed myself. This was very dangerous considering the amount of alcohol I was consuming. I went cold-turkey.

    I live in a very rural area. AA was available, but within my small community I felt very uncomfortable to become a part of that. I basically 'white knuckled' my way through detoxing and abstinence from alcohol. Slowly….I starting finding different websites like this one and sharing my story. It helps me to encourage others.

    I recently (yes, after 5 years of sobriety on my own) joined AA! After years of not drinking I was still dealing with incredible remorse for things that I did over my many years of heavy drinking. AA provides a total recovery, not just stepping away from alcohol, but it also encompasses healing your heart and the hearts of those you harmed. It is more of an awakening of spirit and to share your recovery with others.

    Baby steps…take baby steps. None of this will happen overnight. It probably took many years for you to become alcoholic, and likewise, it will take some time to progress your way out of this addiction. Just remember this all-important fact…once an alcoholic, always an alcoholic. There is never a return to normal drinking. A slip is a most dangerous thing and can quickly lead to a return of your active addiction very quickly. Even after long term sobriety, a few drinks can trigger the brain and the soul and propel you back to where you began.

    I am not saying that AA is the only way by any means. But one thing I truly believe in…if you are serious of recovery and you make it to the other side of addiction, then from there you must continue to work to remain sober. There is never any going back. One of the best things you can do to insure your continuing sobriety is to help another person who is suffering. This is not something you do right away…but further down the road you really need to extend to another what is given to you in recovery.

    Take care of yourselves 🙂

  120. hi my name is luthando and ive recently just quit drinking after years of binging every weekend heavily since the age of fifteeen , uhm i decided to stop on new years day this year due to the fact my alcohol abuse was getting worse to a point where a day wouldnt end without me having some sort of liquored substance in my body which this lasted fro approximately a month , month and half to be precise . ive managed twenty two days without a drop of alcohol in my system but yet suffering from withdrawals such as agitation and headaches and lil hallucination and the cravings, my gosh they are bad some days and some days they not as bad and i suffer from insomnia which is recent discovery . my question is how long will all this last and is it normal for a person my age , which is twenty eight , to be suffering like this .

  121. what happens emotionally? And what happens to the 40 year old, heavy drinker and addicted to opiates and marijuana all mixed together on a daily basis? What are the consequences on his health and prognosis of recovery if he refuses any help?

  122. I didn’t start drinking until my mom died unexpectedly. I was 26. I then took in my youngest sister who was 12 at the time. I had always been a little anxious but when she passed away I started having panic attacks. One so severe my husband called 911. I found that drinking was a way to manage anxiety. I somehow justified that booze wasn’t as bad as Xanax. Here I am now 6 years later and I drink EVERY single day. Sometimes I start at noon. Other times I start at 4pm. But when I do start, I don’t stop. I haven’t thrown up in several years but I wake up hungover at least 2 times a week. I have two kids of my own and can’t continue this path I’m on. I fear the anxiety that is sure to return if I stop drinking. What worked best to manage anxiety after you quit drinking? I don’t want to just jump ship so to speak and start taking prescription meds. I gotta do something sooner than later. The amount of guilt is enormous and that’s hard to live with on a daily basis. I’m considering AA but scared as hell to take that step. Thanks for any and all input.

  123. It probably is easier for you to stop drinking for the long term since you only binged on weekends and your body actually had a chance to detox itself through the week. Keep on doing what your doing and your sleep patterns will return to normal with time. Your body is probably actually craving the drink during (what was) your normal drinking times. It’s psychological, but truly our body craves things we’re addicted to when we normally would partake of them.

    I was also a smoker for many years. I could not smoke at work and between the hours of 8 and 5 I never smoked a cigarette and never wanted one….but JUST AS SOON as I was in my car and on the way home that edginess was pounding me to smoke that cigarette.
    Even on weekends when I was home, I had no desire for a cigarette at all during the day, but as soon as the evening hour approached those cravings would kick it. I think it’s much the same with drinking.

    I would not do the exercises just before going to bed. I think your revving up your body, increasing your blood flow and really activating your brain when doing these just before laying down for the evening. What I found really helped me with getting to sleep was to read a book.
    I would usually go no further than one chapter and I’d be dozing off. Make sure the book you pick to read is not some suspense or thriller type novel but something more towards light reading.

    I’ll share this story with anyone who is reading this blog. I had a sad experience this past week. A dear friend of mine who I shared a lot with over my early days of sobriety (he was sober for 18 years)!!! I had not heard from him since the fall, very unusual for me not to hear from him during the holiday’s. I received a phone call from him and he told me he just got home from the hospital. He took a drink during Thanksgiving and went into a full-blown and nearly deadly relapse of extreme heavy drinking. He’s back on the road to recovery…

    I share this with you just to remind anyone who is into recovery, even if only a few days or if your on your 10th year…..alcoholism is forever. Even after long periods of abstinence, it takes very very little to reactivate the brains alcoholic thinking and to quickly be right back where you started from….so be careful!


  124. I am the same never slleep at night, dry for 14days now still can’t sleep at night, hoping it will get better, I wake with sickly headache each morning. At the end of the day we can’t expect our bodies to get back to normal overnight after all the abuse we have put on it for years. I don’t know when a good sleep pattern will return or even if one will at all?? just got to take one day at a time, read what David advised me (couple of questions up from yours) he felt better but took 6months?? we are all different, drink different, have different diets etc lets just keep positive and try are best. good luck xxx

  125. hi , i used to be like jennifer a heavy drinker on weekends myself from the age of fifteen , im now twenty eight and stopped drinking all together after years of binge drinking on weekends or casual occasions but never daily . i have the most amazing girlfriend thats been helping me with my quitting of drinking and i do have that odd feeling or temptation of just having a glass or a beer .although i havent had a drink for the past twenty days ive been having trouble sleeping and stay up all night but during the day feel sleepy as ever can be and i dont really pay attention that much when people speak to me or my concentration span is elsewhere .I do find myself sleeping a lot during the day or feel sleepy at work and try have a power nap during my lunch breaks and i do some sort of exercises in the evernings when i cant sleep to try tire myself out in order to sleep but never happens instead just feel agitated and annoyed especially when im around people . my question is this is it normal and a withdrawal symptom??, and how long will it last ???

  126. Thank you Dave Amazing caring advice, I need to be well for my Husband has Parkinsons and he needs me well. I am day 10 and doing ok. I am throwing myself into totally revamping my home, and intend to do anything and everything myself to save costs obviously, but mainly to fight on regardless and show I can do it and that I have some worth Thanks again Dave xxxxxxxxx

  127. I hear you, Soberasajudgenot…

    I did the ‘dry out’ thing many times before I got permanently sober. I had one situation where I was going to Europe with friends who absolutely did not drink so I dried myself out months in advance with the thought that I’d be able to drink again when we returned home. The trip to Europe was great, and I was glad to be sober to enjoy it without consequences….and when we returned I did indeed drink again and it became even worse then before.

    If you are on day 7 without drink, you probably will not suffer from D.T.’s. You’ll probably be sleepless for awhile, have sweating, jitters, etc… Read some of my earlier post as I related my final experience when I detoxed myself. It took about 6 weeks to finally be totally free from any type of physical withdrawal.

    I can relate to the jitters of driving cold stone sober. Honestly, I think I was a better driver under the influence then when I was sober as when sober I was always jumpy! That will pass, and with time your nerves WILL calm down and your overall alertness and ability to give 100% attention to your task (driving or otherwise) will so greatly improve that you will not believe the difference.

    I’m not pushing AA here, but really….the slogan ‘One Day At A TIme’ is appropriate. You sometimes have to take it one second at a time, or one minute at a time, or one hour at a time. IT DOES GET BETTER!

    One of the best things I did in my recovery was to GET INVOLVED with something non-drinking related. I took up gardening. Find a hobby or interest or get involved in SOMETHING that gets you out of your normal everyday pattern (particularly during your regular drinking times).

    There will be days when you absolutely feel your dragging one foot in front of the other to get through the day…and you will lay it bed at night wide awake wanting so badly to go to sleep. This is alcoholism rearing it’s ugly head and beckoning you back. It’s indeed a demon. Keep focused on going forward…in six months you will feel completely different.

    Recovery from alcoholism is a waiting game of sorts. There are brief times of euphoria when one firsts stops the drink, but there will be many other times when it will seem like it is just easier to drink and be done with the anxiety. The ‘Grand Prize’ is further down the road, and you have to walk that path to get to it.

    Good Recovery,

  128. Hi, On day 7 with no drink. Have had a drink problem for 20years now 55yrs old now. I have stopped on and off over the years, and yes started again!!! I don’t feel really ill, very tired, and can’t get to sleep at night, but I have not had a good nights sleep for many many years, I sometimes wonder how I keep going. My husband gets up around 8am and thats when I want to sleep, so I would stay in bed and sleep for a couple of hours. I drank one small lager each night (never 2 or 3 always 1) the red wine anything from 2 glasses to half a bottle. I always drink diluted orange in the evening after drinking approx 2litres just hoping I am flushing some of the toxins out rather than do nothing. I have had a bit of nausea and sickly head ache, and just can’t sleep. I am scared I may have a fit or something hoping I am over the worse is all I can hope for. The thing is I have set a goal of not drinking at all now untill I go away in May, and then I intend to drink as moderately as I possibly can, then stop again after my holiday, this probably is a stupid thing you may think but I need to know I have a look forward to, and panic that I won’t ever have another drink ever, I’ll just have to wait and see what happens but I am trying to do something which is better than not trying at all. I find I am a bit all over the place with concentration, and having 2/3 jobs going on at the same time. Can you tell me if I will feel alert enough to drive again after a couple of months without Alcohol, as I gave up driving 15 years a go because I knew I was drinking to much, the most regretful thing I’ve ever done, apart from drinking that is. JPK

  129. Jacinta,

    If you drank 3 glasses of Irish Cream on New Years Eve…and your having dizzy spells and headaches three days later then you need to go and see a doctor. Your problem is not alcohol related…that small amount of alcohol you drank on New Years Eve was probably metabolized by your body within 24 hours of your drinking it.

    If your problems persist…go see your doctor right away…it may be a sign that something else is happening with your body.

  130. i don’t drink at all….but for new year i drank 3glasses of irish- cream along with glasses of water within interval…dats y i pressume i was not drunk …, n now after 3days, am starting 2 get persisting headaches n dizziness at night…its 2 days now…..why is dat?

  131. Hello, Started drinking around 17, 18, was only now and then weekends and was small drinks, then started going to college around 19 to 20 was still weekend drink but around age 22 and now am 24 college started getting stressful, i would drink 4 to 8 beers, around 4 to 5 days, been doing it for around 2 years now would give myself 1 to 2 days breaks, but now giving it 5 to 7 day breaks and trying to come off but little worried about these delirium tremors people keep mentioning do you get them doing heavy drinking for like 10 years or will this effect me in the future, it’s quite a scary thing to know that these tremors could happen to me after abusing the alcohol for 2 to 3 years, I had blood tests done recent to check liver function and so on and the results are clear so that’s good but reading about these tremors has got me on edge

  132. I tried many times over my drinking career to quit. On April 14, 2009 was the last time I drank. I do not know exactly why this time was different, but I certainly knew that if I didn’t stop that something terrible was waiting for me very soon, weather it was health wise or legal. Sooner or later, something will take it’s toll on you. You may get away with it for a little while…you may get away with it for a long long time….but eventually, it WILL catch up to you.
    If you are able to stop drinking for 48 hours with no severe withdrawals then you are very fortunate and you should take advantage of that (although I know that is easier said than done).
    Be sure…the drinking will only progress, and the longer you wait the likelihood of more uncomfortable withdrawals will be the end result.
    I look back on my 25+ years of drinking and I think of ALL the embarrassing things I did, to myself and to other people. I was a ‘silly drunk’, totally did and said inappropriate things while under the influence (which was most of the time). Oh God, what I put my poor parents through! I think of the hundreds of times I drove heavily under the influence and ALL that I could have had happen, I could have killed or hurt someone, I had so many close calls….but I never got caught. I cringe to this day when I dwell on it. I do not have to think too hard to find 1000 reasons not to drink. I constantly have to tell myself that I need to forgive myself for what I did. It’s hard to do. I wish…I SO SO wish I had those years back. The things I could have accomplished, the money blown on booze, the education I totally flushed down the toilet, the wonderful relationships I had with good people who loved me that I just threw away. Few from my past want anything to do with me now. That is very hard to swallow. I continue to deal with guilt and shame from my past…I live with a great deal of remorse and I will probably carry this with me through the rest of my life. My thinking was that the only person my drinking hurt was myself….how wrong I was!
    I actually stumbled upon this blog while searching for an AA meeting near me. While I have not drank in over 5 years…there is something missing in my sobriety. I am NOT healing within. The jitters and drinking sensation are gone, and have been for a very long time…. I’m missing peace and self-forgiveness and I am wondering if this is something I could find in a 12 step program. I can fast-track past the drying out phase, but there is more to being sober than not drinking. This may or may not make sense to you. Just know, living with remorse and guilt for past mistakes is painful and my hope is I can find something that will show me how to deal with this.
    If your reading this and your young or if your not so far into alcohol abuse that you have not experienced any bad things in your life yet…please stop. Don’t let this go on in your life to where you have SO MUCH happen that you later have to deal with all that I have and hold in my conscience. It’s so difficult to deal with remorse…it’s the saddest thing in the world. All I sometimes can think is at least, today, I do not drink and I do not continue to damage myself and everything and everyone around me.

  133. Hello, I’ve been ‘about to’ home detox for two weeks now. I get to a certain point when I begin to feel scared. Really scared. I’ve been reading about the idea of ‘tapering’. Has anyone tried this? Of course, it gives me permission to continue to drink, bit can it reduce withdrawal if you taper honestly and consistently? Please help. So unhappy.

  134. Thanks for the story Dave. Definitely inspiring. I posted earlier about my excessive habit. I made it two days without a drink and I jumped back in. Those two days, I felt miserable but the withdrawals were nothing remotely close to as horrifying as some of the stories on here. Yet I still fell off the bus after only 48 hours. How pathetic.. it wasn’t from nightmares, cold sweats, trembling or anxiety. Looking back, I generally felt “fine”, and go figure, my mind still got me sipping another drink before I could even realize it. The mental part is the most powerful. Anyone can put their minds to dealing with physical misery, but what an epic challenge it is to put your mind to dealing with your mind.

    For you to pull through 6 weeks of physical misery, with I’m sure an infinite number of mind tricks trying to convince you to take a sip, you sticking to it all the way through that hell is simply amazing to me.

    It definitely reminds me it’s totally possible to win this. Thanks.

  135. I stopped drinking on my own 5 years ago. I had a rough go’round with withdrawal for the first
    five weeks. Interesting, the withdrawals only hit me at certain times of the day (my regular drinking times)…and subsided somewhat after those regular drinking times passed.

    Sleep was most affected and night sweats were unreal! I had restless sleep and heavy sweats, sometimes waking up with wet sheets from the profuse sweating and water actually collected in my ears. I had terrible jitters lasting for 4 weeks.

    By week 4 most of the strong withdrawals had subsided, but sleep was still affected. By six weeks I was pretty much back to normal without incident. I did notice an incredible craving for sweets. Before I stopped drinking, sweets were never of any interest to me. Now, even 5 years after stopping my drinking I continue to crave sweets.

    I did not go to AA or to any detox program or anything else. My strong will and understanding that I had become an alcoholic drove me to quit. I knew if I didn’t I was going to lose my family and my business. The drinking just wasn’t worth this.

    After 5 years of being sober I do not think of drinking at all. My sleep is always sound and my concentration and ability to do my work is wonderful. I did not realize until after I stopped drinking how much time I spent “working” on my drinking. Criss-crossing town to hit different liquor stores during the week so never to be seen in the same one more than once a week. Constantly worried that I may be over my limited to drive…even buying a breathalyzer so I could check myself in the morning before leaving for work. I would consume so much alcohol the night before that I found that in the morning I was still legally drunk, even though I felt absolutely fine! I was constantly wearing heavy cologne for fear of smelling like alcohol. I could go on and on…but you get the idea.

    I didn’t have any excuse for becoming an alcoholic. I came from a good loving family and both parents never touched the stuff. I was never exposed to alcohol until I was in my 20’s. I drank without problem the first few years…but something ‘clicked’ inside of me and I found that alcohol gave me euphoria and false sense of being accomplished in whatever I did. This continued for twenty years. By the time I reached the point that I knew I had to do something I was consuming four 1/2 gallon bottles of vodka a week.

    Good luck and God Bless to all who are seeking relief from this terrible addiction. I am just glad that alcohol was the only thing I got hooked on as during the 80’s there were so many harsh drugs that I could have tried and were readily available but I stayed away from those. Alcohol is a demon, but it’s not the worst of the demons to conquer, so be glad of that. God bless those poor souls who are hooked on opiates…the road back for them is ten times harder than alcohol recovery.

    One thing I feel pretty certain about. If you have crossed the line of alcoholism, there is no going back. Once you finally stop and get it out of your system you best not try to drink again or you’ll be right back where you were. Every alcoholic I’ve ever known who tried to drink again was never able to control it for long…maybe for a short time, but eventually it landed them right back where they started from. Remember…this is a demon of sorts…it will fool you and make you feel like your in control, but in the end, the demon wins!

    Good Luck!

  136. My husband heavey drinker easy off the beer to one then he started drinking voka but he wanted. To stop drinking. So the second. Day he had go to the Hospital.from. stomach. Pains he had Pancreatitis infection. Then after he got withdraw DTs real bad so now than have him sleeping. For couple. Days how long dose DTs last will than wake him up

  137. I’m trying to stop drinking I still dring a little every day Bc the doctor said I can’t stop all at one time but now I getting the hiccup and nervous

  138. I stopped cold turkey! My concern is my high blood pressure. Would & Should I start drinking a few beers(5-6) a day. Going down ea day. Will the alcohol help now? Im on blood pressure meds( and hlood pressure still High. So ?, should I try some beer to help with high pressure

  139. 24 beers every day for years to cold turkey today. i’ve been reading all day, sounding like i’m in for a real interesting experience if i don’t do the taper method. i’m 18 hours in now, been a long day. waves of anxiety, adrenaline, nauseousness, exhaustion, etc. but bearable so far. i still haven’t had a drink. question is if i taper, when should i start? right now i’m pushing myself to go a little further (minute by minute) without a drink, do i wait til it’s unbearable and then have one? or should i start medicating now before it gets that bad? some of these withdrawal stories practically make me scared to go to sleep tonight! thanks in advance.

  140. i decided to quit drinking cold turkey its been about 24 hours now and ive just experienced some anxiety here n there im also on librium to relieve the anxiety if i was going to get any severe withdrawals shouldnt i know by now i feel ok just wondering

  141. Hi im a 28 year old male who just quit drinking about a week ago. I drank for about 9 years straight but took about a year and a half off drinking when I was 22. I noticed that I was getting allot of anxiety attacks in my early to mid twentys. I have been rushed to the hospital or had ambulances show up on numerous ocasions due to my severe anxiety. I never really thought that my anxiety was caused from alcohol untill recently. I actually narrowed down every single anxiety attack I ever had to alcohol withdrawl. Its an important thing to know how and what symptoms to look for about alcohol withdrawl. It started off with severe anxiety when I was hungover things like a fast heartbeat my face and arms would go numb I would get tunnel vision it was hard to breathe and it truley felt like I was dieing of a heart attack. Knowing it was withdrawl actually recently put my mind at ease . I was so ignorent to the fact I was drinking so much poising my body and then getting anxiety dureing my hangover the next day. It was pretty much my body telling me I wasnt treating it proper. Im telling you my anxiety attacks get so bad it feels like I was fighting to stay alive i wouldnt wish them upon anybody like level 10 out of 10 severe anxiety. I noticed last time I quit drinking I got anxiety for about 2 weeks after I quit then my attacks stopped which was actually withdrawl lol but I didnt know. With this new look at life my plan is to quit drinking for a year straight then keep it down to about twice a year kind of thing. I noticed drinking bringing me down I got lazy and never took my kids anywhere enough is enough im almost 30 its time to grow up kind of thing. Anyway I would like to share one of my best rremedies and methods of fighting my level 10 severe hangover anxiety attacks. I found that dureing a bad attack when I ran a hot shower and actually sat in the shower changeing the water from hot to mild cold one minute on each temperature it actually relaxed me. Lol I know it sounds crazy but useing water as a therapeutic way to fight anxiety has been proven by scientists and many doctors around the world. Like I said I get nasty intense near death anxiety attacks I tried adavan valume the list goes on and the best method I can suggest is thus shower technic. Dont mock it till you try it I bet anything it will work. Im hopeing to quit drinking get through these anxiety withdrawls and live a normal healthy life. I wish all of you the best of luck and I hope my anxiety method I shared with you does and is as effective as it is for me. Good luck to you all thanks for your time.

  142. Someone who has been addicted to alcohol for over 25 years had stopped drinking. It was about 2-3 months and seemed doing well. Then went on a very heavy bing for about two weeks. He has stopped drinking for about 3 – 4 weeks again but doesn’t seem to be recovering as well. He is still shaking and very tired, depressed. Taking B vitamins and starting multivitamins since he’s in need of them. But can anyone give any indication as to why he is still shaking and what can be done to help the shaking stop?

  143. I am a woman of 51 who has never been a drinker before although I have had other addiction issues ( mainly opiates). In the past four months, after the unexpected death of my 56 year old husband, and then my father soon after, I suddenly started drinking these very fruity tasting drinks I discovered. I have always hated the taste of alcohol. Anyway I recently was shocked to learn that these 23.5 oz cans were the equivalent of 4-5 shots of 80 proof alcohol, and I have been drinking 2-3 a day. My question is this: will suddenly stopping this amount make me suffer any ill effects–eg. DTs, withdrawal, etc. Thanks for any help I can get.

  144. Hi Jennifer, everyone is different but I have spoken to people who have had withdrawals from having 2-4 drinks every day and if the alcohol was strong then you were probably having some mild withdrawals but to be on the safe side I would have a few lower alcoholic drinks over a few days and then you will be fine hope that this helps.

  145. Is this formum still going? I have some questions.
    My husband has been a heavy drinker for a long time. Has had 3 seizures within a span of 8 years from alcohol withdrawl. He’s recently had the last one a week ago after binge drinking for 4 days straight. The doctor said that he could have 3 to 4 beers a day and that would prevent him going thru the withdrawl and seizing…
    It makes me nervous when he drinks bc I’m not understanding how drinking those 4 beers a day wil help when he’s been drinking mostly liquor for a while now. Will that really prevent him from having the withdrawl that brings him to having a seizure?

  146. I’ve been drinking at least a pint of whiskey every day for the last 20 years. I was always able to maintain, I never drank during the day or afternoon, only in the evening. And I drink a lot of water to counter balance the booze during the day. It slowly caught up to me and wore me down more and more and I was 50 pounds overweight too. I quit about two months ago.

    I was different than other people in that alcohol kept me awake. When I was drinking, I would feel tired at 8pm and start drinking, the tiredness would go away and I would stay up until 2am.

    First thing that happened when I quit was that I would sleep at 8pm and I was tired and exhausted all the time. All day long. My dreams and nightmares the first few nights were astounding. Very vivid and real. Going to bed was an adventure. I didn’t really have any physical withdrawals other than feeling tired and groggy all the time. My stomach feels better, no more heartburn.

    Every time I felt like a drink I would just repeat to myself, “It’s only a beverage. It’s just a beverage.” and sometimes I would pour myself a fresh cold tomato juice to sip on while I watched TV or a movie.

    I am still very exhausted and tired, it might take me a while more to catch up on my sleep. I think alcohol disconnects you from your body. My body was screaming I’M TIRED all those years but I drank at night and couldn’t feel it.

    Just put the alcohol away, it’s no way to live. It’s just a beverage. Be done with it.

  147. I am a chronic alcholic I was in hospital 5 weeks ago and found out that I am at the second stages of chorisis of the liver I had my stomach drained of fluid since coming out of hospital I have carried on drinking I drink from the minute I wake up to the time I go to bed I drink k cider at 8.4 percent plus vodka and also the odd shot of whisky my legs are now swollen again and so is my stomach Ip

  148. Hi,im a strong beer drinker for almost 5 years…and now i stop drinking for over 2 suffering anxiety,how long it takes the anxiety to go away?thank you..

  149. Hey folks I was a long time heavy drinking alcoholic, I have now been sober for coming up on 2 years and still sometimes feel sort of withdrawal symptoms. Anyone who is quitting I can tell you it is well worth the effort, it is very trying at times but worth sticking with it. I have spoken to people who just stop by themselves and this I would not recommend as dangers of seizures are very real always seek medical help, Alcohol is legal and the most dangerous drug there is withdrawal symptoms can kill. Going cold turkey from other drugs i.e heroin will make you feel very unwell but will not kill you alcohol will. If I can help anyone going through a hard time or be of any help please feel free, take care and god bless.

  150. @Mike I usually rarely comment on this things, but I wanted to send you a “thataboy”. Getting off the amount of opiates you were taking is a huge undertaking, especially considering you still have to pain! I realize your post was well over a month ago, but I hope you have been as successful with booze. As a recovering drunk myself, I know what your going through, you will feel “normal” soon. Your body has been through a s*** storm, but it will recover, hang tough! I didn’t have a terrible problem with physical withdrawal as much as learning how to do things sober. After a decadeish if drinking close to a liter of whiskey a day, 5+ days a week I didn’t remember how to live. Even after being a multi-decade experienced (and very proficient) guitar player I felt like I was learning to play all over again, which sucked. I didn’t know how to watch TV without a big glass of Four Roses, pay the bills, do dishes, clean, etc. Hell, for a long time I couldn’t carry a phone conversation as they had all been done drunk (remembering about 50% of them). But, eventually I figured out how to live again. And by far my favorite thing to remember was getting in the shower at 5:30am before work and not be be a shaking worthless mess. Keep trucking, it gets better! Carpe Diem!

  151. Been drinking heavily for nearly 3 1/2 months. Im 23. I used to drink heavily as a teenager for almost 2 years and stopped cold turkey. 4 years later I started up again. I started off only needing like 4 beers to get a good buzz, but after 3 months im up to 15 beers or 1 pint of hard alcohol, with only 1 day breaks in between. How could someone reach that tolerance in such a short amount of time? It amazes me.

  152. if someone does quit cold turkey and starts having siezure and halluci.ations shortly after how long would they have those symptoms and are they fixable

  153. I am 7 days now sinc my last drink. For years I have consumed liquor or wine usually daily. Sometimes up to 5-6 drinks each day. I experienced hangover type headaches every morning since I quit. My question is; why am I so thirsty? To the point that my lips and tounge feel like they are drying out. I can’t drink enough water to make this go away.

  154. I have been drink heavily for the past ten year a 24 pack a day plus wine and some times liquor I quit a week ago after I died of an alcohol/ drug over dose I have been drinking kava tea and taking kava capsules which really help after I finished tapering off I could not do anything barely made it threw work after research I tried kava I still feel somewhat sick but no shakes or puking I get a full nights sleep and I’m not all pissy I would recamend people who are trying to quit to research it and see if they feel it is right for them I have tried many things in the past year never making it past two days this is the furthest I have ever made and feel as if I will really make it this time

  155. My boyfriend is suffering from alcoholism. He has not drank in 5 days, I think. He is very off. Seems confused, slurry, with no direction. Appears mentally ill. Is this normal for coming off the alcohol? Can someone appear drunk but be sober, after long term use?

  156. My boyfriend of 5+ years has recently decided to “not drink at all for 2 weeks straight.” The 2 weeks began on Monday (last drink was laaaate Sunday night – technically early Monday morning) and it is now Friday night. He has been, for lack of a better word, a complete jerk for the past 3 days and I was just wondering if this is a typical side effect of alcohol detox or if I’m just finally seeing the real him. Also, if it IS the detox talking, how long should this symptom last?
    I’m hoping after 2 weeks he’ll realize he feels much better (physically but more about life in general) and will continue his sobriety.
    If anyone has experience with this situation and can share some insight with me, I’d really appreciate it!!!
    Thank you!

  157. I drank mikeys 40 ounce, started from two 40 ouncers till I tolerated 3 some times 4 if I smoked. I had that cycle for about 4-5 months took Xanax, like 5 bars a day for a whole week, I decided to stop drinking and stop taking those pills. I stayed sober for a hole day but at night I couldn’t sleep and the next day at night I felt like passing out, i got a deja-vu feeling every 2 to 5 seconds, and I’ve been dealing with anxiety after that. I’ve been sober for 3 moths and I still get anxiety. PLEASE!!! Help me by answering my question is this anxiety gonna be Permanent????

  158. My fiance is currently being detained for a few weeks before being released. He’s an alcoholic , his consumption of alcohol consists of 24+ cans of beer per day. It was rare to see him drinking anything but beer. Waking up in the night…and also, his morning drink with hot sauce and pickle juice. Long story short, we speak on the phone and he seams to be okay. I have not asked him how he is feeling . He is now ten days with no alcohol. He always said he could quit if he wanted to, this, however, is not his choice but being detained he cannot drink and has no access to alcohol. I will ask him today how he is feeling as I know at home it was a routine vomiting every morning. I do not want to call the facility and alert them to watch him. He would be furious as he is shameful of his habit already. That being said, he’s ten days dry, should I be concerned about withdrawal symptoms? What questions should I ask him about his health and tell him to watch for?

  159. My husband quit drinking about a month ago with the help of Valium, but the symptoms continue (memory loss, weakness, sleepiness, he’s sometimes convinced someone said something when they are not); I am afraid he is suffering of what they apparently called warnicke encephalopathy; anybody dealt with this and can help? Is it reversible? We are going to the doc today (neurologist).

  160. Does anyone have experience with detoxing from alcohol using valium? My husband is taking it but it seems that, even when he does not take it , he’s groggy, sleepy, he mumbles instead of talking, he forgets things (he took off his glasses and put them in the pile of branches that was then taken and “chewed-up” but the garbage people), he’s very unstable when he walks and often doesn’t make any sense when he talks. He took one yesterday evening and today he was still as I described it. Can valium last so long?

  161. Hi I have been drinking for aproximately 16 years, I am 31. I have had my short periods of not drinking ,but would smoke a massive amount of weed during those intervals. I have tried to constantly quit but have failed multiple times,Went to AA numerous times and just never worked for me,went to therapy which helped a little.I have always been somewhat of a loner, just stick to myself kinda guy. Really humble dont bother no one, I mean dont get me wrong ,I like to interact and hang out. Just started piicking the habbit of drinking alone in my late 20s. Luckily I have a wife and 3 kids. So im not completely a hermit I guess. Well I started getting pain in my right abdomen like 2 years ago and went to docs, had ultrasound blood work, nothing was found they just said I had a mild case of pancreatitis. So continued drinking anyway. The pain kept coming back after my binge scattered weekdays. I have had this pain checked 5x thinking it was cirrosis or something like that. I finally said forget this alcohol madness. I have been so hypochondriac. and stressed that I finally quit. I have been sober for 14 days now. and the pain comes and goes very mildly. but I think its from all the years of my abuse that my organs are like STOP! I have gone cold turkey and signed up for the gym.taking milk tgistle,turmeric,multivitamins,and alot of sweat,and jesus christ. I love my family and alcohol demons were in my blood, curropting my mind. I only wish I would have quit many years ago. You can do it! ask god for help. Commit yourself.

  162. Anybody who quits cold turkey is an idiot or incredibly naive. not only are you risking your immediate health but your health down the line. A bad cold turkey withdrawal will often lead to PAWS (Post Acute Withdrawal Syndrome)


    1) Go to a detox clinic
    2) taper down as low as you can at home and then stop. Going staright from drinking 2 bottles of wine an evening for 5 years to nothing the next day is INSANITY

  163. My daughter is a alcoholic she has been off the alcohol for 12 days but her whole body aches how long until these body aches go away

  164. hi im sober 28 days now went cold turkey! physically feel better but mentally drained. very tearful ashamed and cant bear negative people around me. will this stop soon! im getting help and trying to stay positive but its sooo hard!

  165. Hi I really want to stop drinking. I am 34 and an alcoholic. I’ve been drinking for 20 yrs on and off with periods of sobriety. I was on some severe pain medicine because all my joints are deteriorating but detoxed feb18th from the opioids. I recently began drinking heavily to compensate for the lack of euphoria I was getting from 8 30mg oxycodone, 2 80mg OxyContin, 8-8mg dilaudid, 2-12 mg exalgo, 4 10mg of Valium daily. I’ve been tapering my alchol intake daily. Today I’m ready to quit. It’s been 12hrs since my last drink I’m just wondering how long it takes to feel normal again.

  166. Hi. I used to drink to every day but its just for a good night sleep. I only give myself sometimes a jigger, and sometimes half a liter of Jack D. It’s like my body welcomes this drink as a sort of water and I love it. I crave for it every night. Am I considered alcoholic for this? I’m on a broken family, my Dad died last year, I’m an only child. And from that, will I have this withdrawal if I decided to stop this ???

  167. Hi. I used to drink to every day but its just for a good night sleep. I only give myself sometimes a jigger, and sometimes half a liter of Jack D. It’s like my body welcomes this drink as a sort of water and I love it. I crave for it every night. Am I considered alcoholic for this? I’m on a broken family, my Dad died last year, I’m an only child. And from that, will I have this withdrawal if I decided to stop this ??

  168. My advice to all. DO NOT DRINK. It almost killed me and I watched my husband die right before my eyes from alcohol. He got up off the couch were he had been sleeping, walked into the bathroom to the sink, threw up, turned around and fell down in front of me onto the floor and died.
    So please don’t let alcohol still your life and or take the life of someone you love. I’ve been sober for one year, three months and eight days. I did with Gods help and the prayers and support of my family and friends.

  169. Thanks for that JMD and for the encouragement. As time progresses I’m beginning to enjoy this new found (or regained) reality more each day. But I’m angry at myself now that I didn’t kick the demon many years ago, but better late than never I guess.

    Family and those close can see the massive difference kicking the habit has made in me and this too is great encouragement to stay dry.

    May I wish you all the very best of strength and good luck also in your efforts to permanently kick it.

  170. John, I have had those similar symptoms due to alcohol withdrawal. I went and had a complete check up with my general practioner, had a complete eye exam and dental check up. This made me feel much better knowing everythig has checked out well. This sense of heightened awareness is just reality. Your body was use to being desensitized due to the alcohol induced brain fog. Staying away from caffiene and alcohol and choosing a healthier lifestyle has definately helped me alot. I am working out daily. I started Juicing using Kale, spinach, apples,carrots and lemon (tastes ahhhkay but definately is an energy and brain booster). I also have incorperated DDP yoga into my new lifestyle. Stick with it John, You can do it!

  171. Hi, I have been drinking 1-2 bottles of wine a day for the past week. My last drink was 7 hours ago. I am 43 and in good health and was wondering what I should expect withdrawal-wise. I have an ativan scrip handy for anxiety because that’s been my main experience from previous withdrawals. I also get loss of appetite. I wanted to go on a retreat and am supposed to leave tomorrow afternoon. Do you think I’ll be well enough to go?

  172. I took my last drink two months ago after a lifetime of drinking alcohol. I didn’t have any withdrawal problems but now I find that I have an extremely heightened sense of self awareness almost to the point of hypochondria. has anyone else experienced this?

  173. It cut me off.. Gatoraide salads, lots of b vitamins and sleep. By day 4 you will feel a lot better. Go get the help after though. Go intoout patient. I found the 1st 12 hours the worst, the 3rd day I would feel intense anxiety and blood pressure. All I wanted was Ativan. I did it without and now feel great 10 days later. I found Ativan was just replacing my drinking. Anyone can detox safely with good diet, chicken salads vitamin water and b vitamins. Eat eat right away I know it’s hard but the sooner you eat the sooner you recover. Day1 hell day 2 hell day 3 better day 4 I was on a plane home and this was after 10 days of a 40 a day and was found passed out in a motel room in another city. If I can do you can. Dont let a the online withdrawal symptoms scar you. I have never herd of anyone my age dying of withdrawals.

  174. I am 28 years old. I have stopped drinking about 8 times now in a year. I have become an expert on withdrawals. I did a detox clinic the 1st time. I have used Ativan the rest except this last time. I was a heavy functioning drinker for 6 years. After I stopped the 1st time I became a binge drinker. I would drink hard for 10 days then stop. I never seeked help after I detoxed which is why I kept going back. Alcoholism goes from bad to worse over night. This time I am in a good out patient program and not going back. I have advice for those who are worried about detoxing. If you are in fairly good health and a younger age. Do not freak out, I drank a 26er a day of rye. Stay away from the meds, I became addicted to them. And had two problems. Stop cold turkey but have a diet in place. Avoid to much water it raises the blood pressure, vitamin water and gateraid

  175. my boyfriend gut down his alcohol limit before starting detox at home yesterday this is the second day will he be worse today and when will he start to feel a wee bit better im really worried about him

  176. my botfriend started detox for alcohol on tues 12/13.2013 he is doing that in the house he cut down on alcohol quite a bit before staring this this the second day will he be worse than the firstand when will he start to feel a bit better

  177. Hi Donna

    If you are an alcoholic as you say and confess you are, then it is my strong and loving opinion for you not to drink at all at the wedding!

    As an alcoholic myself, I have come to terms with the fact that I can never drink again as a “normal” person, but rather total abstinence is what I should hold onto instead. Because, when I have my first drink it sets off a chemical pattern that sweeps through my brain and body that screams for more. Perhaps you know what I mean?


  178. ya that’s normal , dopn’t worry about it, have some panadol, or aspirin, you will do fine. and keep up with the withdrawl , don’t give up , you will be better in a week or so. don’t drink excessive water, drink as normal , just act normal you will be fine.

  179. I am a alcoholic but have not had a drink in 3 months. I have had several detoxs and fairly long withdrawal periods. I am going to a wedding and am wondering if I limit myself to 3 glasses of wine will I get the severe withdrawal symptoms that I had after months of drinking heavily. My husband who does not drink will be making sure that I don’t have more than 3 glasses. I do not intend to drink on a daily basis after that !

  180. 2 glasses of wine each night, maybe 3. I have not had a drink in 4 days and have had a headache for all 4 days. Is this normal? I get up each AM and teach Boot Camp or Spin, I try to consume lots of water thinking it may be dehydration, but it just seems weird that I have had this headache for the 4 days I haven’t had wine.

  181. Hello All;

    I would strongly encourage everyone to incorporate exercise into your recovery. Its helped me tremendously. The benefit list is virtually endless. Exercise releases “endorphins” ( feel good), it warms the blood which gives the brain/body a calming effect, its purported to generate new nerve connections in the brain that may fast track healing & repair, increase personal confidence, help “cope” in a healthy way, take mind off worries/cravings-

    I’m tellin ya, its the best thing YOU can do for yourself- Start a simple/easy 30-40 minute walk/run program – or go for a walk if your feeling anxious- I even tried hula-hoop & juggling- it all helps-
    Best of luck to all trying to get straight

  182. hi i am jay, i use to drink everynight, after dark , i used to drink bourbon readymade, and sometimes bears, i had been drinking for say 2-3 year everynight, now in sep 2012 , someone said there was gonna be an earthquake, and then i was driving on the motorway and then suddeenly felt the earthquake, but there was no earthquake, checked with the doctors they said it was anxiety , went through medical teast and everything was fine, became fobic to driving, and many other things, i stopped drinking from october 2012 and anxiety still persited , and i am not drinkind from that time till today, so i can say 2 and half months i never had a drink. i fconsulted people who been through depression and anxiety before, talking to them made me 100 better for 1 week , but mild anxiety seems to have come back , since last 1 week again. , evening times i am ok, but day time it peaks up. i don’t feel like drinking anymore, since the day i quitted, only 1 or 2 times i felt like having some drink, but i never go ahead with it. so quitting is not seemed to be a problem to me, but i wanna know, did this all happen because i was drinking every night in the past. also how long it will take to get detoxed . help please……

  183. I am 22 and I and a heavy drinker at the weekend sometimes i drink during the week, I want to quit and I know that I can do it but i am scared
    due to reading about how bad alcohol withdraw symptoms are and it’s bad enough already from all the panic attacks, missed heart beats and anxiety all the time.

  184. Hi. I’m drinking right now as we speak. I’m trying to taper down at home with the support of my wife. I gave her all my money and credit cards. I think I could say no… just not after that first one. Nobody ever asked me to quit, and I never hit rock bottom. Nobody else knew, but after many years of drinking a 12 pack a day alone at night, I tried to re-integrate into the world (I’m a hermit because I’ve been arrested for being in the wrong places with the wrong people), and I’d still drink my 12 pack, along with whatever else I’d been given in my travels.

    Recently though, with the increase, I’d been blacking out every night, and waking up every morning guilty over what I may have or may not have said or done the night before. The guilt was literally driving me insane and I was literally eating myself from the inside out. Nobody else knew, but you can’t hide from yourself.

    I’m 36 and I’ve been drinking since I was 14. It has been daily now for like 10 years at the 12 packs, and has often doubled that amount in the last year. Previously, I had decided to cut down and did quit for weeks without any withdrawal symptoms. However, I’m glad I looked it up this time as it can kill you and I can feel my body is breaking down.

    Speaking of that, I lost like 50 lbs. in a year, and everyone was telling me how great I looked, figuring loss of beer belly= less beer. Nope, I wasn’t eating sometimes for days on end. Even early in my taper, I am starved. I had 6 healthy meals yesterday.

    Anyway, I will be on my journey, but I wanted to share something I learned through my research this time around. I’m not trying to scare people, but I thought it was worth mentioning that each time you do detox your system, you put yourself at greater and greater risk of seizures and dt’s with each subsequent withdrawal. I’m not saying that if you already withdrawn to just keep drinking, but it might be incentive to keep from drinking again to know that it’s only going to get worse and worse each time you have to do it. I know that’s what’s running through my mind.

    Oh, and a question… I HAVE noticed that when I was a kid, I was really outgoing. Now, it seems when I’m sober I’m almost lifeless, and when I’m drinking, I’m “like my old self” again. I’m figuring this has to do with an imbalance in serotonin, and I’m wondering if there’s a way to raise my serotonin levels again?


  185. its not just the drinker thats suffers its there loved ones too, seeing them go through it, i hate it when he will do anything to try an get a drink an the pain he go’s through when he dont have a drink.

  186. hi, my partner is a drinker, he drinks constantly, he takes a bottle of cider to bed even, i hear him in the night drinking, im worried sick about him, he dont listen to me when i try an talk to him about it, he will admit he as a problem, the problem is, it is putting a huge strain on our relationship, where we are arguing a lot, i just dont know where to turn, i even leave numbers an leaflets about the house for help with his drinking problem, i know he sees them, but he chooses to ignore them, i dont like getting on him all the time about it, but i feel in the long term i will loose him, either by the drink or by the relationship breaking down because of his addiction to alcohol, i just dont know wat to do anymore.

  187. Hello All;
    I’ve been drinking almost daily for 35 years and decided to quit on January 2nd. Fortunately over time I’ve slowly reduced my early 20’s heavy consumption to just two beers a night for past five years. However still felt powerless to stop, and the few times I tried the withdrawl effects were uncomfortable enough that I resumed my nightly routine.

    But I was determined this time, and tapered with one beer for first four days, and now been dry for past six days with very managable side effects. Also, instead of completely removing the process/habit of drinking beer, I just substituted with N/A lager beer and that seemed to help smooth the transition. This isn’t easy, but doable.

    As for nutrition/supplements I would suggest Milk Thistle for liver regeneration, Magnesium ( very important) for general health & calming effect, a supplement combination of GABA-Seritonin ( health/sleep), a good multi-vitamin and Tylenol PM ( or anything with Diphenhydramine HCI 25Mg) for sleep.

    I also scoured the web for books on the subject I might enjoy & relate to. For my personal taste, I’ve ordered “AA-Not The Only Way” by Melanie Solomon, “Don’t Let The Bastards Grind You Down, 50 Things Every alcoholic & Addict In Early Recovery Should Know”, and “The Roadmap To Resilience”, Meichenbaum. Its only a $50 investment for these books, and feel like they’ll be a priceless resource for me during recovery.

    From what I’ve learned, long term alcohol dependence alters the brain/central nervous system functions. And once we stop, the withdrawls are created by the brain/body “readjusting” itself to being starved of the drug-

    Best to all who are trying to kick/cure a disease/dependence. Love that this forum is here to share with others, and knowing your not alone, and that their are plenty of resources to cull from to help beat the withdrawls is encouraging-

  188. Thank you for replying and your support. I take it this will be harder than I understand now. My plan is to continue to taper off, albeit more slowly than I thought before your advice. At the first sign of difficulty I will consult a doctor. I am concerned that this could endanger my life insurance policy, but life is more important than insurance. I will also stay with this blog. I appreciate that the advice is skillfully given.

  189. Congrats Laura!!! I am no doctor but everyone’s body is different. The most important thing is if you do go to a doctor make sure he understands your symptoms ARE REAL. My doctor did not have a clue the nightmare I experience was directly tied to my withdrawels. The only way I knew this was after I found sites like this and read other people having the same symptoms. Stand firm and I encourage you to read Proverbs… Some awesome words of wisdom!!!

  190. Hi Laura. It’s a good start to try to taper alcohol doses over time. But you really need to consult an MD for best results and follow up treatment. You don’t need to withdraw from alcohol alone!

  191. I began drinking wine before bed about 12 years ago. Over time it went from one glass to 2 bottles…always at night. Recently my hands trembled and I was shocked. I vowed to try to change and know I need to detox. For many reasons I want to first try on my own. Over the last two weeks I have cut down to 3 glasses (units) before bed. I am going to continue slowly to zero. I exercise daily, take all the B vitamins, a multivitamin and meds for hypertension. Is this safe?

  192. Hi, I “gave up” alcohol on 14/11/2012 because I could feel something pressing on right side of my back and thought it was my liver. The doctor didn’t think it was but I gave a blood test which confirmed my liver has been damaged (she didn’t tell me how badly). I have been drinking alcohol for the last 30 years ( 20 units a days for the last 20 years). I have had a couple of drinks 3 times in the first couple of weeks but have been completely dry since 29th December. I feel OK and am actually used to having an orange squosh instead of alcohol with little cravings. My biggest problem is sleeping. I “slept” 11 hours the other day and could have still stayed in bed if I could. I am forever extremely tired and have constant headaches. I have read about natural sleep remedies. Could anyone advise me of these.

    This is a great site. It’s good to know others are trying too. My doctor has offered me councelling (which I have refused) and 50mg thiamine a day. No other treatment. I told her about my sleepless nights but she refused medication and when I asked for antibuse to help me get over the first few weeks was refused that too as she said I could easily just “stop” the antibuse to start drinking again!!

    Cheers, Eline

  193. Hey JMD… Sorry for just now replying. Hard to identify what symptoms where from what as I quit drinking and smoking at the same time. I went to the emergency room with all the syptoms of a heart attack, I felt I had no reason to live, I gained weight, I could not sleep, I was very emotional, the thought of suicide did not enter my mind but the thought of running away did for sure.. Anyway, still to this day I sometimes think that I felt better when I smoked and drank but deep down I know that is not true. Hope everyone is doing well and know that none of us are perfect but the difference is some of us desire to be perfect. 🙂

  194. Thanks for your reply jeff, it’s jay again (it came out as Kay last night) day 4 of no alcohol, I managed to get to sleep by 1am last night, which I guess is a slight improvement. It’s my first Friday without alcOhio tonight, and I’m not that bothered. The acid test will be tomorrow, my football teams first game since my last “binge”. I have made excussss to not travel to London with friends to watch the game, because the whole day (away days) are a drink fueled mess. The normal itinery for tomorrow wil usually consist of up at 8, a 12 pack of beers for the train, hitting the cheap bars at 11 in London and drinking until kick off, beers at half time, and then back to the bar for beers post game, before getting the train back and again, into a local pub for more beers. Drink until closing and then heading back to a to a friends for a night cap, before heading home in the early hours. I shall listen to the game on the radio, but whilst doing that I will start writing a business plan for my ultimate goal of being self employed. If I can stay dry I can do anything. The smoking will be the next habit to go. But I will give my full attention to the drink first, because this is the biggie for me, in that although smoking is just as damaging physically, drink is ruining my life on so many levels socially, financially and emotionally. Not to mention the affect it has in my relationships.

  195. Hey Kay, see if you can get her to read some of the post on here… Sad but true as far as her not understanding. As you probably read, withdrawels for some of us lasted several weeks. It does get better but rough journey for sure. No magical answer other than burn in your mind how you are feeling now so once you get past the withdrawels you will have the strength to not go back. Will say a prayer for you and I know you are stronger than the addiction!!!!

  196. Hi, I have been drinking for 10 years socially, however the last 2 years I have been drinking daily 4-12 (sometimes more) and occasionally binging on an all day session. 28th December was the last major binge, 12 hours continual drinking lager. I have been dry for 3 days now and I feel very lethargic during the day, irritable and very tired. But come bed time I am awake until 2-3am: I am sat here at 11.49pm tired but u able to switch off. I have fleeting thoughts of going for a beer to “settle me off” but I’m determined to kick this habit. My girlfriend doesn’t understand that I need her support and seems annoyed that I have finally admitted I have a problem. She rarely drinks and thinks that getting to this point is entirely my own fault and I shouldn’t need encouragement and a pat on the back, for not having a drink. I love her dearly, and through wanting to be a better person for her and my children seems to be insignificant to her. Is it normal to feel like I’m over heating when lying in bed? Sorry this is coming out as a bit all over the place but I am typing it how I feel. Anyone else been here?

  197. I forgot to mention one other thing: Have plenty of fruits/vegetables on hand. Particularly grapes and apples. Grapes are known to simulate the alcohol effect and apples add roughage to help her rid of the poisons in her stools.

  198. Dear Adam,

    This is great news that your girlfriend is so dedicated to address her drinking and that you are so supportive of her.

    I am also glad that you mentioned what she drinks and how much. Hence, I am not a medical doctor but have been through what she is going through as well. Withdrawals can last between 3-21 days from what I have heard. Usually, when I have quit drinking, I feel pretty good within 7 days. Hence, I am a beer/wine drinker, so it’s not as potent as vodka.

    Here are a couple of things that make withdrawals easier for me: 1. Coconut water. It is full of electrolytes that help to keep you from dehydration and some how stabilizes the nervous system. Look that up on the web. 2. Exercising. Breaking out a sweat can help ‘rid’ the body of the alcohol that is continuing to make her sick. 3. Hot bath. Same with the exercise. 4. Vitamin B tablets. Look this up on the web as well, to know how important this supplement is in our bodies as alcohol does not allow them to be absorbed and we really need this. 5. GABA – this helps to create a sense of calm. 6. Valerian and Melatonin. These are natural sleep aids that are non addictive and even though you say she is sleeping a lot, alcohol totally messes up our REM sleep patterns in our brains. This is why when we are withdrawing, nightmares and hallucinations seem unbearable. She is probably sleeping a lot because her quality of sleep is so poor, her body/brain is exhausted. Natural sleep aids will help her to get on track. This may take 2-4 weeks depending on how long she has been ill with alcohol.

    She is going to be tired, because her body is exhausted from what she has been putting into it. The body doesn’t like change, but once it gets used to it, it is welcomed. Let her sleep, but watch over her to make sure she does not start to have seizures.

    Last thing I can say is that she really should be in a hospital to be monitored. I can’t tell what country you are from, but here in the U.S., they encourage people to NEVER quit drinking on their own because unlike withdrawals from other drugs, one can die from alcohol withdrawal. Strange, but true.

    There’s more I can say, but hopefully these little tidbits give you something to research on. Thank you for being there for her. The hardest thing is to go through this alone. It’s scary because our bodies do some crazy things when we are detoxing. It is troubling to hear that she is drinking while taking Librium. That combination is probably what is making her so sick and it’s a deadly combination. If she has to drink at all, see if she would drink something with less alcohol content, like a light beer and have her taper off that way and not use the Librium until she is clear.

    Best of luck, my friend. You are a good man for helping her through this.

  199. Hi all,

    I’m asking for advice from a spectators perspective.

    My Girlfriend decided to quit drinking on Christmas Eve after a very open discussion about her drinking. (80 units per day sometimes).

    Since Christmas Eve she has been in bed vomiting and sleeping whilst having Hallucinations and complete body pain. We went to A&E on Boxing Day to see why she was so ill but no answers, her blood & liver has been checked and is all clear. She is eating small amounts and is on Librium starting detox on the 7th Jan which she is really excited about.

    My and her biggest question is how long does the sickness & total fatigue last? She cant get around unaided & passes out mid conversation yet the docs think she is safe enough to be at home, I am a bit worried as have no formal med training and have been left with a very sick person with no clue as best to help her.

    She is still consuming small amounts of drink whilst taking Librium (She says she needs it). Since Boxing day she has gone from 500ml vodka to 250ml today not through choice or administration because she cant drink or isnt waking for it, but when she drinks it makes her sick. I’m hoping her body is telling her not to drink and her brain will follow suit.

    Any advice will be really appreciated, the NHS have been pretty useless.

  200. Hello everyone. I decided to quit drinking after years of drinking. I am doing this alone. I’ve been through rehabs before, went to AA, was sober for 5 years and then one time just decided to pick up a glass of wine to see if I was normal. HOW WRONG I WAS! I went on a heavy binge of beer and wine for about 2 months now. I am on day 2 of self detox and I am going through hell. My blood pressuree is high, my nightmares seem so real and I can not sleep a solid hour at a time at night. I get up, walk around, toss and turn. I also get horrible leg cramps which make me walk around. Everyone thought I was doing so well and looked so good yet no one really knew what I was doing. I was too ashamed. I do not really have the tremors but I have hot and cold spells, headaches, insomnia, nightmares ETC. I am going on vacation with my family in two days. I wonder if I will show any signs of detoxing? I am so mad at myself for thinking I can be a social drinker.

  201. Everyone, I am no doctor but I was/am an alcoholic… I have been sober for 5 months. I quit cold turkey as well as quit smoking… The withdrawels are real!!! Thought I was going to die!!! My withdrawels lasted for about 6 weeks. If you are tired of being a slave to alcohol you can quit. You might not be successful the first time and if not, don’t beat yourself up. Just set your new target date and stick to it. I am not a preacher but I am a Christian. Reading Proverbs will truly give you strength. Another aid was to look at pictures of the damage alcohol does to your body.. Google it and you will be amazed. My prayers are with each of you!!!!

  202. hi jennifer my names james i am also 29 and have drank alcohol for the last 12 year it could be for 7 days inarow or two weeks inarow i drink till i cant drink no more but when i decicde to pack in i always get six cans and drink them very slowley just to take the edge off i find it works and u still get a good sleep.and also just be with somebody who cares for you and try to keep busy.i havent drank now for 9 months i have gt my job back lost weight and things just seem alot clearer these days booze nearly destroyd me.

  203. hi im 29 been drinking for about three years, first year i was a bartender and thats just what i did then i became pregnant quit drinking for 10 months then i just picked up where i left off i have been drinking about a fifth of whiskey a day for the last year. i didnt drink for a day and i ended up at the walk in clinic he told me to taper off but he would rather me go to detox. my symptomms are nausea and panic attacks i cannot afford detox point blank but i have failes at tapering off once i start when i wake up i dont stop till i go to sleep. any advice for self detox i plan to suffer through it this sunday

  204. I’ve been drinking a bottle of wine every night for 5 years. I have developed hypertension (just found out today) in spite of eating properly and exercising on a daily basis (normal weight). I know that the wine is the main source of my hypertension and I need to stop. I would like to taper down, but I start a new job in a couple of days and can’t be going through withdrawals on the job. Any advice on how I should taper? Should I just cut back and see what happens in a couple of days? I’m scared right now.

    Thank you

  205. I am 31 and have been drinking for the last 10yrs. I would drink at least half to a bottle of whiskey/vodka and smoke around twenty cigarettes every night living in my comfort zone trying to digest the pathetic world around me. My whole world changed upside down following a recent incident and this is my fifth day without alcohol or cigarettes. Last night I struggled a lot and couldn’t sleep at all. Had nightmares the day before. Now have a massive headache, feel like I am catching a cold and my throat is sore. I dont remember the last time I have been ill to a cold or flu. I had four packets of crisps today and ate more than I would normally eat but I am still hungry n feeling miserable. I am determined to stay sober and hope this feeling goes away.
    p.s English is not my native language therefore sorry for any mistakes

  206. Hi Jess

    I have no medical related answer for your question, however my panic attacks after a binge of drinking would last for days accompanied by anxiety and dark, depressive moods. However it soon dissipated if I did not resort to drinking again thereafter, which sets the cycle in motion once again.

    So my advice is don’t drink again, live through the panic and please try and eat something. The alcohol rages havoc on empty stomachs.

    Jess I have seen the darkness of alcohol, because I have lived it. Read my two entries that follow each other above dated the 25 October 2012.
    I truly hope and pray that you will find peace in all areas of your life, so that you don’t have to depend on alcohol for escapism.

    Forgive me for having been frank, but drinking ruined my life and any encouragement I can give, I give 100% and mean it!


  207. hi i was wondering how long after your last drink its safe to know ur not going to die, im anorexic and in the past 2 days all ive had really is a bagel but over the course of 7 hours yesterday i drank a mmickey of rum but now i feel like crap and im having a panic attack cause im scared im going to randomly collapse, i doubt it but im still freaked so i was just wondering how long after your last drink before you know ur safe basically. so far its been abouot 8 hours

  208. Hi, I am just starting to taper off alcohol and am sooo nervous that I am going to have withdrawal symptoms or get really sick. I am 30 years old, female and have been drinking between 7 and 10 standard drinks a night for about two years. I saw my doctor and he told me to slowly reduce my alcohol intake over a period of several weeks to avoid withdrawal symptoms, but I am freaking out that I will get sick anyway. Is my drinking history severe enough to put me at risk of DT’s? Will tapering prevent that from happening? Help!

  209. I am wondering how to differentiate between alcohol withdrawal and benzodiazepine withdrawal if someone has a history of taking both. I was put on benzodiazepines following a panic attack, which I believe might have been provoked by a combination of prednisone and binge drinking. For the next 4.5 years, I took benzodiazepines but continued to binge drink all weekend long on most weekends. On a few occasions during that time I went to the ER with these symptoms: extreme light-headedness, feeling faint, shallow breathing, and heart palpitations. These occasions generally occurred 2 days after a weekend drinking binge. Twice, I also had waves of these symptoms for about 3 days after the onset, with additional symptoms of heightened sensitivity to sound and fear that I was dying. Most of the time though, I could binge drink on weekends without any severe symptoms the following week.

    After the last episode of the symptoms I mentioned, I was diagnosed as having an adverse reaction to the benzodiazepine (my doctor was unaware of my degree of binge drinking) and I tapered off the benzos. During my taper, if would binge drink then I would have severe anxiety, panic attacks, agitation, erratic breathing, fever, high blood pressure, etc. for about 3 hours the next day. This would occur about 10-14 hours after I stopped drinking. On one occasion, I had one dilated pupil for about 10-15 minutes, and smelled smoke.

    That’s when I decided to investigate. I learned about “tolerance withdrawals” and “inter-dose withdrawals” to benzos, as well as alcohol withdrawals and kindling. I also learned that alcohol can “rev up” benzo withdrawals. I’m now wondering if those first ER visits for faintness, or the later problems with panic, were associated with tolerance withdrawals or side effects of benzos, or alcohol withdrawals. Finally, I learned about protracted benzo withdrawals and protracted withdrawal syndrome from alcohol.

    Now, I’ve been off benzos for 4 months and I’m still having distinct symptoms from that (throat spasms and cramps, sinus issues, metallic taste, feelings of electrocution and other strange sensations that I’ve never experienced before). I’ve also noticed that if I drink alcohol, I can experience EITHER the “elevated” CNS symptoms (anxiety, panic, agitation) OR the depressed ones (faintness, shallow breathing, weakness). In addition, I had two occasions, in absence of other symptoms except visual haziness, where people I was talking to became visually distorted. It was not a hallucination — I did not see anything that was not there. It was more like I was looking at them in a fun house mirror. Visual distortions are a known, but less common, symptom of benzo withdrawals. On the other hand, could I have had alcoholic hallucinosis?

    I am part of a support group for people with benzo withdrawals and some of them also binge drank while taking the benzos. Most people, whether they binge drank or not, have reported that any amount of alcohol has revved up their benzo withdrawal symptoms during their taper and, for some, for over a year after they stopped taking the benzo. I would appreciate any feedback on this from this group, which is primarily concerned with alcohol withdrawals.

  210. I’ve been a daily beer drinker for approximately 3 years. I drink anywhere from 4 – 8 beers everyday. I am now wanting to stop COLD TURKEY? Will stopping cause me to have withdrawls?

  211. Hi Rick. In my (non-professional) opinion, it sounds like something is up. It’s possible that your friend, while not drinking, may have found a new drug of choice. Or perhaps a doctor has prescribed an anti-anxiety medication like Xanax, Valium, or Ativan? I wonder if she was treated in a medical clinic as she detoxed for alcohol, because withdrawing after regular chronic drinking does bring the possibility of seizures or DTs. If she is willing to submit a urine sample for a drug test, this is the most clear and accurate way to assess what she’s been taking.

  212. I have a friend who has been drinking heavily as long as I have know her, at least 14 years. She recently told us all that she was going to stop drinking on her own. After looking at information on line I was set for the worst case possible. Instead she is pleasant, calm, helpful, even chipper !! She says she has not had a drink in a week, is this possible. Can a heavy drinker (every day for 14 years) really quit so easily or are we being played? I can’t help but wonder if although she is not visible drunk like before, can she be doing something to fool us.
    We really want to help her.

  213. Hi. I have been drinking almost every day for 2 years, vodka as my drink of choice. It’s gone up to about 8 or 9 drinks a day. I am 26 years old, female.

    I tried to stop a few months ago, but my 3rd day sober, I had a pretty bad seizure. I am prone to seizures anyway, even before I began drinking this way.

    I have a few questions. I went to my “family doctor”/ PCP last week and she said I have to get professional detox because of my history of seizures. She gave me a list of numbers for facilities. I called them all, and none of them had beds until this morning. So, I explained everything, and the person on the phone for the detox center said my symptoms were too severe for them to admit me, and to go to the ER.

    My MAIN question here is: will they admit me to the ER even though I am not having symptoms yet? I usually start trembling about a day and a half after not drinking, but I just drank this morning. It seems counterintuitive to WAIT until I start having dangerous withdrawal symptoms before I am admitted for detox– what do I say to the people when I walk into the ER? Do I explain that I drank recently, thought I’m not totally drunk, but that I have a history of withdrawal seizures even though I’m not showing any physical proof of this???

    This just seems so backwards to me. That I might have to WAIT until I have a SEIZURE until the hospital will admit me?

    Does anyone know if I can check myself into the ER without having visible withdrawal symptoms?

    Also, I have Medicaid, which makes it even worse, because I don’t have my old private insurance which covered any and every health cost. I just don’t know. Help?

  214. Absolutely Jeff, I believe that God in His great wisdom allowed me to become an alcoholic, because He could use me to help those who still have to accept what they are and to lead them into recovery through my experience be it what it may.

    Alcohol was my God. It kept me bold, courageous, confident and egotistical. It then turned on me and completely consumed me.

    I lost material accumulation, but found spiritual wealth!


  216. But to continue, initially I thought that I was going insane and losing my mind until I contacted AA. Here I found people who experienced the same or similar experiences and the cause was alcohol and how if affects are brain chemistry. Heavy and binge drinking depletes us of any “good emotions” and leaves only the “bad”, thus the anxiety and overwhelming depression runs riot!

    To my immense relief, I learnt that I was in fact not mad, but the victim of a disease called alcoholism and that if I would continue to drink I would certainly go insane and/or die. Here I found my Higher Power whom I call God, who rescued me from the depths of my private hell and led me to the light of sobriety. I now function as a perfectly normal human being and can take my place in society again.

    I have, on a much smaller scale, tried to get my small graphic design business operating again. I am a glorified one man show, but I can sustain myself a bit financially again and that is a blessing.

    I don’t want to impose my story and experience on anybody partaking on this blog, but if deep down inside you know that your drinking is problematic and you can see a hint of skid row staring you in the face, ask for God’s help and seek medical attention and advice.

    Call Alcoholics Anonymous, somebody will come out to you and take you to a meeting. You have nothing to be ashamed of. There are thousands of people like you and me in the world as there are diabetics and any other sufferers of all kinds of medical conditions.

    Seek help my friends and God Bless you!


  217. Hi Everyone

    I am an alcoholic. I am 48 years old and have only been sober now for 16 months. I regularly attend AA meetings and follow the steps as best I can. In the years leading up to me stopping, I too like many of you, wrestled with the various methods that we use to try and hold on to my addiction – like, only drinking beer, only drinking wine, only having three drinks, only drinking on weekends or special occasions or cutting down. Truth is, none of these has worked for me. Inevitably I once again got drunk and the too familiar vicious cycle once more came into effect.

    I once had a beautiful wife, house, business and many “so-called” drinking buddies that I constantly entertained with lavish dinners and booze parties. Currently all I have left is my sobriety. I live in a separate entrance on the property of a family that has become very dear to me. Everything I once owned is gone. I am deep in debt and will probably never get out of it. And this, is almost entirely due to drinking.

    I too suffered the terrors and anxieties of which people speak on these chats. Everything become the plot of a horror movie and I played the starring role. I became delusional, paranoid and terrified!

    I couldn’t eat, sleep or function rationally. Music I once loved sounded macabre and dark. Everything became a “monster under the bed” scenario. In fact I started searching under my bed for one, like a frightened little child! It sounds funny now I admit, but at the time it was so real that I begged God to have mercy on my soul!

    I felt like tearing off my clothes and running down the road. My panic escalated to such a degree that I would have a wave of terror sweep over me when I suddenly realised that I couldn’t jump higher than I could or that I couldn’t touch the tip of my nose with tongue no matter how far I tried to stick it out of my mouth! And all this due to alcohol!

  218. I typically only drink 2 days out of the week. I never drink from sunday-thursday. I have noticed recently that sunday or monday night I have trouble sleeping. I will sometimes fall asleep then wake up an hour later with slight nausea and be extremely delirious. On friday and saturday I do drink quite a bit so I was wondering if the lack of sleep on sunday/monday night is caused by alcohol withdrawals? If so, is there any way to help myself fall asleep on those nights? Maybe melotonin…

  219. Thanks for the suggestions. I just returned from my doctors this morning and I went in with an open kimono, I let him know everything. Overall he said I am a very healthy 49 year old. I currently am on no medications and would like to keep it that way. He should have my blood work results by Wednesday. Thanks again. Sober life is much clearer.

  220. Hi JMD. Thanks for sharing more about your experience of detox. Yes, you’re right: you don’t have to do it alone! But kudos to you for trying and succeeding! This is a wonderful example for others. You might want to look into possible thiamine deficiency and schedule a general check in with your family doctor just to go over urine and blood sample test results. I’d fully disclose to my doctor what was happening, and ask for not only medical advise, but psychological and social resources as well. More on thiamine deficiency here:

  221. Stopped drinking on September 11th after drinking 1/2 to 1 pint of Jack Daniels 3 to 5 days a week for 5 plus years. The first week was brutal. Each day gets better. I started having panic/anxiety attacks after a few days of sobriety. I had the hardest time entering large buildings and going to the higher floor levels. Sometimes I could not even enter the building. I detoxed on my own which was not the smartest thing to do. I still don’t have my energy back. It’s unbelievable what alcohol can do to your mind and body. Started juicing in the a.m. Using fresh fruits and the afternoon with kale,spinach,lemon and ginger. The vegtable drink is horrible but it has seemed to help significantly. I am on my way back to being the person I was.

  222. Hi Amber. The more severely you drink, the greater the chance of withdrawal. You can gradually taper alcohol use to lessen withdrawal effects, but in your case of high volume drinking, you can really benefit from a medical detox, intervention and assessment. I’d suggest that you talk with your family doctor or go to a detox clinic ASAP and seek medical supervision as you withdraw from alcohol. The risk of seizures and delerium tremens is present. More diagnostic information here:

  223. Sarah that is awesome!!!! So thankful you have the support of your husband… My wife put up with me quitting drinking and smoking. She was my rock!!! Might want to try some alcohol free wine. Still get to sit down and relax with a glass of “wine” but without the poison of alcohol. By the way, God is a pretty good “person” to have supporting you also. 🙂

  224. Congrats C!!!! I quit drinking and smoking at the same time. Just wanted to encourage you not to use the patch or gum while trying to quit dipping. If you use the patch or gum you are still getting the nicotine. As long as you are still getting the nicotine the tobacco companies still “own” you… That is what they want. You quit drinking so you sure have the strength/power to quit dipping. Just stand tall and be in control of yourself… One other thing, spend some time daily looking at pictures of people who have suffered from dipping. I looked at pictures of smokers lungs daily and that was powerful!!!!

  225. Hey Kris, congrats!!!!! You quit TWO habits for a GREAT reason!!!! Your son needs his mom to see him graduate from high school. He needs mom to see him become a man and display all the great qualities you instill in him as he grows up. I quit smoking 4 months ago and oh so wish I would have quit sooner. I also used to drink daily. My “excuse” was I lost my eighteen year old daughter in a car wreck. While I was able to function at work when I got home I just wanted to lose touch with reality through alcohol. About 3 months after I quit drinking beer I did enjoy a couple of glasses of wine with my wife. So far so great but everyone is different and only you know your limitations. You said everyone you know drinks. Think hard about that. Not that they are bad people at all but possibly you could be the start of something great. Maybe some of them deep down wish they had friends who didn’t drink. Anyway, praying for you!!!! The ultimate experience in life is letting God be in control. Hope that helps and makes some sort of sense to you.

  226. Hi Kris. Thanks for reaching out. I was 27 when I started questioning my drinking, too. I believe that a “drinking problem” for a woman is defined as one or more drinks per day, 6 or more days a week (so up to 7 drinks in a week, total) and a binge drinking session is more than four drinks in one setting. Other questions that you can ask yourself include:

    Do I ever drive when I have been drinking?
    Do I have to drink more than before to get drunk or feel the desired effect?
    Have I felt that you should cut down on my drinking?
    Have I ever had any blackouts after drinking?
    Have I ever missed work or lost a job because of drinking?
    Is someone in your family worried about my drinking?

    The way to move forward is to take an alcohol screening quiz and then talk with your family doctor about the results. There is help out there, and good for you for noticing and taking action!

  227. Hi I been drinking only for a year but daily like 6-8 beers a night. I quit drinking for many reasons because I was waking up feeling like shit and being rude to my girlfriend when it wasn’t her faul I’m 13 days sober. The first day I got the worst cold sweats, anxiety , and couldn’t go to bed till one in the morning. The rest of that week I felt good that I quit but I felt depressed and couldn’t eat dinner till late nights I think because I use start drinking at six p.m. then ate after then went to bed. The second week I feel happier but sometimes I feel sad, mad, and anxious to do something, like I was bored. Now I feel a little better but still get mood swings go to bed early and wake up dizzy and anxious but it goes away in ten mins after I brush my teeth and settle down. But my body feels fatigue and weak now but I rested a lot. And I eat a lot during the day but don’t eat dinner till later that night. I feel a lot better though then drinking like a fish I guess some people can’t quit without medical treatment. I guess I didn’t drink a lot or drink for many years just one year so it was kinda easy for me. Now I’m trying to quit dipping, I think it was easier to quit drinking then quitting nicotine lol

  228. d pal…I am in control over myself, as you are, there is no reason to ask the gov. to control the world because a certain few cant control themselves

  229. Also for those quitting…(I’ve gone through some withdrawal sweats, chest tightness. anxiety, insomnia. A glass of milk with honey helps…jumping jacks during the day (I always say mommys in a bad mood shes gonna do jumping jacks to fix her mood-this is not bc of withdrawal) hot yoga and exercise…

  230. hi,
    I’d love some help (I think) dealing with addiction. I am a 27 year old female who has abused nicotine, alcohol and drugs since I was 15. I had a child recently and quit everything during pregnancy and breastfeeding…but now as life creeps in I realize it’s much harder for me to have ONE single glass of wine etc…my son goes away and I have binged for three days. Am I an addict or can I somehow manage to be a social drinker (everyone I know drinks)

  231. Hi everyone,
    Have just found this site and just wanted to say thanks for all of your insights, feeling hope for the first time in a while.
    I’ve known I was an alcoholic for a while, have been drinking 2 bottles of wine a night for almost 3 years. Fully functioning for the most part and able to maintain a good job but in the past 2 months have been getting to the point where i’m passing out on the couch each night and waking with no memory of the several hours beforehand. I’ve tried half heartedly to quit in the past but have never felt as out of control and anxious as I have in recent months. On Monday night I had only 1 glass of wine, wemt to bed sober and woke up feeling better than I have in years and really positive about the future. By yesterday evening though I felt so anxious that I drank an entire bottle. I still went to bed semi-sober so i’m still pleased that its an improvement.
    I know the time has come to take control of my life, i’ve only just turned 27 and don’t want to live like this. I’m hoping that with my husbands support I can gradually reduce over the next few evenings with sunday hopefully being my first completely sober day. I know enough to expect some withdrawal symptoms but I have some time off work to hopefully make the process a little easier.
    I feel a determination and a positivity that I haven’t felt before so hopefully this is my time!

  232. Today Sept, 30 marks 123 days without drinking or smoking. My health has been haywire since I stopped. I had anxiety thinking about dying all the time, gas, bloating, nausea and heart racing at night. It subsides over time but comes less frequently. It doesn’t take 10 days like most websites says, it takes months for you body to recover especially if you drank heavily everyday for years like I did. I’m going to the doctor tomorrow to get checked out but its been a tough road ahead but I’m glad I did it because I feel better generally speaking. The symptoms are going away but very slowly. I will never drink or smoke again. Good luck everyone!

  233. As I wrote about 100 mails ago it is possible to avoid really severe withdrawals if you can manage to slowly reduce your drinking over a period of 4-7 days. Drink 8,6,5,4,3,2 beers a day and then stay away from all alcohol. You will still experience nervousness, disturbed sleep, pounding heart, headache, nausea and other symptoms. I’ve managed to detox my self this way, with the help from a trustfull friend, three times after beeing detoxed as an inpatient several times during the last ten years before. The acute symptoms are usually gone within five to eight days but less severe symptoms like sleep disturbances, depression and anxiety can last for weeks or even months after a long period of hevy drinking. Good luck to you all and thank you for your posts!

  234. Hey everyone!!!! While I have never been to AA or anything like that and I am confident that one on one would be more powerful, we all need to realize that when we share our stories it is a great thing. Great to admit to ourselves and great for other people to realize they are not alone… I enjoy the updates and encourage you to be honest with yourself daily. I wanted to quit and knew I needed to quit but until I made that commitment in my heart, I was never going to quit!! God is GREAT and you can share that ultimate peace also.

  235. Hi Jeff. Its going ok drank on Sun. So it was the 8th day still getting headaches though and it is hard not to think about it. Crave sweets too and I never eat sweets. Been drinking club soda with lemon or limes kinda making pretend cocktails. Walking past the wine aisle @ grocery store is tough too. Been going to alcohol free gas station too so making a bit of progress. No binge on Sun. Either just 1 miniture and 1 glass of wine. How are you doing?

  236. I wish that all alcoholic beverages were illegal. I myself am a drinker and I’ve quit many times. When I look back I realize that it doesn’t make me feel as good as I wanted, it costs too much, and it tends to lead me to hang out with people that aren’t good for me. Also alcohol use only encourages people to excrement with other drugs such as speed. I think that technically alcohol should be a controlled substance just like anything else. It should not be sold in stores to the public. Besides it only encourages people to be obnoxious neighbors. Most neighbors I’ve had that are drinkers are annoying, rude, and noisy. I bet if they weren’t consuming alcohol that they would not be as annoying or at least not as bad. Sure I’d miss alcohol but I can stand to go without it. I also feel the same way about a lot of prescription medications even if they are not being abused still cause dangerous altering of a persons cognitive abilities. Take Paxil for example. I personally would not trust getting into a car with someone that is driving a vehicle if they are on Paxil. I believe in therapies and not throwing pills at the problem. Anyway, like I said I believe that Alcohol should be made illegal.

  237. I just wanted to comment about sleep issues, as this was very very huge for me. Sleep disturbances made it nearly impossible it seems to keep a clear head and the energy needed toward NOT drinking the next day. So now, I take care to make sure I do whatever I can to get a goods night sleep, which helps me be successful for the next day. I noticed, that not getting sleep, is as bad as suffering from a hangover from drinking vodka all day. The too feel one in the same for me. Here are some strategies that worked for me.

    1) I take valerian one hour before I goto bed. I notice a difference in the quality of sleep I get. There are a lot of sleep supplements and drugs, but by far, I find valerian to be the most useful and safe.

    2) I try not to eat before bed, in fact, I try to goto bed on an empty stomach. If I must eat, I eat something light, and something raw, like a salad. You will notice the quality of your sleep to go way up, since your body is not fighting its resources to digest food. a good rule of thumb, at least three hours in between bedtime and dinnertime.

    3) a calming tea, like Nighty Night, tea, chamomile, valerian in it, etc.

    4) cardio exercise during the day helps ALOT!. the more the better, but even 10 minutes of jumping rope may do the trick!

    5) I refuse to watch the news or have stressful conversations before bed. When this does happen by chance, I find my anxiety in the middle of the night just goes up 10 fold, and the next day is a battle. I have a little calming ritual before bed that seems to help.

    It gets better. One of the milder symptoms of withdrawal is night sweats, which used to keep me up. During the early days of withdrawal, I would have these extreme nightmares, and my hands would tingle, and that would keep me awake. It does get better, but to speed up the process, trying a juicing regimen, which will help you safely detox.

    They say when you dont get the sleep you need, your body craves carbs, so maybe this is what is behind the craving. I notice if I juice fruit in the morning, I dont have the same type of cravings for alcohol that day, and maybe its natural sugar that does it.

    I am not a slave anymore, and you can do it too. I think there is definitely more to this, than just will power. Doing little things to help your body along will bring relief a lot faster.

    I used to beat myself up over my continued “failed” attempts, but even if you back slide, its not failure. Each time is better. I went through multiple cycles of abstaining, and noticed that each time became more manageable. My first attempt was the worst. I went cold turkey after drinking huge amounts of vodka for a very long time, and that was very stupid to go cold turkey like that. After that, I tapered, and it was a lot better.

  238. My friend is 47 years old and is currently in the hospital with liver failure. She has been drinking since she was 15 yeas old and then at 40 started to take Vicoden. She was taking up to 150 v’s per month and drinking 1 1.5 gallons of wine per night. We all tryed to get her to stop. Her Husband said he was going to leave her, her son begged her to stop and finally her Doctor after 7 years, took her off Vicoden. But I am afraid its too late.

    Please get help if you have problems with addiction. There are people out there that love you and what you to be around.

  239. Well wise one, (Denise), you already know the answer(s). You reallly do!!!! Oh don’t get me wrong, I have pretty much drank all my life but daily for almost 4 years until June 13th, 2012. I knew alcohol was in control and not me. There are so many things that “seemed” to be more fun when you drink, beach vacations, casinos, outdoor grilling, etc. Denise, you know if you really want to quit you will need to change your lifestyle, at least temporarily. If we are trying to quit something we just cannot put ourselves in an enviroment to fail. I have never been to AA so cannot comment on that but I can tell you that while all the support you can get is great, the bottom line is do you really want to quit or are you going to quit? I wanted to quit for several months and then it hit me like a brick wall and I made up my mind I was not going to be a slave to that anymore. Keep me posted but I know, when you are truly ready, IT WILL HAPPEN!!!

  240. Well Jeff it is absolutely true. The only thing that stops me from getting that 3rd bottle or 1/2 pint of vodka or Jack is fear of a dwi. But if someone will go get it for me I’m down. It’s terrible. I think I want to start AA. Not sure though. I have heard negative things but perhaps it is because the negative people didn’t really want to quit…?

  241. Angela, I actually think once you start reading Proverbs you will read the entire book. Great hearing from you and I hope your day is full of LIFE!!!

  242. Thanks. Luckily during this time I have my ex-wife, current gf (touchy subject lol) and my two sons here with me. It is going slower than i hoped and than it needs to be. I think im dragging my feet but the difficulty sleeping is just sometimes too difficult. Last night i had 6 and a half. As long as what i have each day is less, even if it takes an extra few days i believe i am heading in the right direction. I just can never go backwards and hope on a day i never stall and repeat the night before. I just have to keep the momentum, less and less. The Ativan has been a life saver i am sure. The doctor prescribed me to take 3 mg a day but there is NO WAY i could have done that. I took 1/4 the first day when i was at 12 beers and got a bit sick. Now that the alcohol is less of course i take a bit more but like i said i did not want to completely substitute and stay messed up on pills so i take about 1 total a day broken into 3 or 4 different times during the day and have managed to get to 6.5 beers. I think though I will have no choice in the upcoming days to take more ativan just to sleep, last night was a bit rough. Still fearing the day im off BOTH and wondering how my body will react. Time will tell. I huge difference i think is also the fact i have always had a poor diet of fast food, never ate breakfast and rarely lunch. Now i make sure i eat 3 meals a day and have been taking fish oil, a daily vitamin, etc,, Getting vitamins back into my system I believe has helped a great deal as well and also have been excersizing a min of 20 mins a day.. Just trying to do what I can think of to help.

  243. Jeff,Howdy. You are so right, about trusting in the Lord. If you read my few blogs before, you can see that my husband had drank for about 30 years. He did try to stop a couple of times before. no luck, But when he ask God to help him, he was saved by the drink. But, as i said before about him being addicited to another person, Since he was addicited to the you think Proverds, would or may help with other struggles. Should i read the whole book on Proverbs?

  244. Good morning Denise. Sounds like you are a very wise woman. Your comment that one drink is too many and a thousand is not enough really puts in words what I think each and every one of us felt at one point or another. Very insightful!!!!!!!

  245. Wow Jeff you quit smoking and drinking at the same time…that’s great! I want to get to a point where I don’t feel like I need to drink to have a good time or out of boredom or out of despair or the many other reasons I make excuses for my drinking. For me now one drink is too many and a thousand is not enough. 1-2 bottles of wine is just too much especially since I have been saying I don’t have a problem. I know it’s not true because the headaches and I’ll feeling I had last week really upset me. Thanks for your replies they are comforting.

  246. Guys and Girls I have an announcement to make!!!! As much as it pains me to tell you this, NO ONE IS PERFECT!!! Some will have succcess easier than others!! Some of you might get “turned off” by me saying this but I am telling you from experience. With God’s help, you CAN AND WILL BEAT THIS. Where do you think the doctor’s get their wisdom from?? I was once a slave to alcohol and cigarettes but no more. Doesn’t mean some days I couldn’t smoke a carton or drink a 12 pack. What it means is I have the power to resist… Life is so much better now. I don’t mean to sound any stranger than I already do to some of you but we all need support and I can assure you there are more people than you can imagine who have some sort of struggle going on right now in their life. If you really want some power, read Proverbs…

  247. Hi Alex. You are in my thoughts and prayers! DO you have anyone to call during this time? A friend or family member to support you?

  248. Alex, at this point you could not be doing any better.. You have God in your life and you have a doctor assisting you. Kind of like getting caught in the middle of nowhere in a major snow storm.. All you can do is put on your chains, make sure your car/truck is full of gas, get your map out and start driving. With time and following your map YOU WILL GET OUT OF THE STORM!!! Hang in there brother. There are some very smart doctors out there who actually think about the side effects before they put you on something or take you off something. By the way, if you have any children or anyone you hold close to your heart, put several pictures of them where you used to drink. They love you and need you!!!!

  249. Denise, one more thing I want to add. This might not be a popular response or even correct but I think it might help you. When I drank, I drank beer EVERYDAY. My last beer was on June 13th. At that time I also quit smoking. Anyway, for 8 weeks I would not even consider having a drink for fear I would want a cigarette. Now twice, after that 8 week period I have enjoyed a glass of wine. Just two different occassions and I was 100% in control of the amount and the desire. I tell you that to say it is possible to beat your addiction and someday be able to enjoy a drink but the difference is YOU ARE IN CONTROL and not the alcohol. Hang in there!!!

  250. Sad to report that my post about quitting in June was a failed attempt. I actually had gotten much worse between then and now. I started suffering terrible anxiety and for the first time ever i began drinking when i woke up and would continue throughout the day to the point i was drinking a case of beer daily for about a month until i was soo tired, anxious, sick that i had a week of major panic attacks and breadwowns.. Thought I was losing my mind. I went to my Dr. Last Friday and was honest about everything. He put me on Ativan to help taper off and I am supposed to go back this friday to see him. I have lowered my drinking from 24 to 9 as of last night. Tonight I will drink 6. wed i will drink 3 and thursday with the help of the meds and God i will have my first night without ANY alcohol.. My fear is without alcohol and without my the medication that I will be left with terrible anxiety since the alcohol and ativan are both calm the nervous system. I guess i wont have the anxiety broght on by drinking.. I dont know, just worried. Also fear that being on ativan for a week may cause its own set of withdrawl.. Im moving forward, just a bit uneasy and worried but FAR better off today than i was last month and will be alcohol free by the end of the week. I apprectiate all the prayers and thoughts

  251. Angela, sounds like you and your husband are potentially making progress. If you really stop to think about it, life is very short. Don’t waste it!!! Embrace it and embrace each other if that is what your heart desires. Just please remember that there are people out there who can help if you and/or your husband want it. Stay focused and strong in yourself and I hope he does the same.

  252. Hey Denise… You have accomplished what so many only wish they could!!!! You acknowledge that alcohol has control of your body. You are dealing with it in the best way you can right now. I commend you for your past successes and celebrate with you your future successes. The awsome thing about this site is we all share our successes and failures but we all have the same goal, TO BE 100% IN CONTROL OF OUR BODY!!!!

  253. Hi survivor23. Thank you so much for sharing your experience about getting through alcohol withdrawal, and your positive suggestions! I am so happy that you’ve been able to emerge from the experience with gratitude and understanding.

  254. Mario,

    Your anxiety attacks remind me of myself. You may be putting too much pressure on yourself, and possibly trying to reach some impossible standard. I really dont know your situation, but that was mine. when I used to suffer, I would have attacks over really stressful deadlines at work. Then, when I started drinking, and slowly drinking more and more, I noticed that my moods started to become darker, and I was more anxious drinking. (which I used to drink to calm down, and later this turned on me).

    Then, the withdrawal from alcohol produced MORE anxiety.

    Alcohol, it really sneaks up on you, I guess as all drugs do. It seems like they work in the beginning, but drugs are a short term type of fix. Eventually your body tries to accomodate the drug, and then the drug does more harm than good.

    Alcohol wreaked havoc on my nervous system. i was already high strung as it was. Then, I started to have health problems, high blood pressure, etc. I noticed that it would come down when I stopped drinking. (they say that alcohol constricts your blood vessels).

    I would start out by writing in a journal, and making note of triggers, and what you are feeling. You may find that your beleifs are too rigid, or not true at all, or come from a place that is now outdated and doesnt suit you. Again, I dont know what the issue is, but keeping a journal is a start.

  255. I just wanted to follow up. I posted here about six months ago, complaining about headaches from withdrawal.

    What has really worked for me is tapering off. Its been six months since I wrote here last, and I have found that the symptoms dont last. They do finally get better with time. I dont drink every day like I used to. I finally made the connection that drinking makes me feel worse. As long as I only have a few a few days a week, that seems to work for me.

    Now, the only symptom I have is the night after which I think is a step in the right direction. They say that tolerance is the tell tale sign that your body is changing to accomodate the alcohol. When I was drinking huge amounts of wine and vodka, I thought I could handle it, since I never really “got drunk” could still work, function, etc. But when I would stop, I would experience horrible withdrawal symptoms.

    Now, I dont think my body runs on alcohol fuel anymore. Like a normal person, my body detoxes the next day. For some strange reason, this regimen did wonders for me.

    1) juicing fruit in the morning, (either 1/2 apple, grapefruit or orange)
    2) Heaviest meal midday, with complex carbs, like rice, high protein.
    3) light salad, soup, and dinner.

    Something about juicing, takes away my cravings, and seems to give my body what it needs. I am calmer, and when hit with a stressful event, I no longer go running compulsively for my martini for releif.

    The cravings are getting better, although if I do see someone drinking wine at dinner on TV, its a trigger. I remind myself how I will feel afterwards.

    It gets better…I’ve been tapering for six months now. Withdrawal symptoms become more mild, and then, subside. Next I am going to go dry. They say that alcohol symptoms can appear after 8 or so months, of not drinking. I hope I dont go through that.

    I think stopping slowly is really the key to managing symptoms, while including other healthy things in your diet. That seems to work for me. Cold turkey is just so brutal on the body.

  256. Jeff, Thank you for caring. My husband has moved to our rental home. ” that is where he sleeps”. I have told him I love him and he told me he loves me. Not to make excuses, but with him being a hard drinker ( beer) for about 30 years, we feel that yes he may be in LIKE with her, That he my be addicted to her. Once he talks or sees her, he is better. I know i have to fouse on me and I do, but it is hard. I do stil have that chance to be with him again. He has something in his mind that is not working right. Maybe we have grown aprat with all the drinking for 23 years that we have been together. that is all I knew, that is how my life was and then when he stopped drinking, he could see his life was differnet and alone, that is what I have been for so long, a lone. While he had been drinking for so long. He did say tonight that he loves me and that he want’s to make it work with us, but not sure on what he should do about the THING! (Her)

  257. Thanks Jeff for your reply. Well I started to quit again. I can only try to add days of not drinking rather than say I quit and be done with it because I still get these urges to drink several times a day. It has been a year since I tried to quit which lasted only 5 weeks. I can go 3 days no problem but I never suffered headaches before or the anxiety that I did this past week… I drink wine mainly but i I buy miniatures at least 2 times a week between 2-4 because you have to buy 2 to get them for .99 every time I stop for gas I wanna get them. It’s been going on for far too long and I am not 40 yet so I can see it becoming a major issue if I don’t stop.

  258. Jeff,you are right about her needing friends,BUT,everytime I have her visit,I have LOCK all of my meds up.I had major surgery on my left arm-twice within two months-and she constanly manages to pinch ten or so at evrey visit.The last visit I set her up and caught her.I/ME am the one who had major surgery and yes,she is an addict,but if she cares so little that every visit,I am playing Easter Bunny hiding pain pills I just can not do it any longer.I talk on the phone but I just can not trust her any more.HOW she gets into my safe is beyond me.No marks no broken lock and I have one key,my Son the other.Can’t keep playing crazy…

  259. Angela, I do not know your circumstances but I do know that you have to take a stand. No, I am not saying to tell him you are going to get a divorce if he doesn’t get it together. I am saying you need to start working on Angela. Start finding your inner strength. No one deserves to play second fiddle.. If at all possible and if this is what you desire, tell your husband you love him. You love him enough to give him time to work through this but you need to move in with “someone”, family member? Hopefully that makes sense. Bottom line is don’t sit around waiting on him!! Hopefully, he will get it together but whether he does or not, ANGELA still needs to find ANGELA.

  260. Don’t have to stay away from her Jan, just be strong for her. Your friendship might just be the one thing that can help her turn her life around. Good friends are very hard to find!!!!!!

  261. Denise,

    You are on track but just not there yet. Read your blog to yourself. Your goal is to make it 8 days instead of 7 days. You can beat alcohol, I KNOW YOU CAN.. I am not a doctor but I think what you are doing to your body might be worse than drinking like you were. I think, and I stress I think, stopping/starting on a frequent basis conditions your body and makes it that much harder to quit every time. I was so very fortunate to quit without medical help but looking back I would have gotten help to ensure my life was not at risk. I also, had the withdrawels you describe. You are stronger than alchohol!!!! Another thing that helped me is every morning to read what the effects of alcohol does to your body.. Fill you mind with negative thoughts about alchohol. I don’t have anything magical but I can tell you my strength came from God and I finally turned it over to him!!!!

  262. Thanks for your answer.Now I KNOW to stay away from this friend until she can be honest and really sober up-or DIE from withdrawel.Do you drinkers-not being mean here at ALL,just caring and honest-can DIE from alchohol withdrawel.It IS the only DRUG you can die of withdrawel if not medically treated.PLEASE SEEK MEDICALL HELP IF YOU DECIDE TO STOP after YEARS OF DRINKING.I CARE ABOUT YOU and WANT YOU TO HAVE A HAPPY HEALTHY GOOD LIFE!!!Jan

  263. Hi Denise. If you think that you’re going through withdrawal, you can seek help at a medical detox clinic or with your doctor. Also, there are support groups like SMART Recovery or AA that can help you during this difficult time.

  264. It is a relief I was able to find this blog and read everyone’s comments. I recently tried to quit drinking. Thursday was a week with no alcohol but I suffered from headaches and anxiety plus difficulty breathing so I drank Yesterday and my symptoms seemed to go away so I know I have been suffering from withdrawls. I feel like crying and feel really low. I drank two drinks today because I felt hungover from my binge yesterday. Does anyone know how long these headaches last? I will start trying to quit tomorrow again and hopefully will make it 8 days instead of 7.

  265. This is Angela again. My husband father has been sick and my son just moved back in from when he moved out a year ago. And now this pass Saturday my father in law passed away and these two things I did not tell you before. Sorry. I feel like I am on a roller coaster. Up and down. My husband has still seeing or talking to her about once a week, he seems to have his fix with her and then he is done for a while. have to go he just got home.

    I just don’t know what I should be doing. He is going to another counsellor, if they ever call back.

    You said the above about a act to a $exu@l manner, not understanding that, Sorry.

    She is also married with an 12 year old.

    I have been kind to him, he keeps telling me to give him time.
    I just don’t know whta to do.


  266. Good to hear from you Mario… I am a professional businessman who has been very blessed financially and many other ways. I tell you that so you know that more people than you could imagine suffer from some form of anxiety. Take advantage of the knowledge/wisdom your doctor has. We all need some help now and then. Hopefully your doctor has your longterm best interest in mind and will consider that when he presribes something for you. Also, I just have to encourage you to build your relationship with God.. He is there and will always be there. I am telling you from first hand experience in both anxiety and alcohol. Life is great and you will one day get to enjoy it like you never thought possible!!!!!

  267. Oh forgot to add some wanted to know what meds I was given I was given BUSPIRONE 7.5MG for prevention and if I had an attack I was to take HYDROXYZ HCL 25MG. I never took the second as it was not needed.

  268. First thank you guys who replied to my post! Second I want to update you. I have felt better everyday as far as the shakes and anxiety go so that’s good. This Saturday will mark 3 months sober for me so I’m happy I made it this far but It hasn’t gotten any easier alcohol was such a huge part of my social life and with Football coming up wow sooo hard. I want to start working out again because with the anxiety attacks I could not work out or have intercourse for a while because my heart would race and my anxiety would elevate. I have had intercourse recently with no abnormal heart rate so that’s great now I think I’m ready to gradually start a workout routine. Lastly I have one thing to ask I know my social anxiety is still inside me, waiting…, does anybody have any advice for what I can do to treat/overcome this I have suffered all my life with this and I am sooo tired of it. It makes no sense to me I am a confident, intelligent person but if I’m in a group like a work meeting my body goes nutts heart races, face begins to flush, sweating, ect… I appreciate any and all advice. THANK YOU IN ADVANCE! 🙂

  269. Good luck Jan!! Seems like you are a true friend. Stay strong for her but stand firm with her in her desires to be free from alcolhol.

  270. Hey Angela, awesome that you give God the glory and praise for your husband getting free from being a slave to alcohol. Do you not think the same God can give him the power to conquer other addictions? In my humble opinion we can be addicted to anything and yes your husband could be addicted to other women just the same as someone being addicted to looking at porn. As the “Addiction Blog” said, there is additional support available but bottom line is we have to admit we need help/support before we can recieve it. Good luck and I know you and your husband can have such an awesome marriage if that is what you both want.

  271. Hi Jan. You are correct to be suspicious. Alcohol in the blood points to recent use. Alcohol metabolizes very quickly in the body and does not store in fat cells, like THC or other chemicals. It seems like your friend was not able to stay sober, and did binge drink during her hour’s escape.

  272. I have a freind who swears she had been sober for about a month after being weaned off booze over a three week period with Librium.Said person stole my scooter and had a severe crash,broke her leg so bad it had to be amputated.
    Here is my question.How can you be sober foe 27 days and at the ER have a BA of .20?That is almost three times the legal limit,isn’t it?
    And then had severe hallucinations for over four days at the Hospital.And I mean SEVERE.She was given IV Librium and Halidol(sp)and was a gonzo.One Dr.said it MAY have been that her liver could not process the alchohol,but a .20 really has me wondering and NO I am not suing her for the scooter incident.Only curious as to hiow her BA could have been so high within an hour of being alone for the first time within that 27 days.Her Mom and I had ALL her money,cards and car keys-her chioce toreduce temtation-but we found she had wiped out her Piggy Bank the day of the accident and had around $10 dollars..

  273. Hi angela. “Addiction to other women”…hmmm. That’s a tricky one. While clinically, you can act out impulsively or compulsively in an attractiveness manner, I know very little about “love addiction”. It might be worth exploring this issue as well as your feelings of betrayal and hurt with a couples therapist. Your husband must be willing to end it immediately with this other woman, and to work on your relationship before you can start to look into possible reasons why he has sought comfort outside of your marriage.

  274. Need help. I have been married for 23 years. My husdand has been a beer drunker, drank almost everday 6 to 24 a day. He has been drinking since he was 15 years old, now 44. He has been sober for a year and a half. He did not go for any treatmet. Jesus Christ helped him heal. Did not seem to go though DT’S or anything. Since he was addicited to beer for so long could he be addicited to another women. He said he still loves me very much and that there is ONLY a emotionally affair with her. So, could it be in his head about being addicted to something other then the beer?

  275. Hi Mario,
    I’m not a doctor but I had also suffered from anxiety issues and had some panic attacks about 3 years ago so thought I’d share my symptoms with you in case that helps.

    My doctor gave me some diazepam for a few days which stopped the panic attacks but for a few months afterwards I kept getting some shakes and and nervous problems that weren’t alcohol withdrawal related as I hadn’t quit drinking at that stage. I also had irregular heart problems that I went to see a cardiologist for, which I was worried about. I felt that my body didn’t feel normal and sometimes it was like I was not inside it correctly – if that makes any sense. With other medication and exercise, this slowly improved over about a year and have had no irregular heart problems or nervous problems since then.

    The main issue for making it worse was any kind of stress. I found that the panic attacks had left me with a lower ability to cope with levels of stress that others cope with relatively normally. This made working and being married very difficult but it all improved over time as I learned to deal with stress, improve my health and avoid alcohol.

  276. Hey Mario, I am not a doctor but I think it is a valid concern that your doctor gave you 30 day meds for anxiety. Meds for anxiety are not something you just jump on and jump off of as far as taking. I had anxiety when I was young and took generic Paxil way too long and getting off on the meds about did me in but it was my fault because I just decided enough was enough and I quit taking them cold turkey. Now I know I should have “weened” myself off the meds. Anyway, hang in there and know that there is a lot of support out there and more people than you could imagine have struggled with anxieity at some point in their life. I can assure you not being a slave to alcohol is such a great thing!!! My life is better, my health is better, my marriage is better, and you will soon start enjoying the freedom!!!!!!!

  277. Hi Mario. Thanks for your question and your honesty.

    What meds were you prescribed? Perhaps the shaky hands are a side effect of the medication. This could be a very real possibility. Also, have you reported these symptoms to your prescribing doctor? Finally, what are your long term plans to staying away from alcohol? How’s it going with living a sober life?

  278. I have suffered with social anxiety since I was a kid. I am 37 now and I quit drinking 9 weeks ago. About a month before I quit I was stressed out about a bunch of stuff work, getting older, love life… and I started having anxiety attacks at home which scared the crap out of me cause they feel like you are or are about to have a heart attack, very scary. So I decided to stop drinking and start living healthy. After two weeks the attacks continued and I went to the Doctor he gave me 30 day meds for anxiety and the attacks stopped. Now my body still does not feel normal and I’ve noticed my hands shaky a little bit some days my heart beats faster than normal and those are the days my hands shake. What is this? Is this normal and should I get checked for other health issues?

  279. First, Congrats Lee!!!! While I cannot relate to all your symptoms I can relate. I quit smoking and drinking at the same time. I must say that with God’s strength, anything is possible. Not trying to make this a religious reply but I do give him the glory for giving me the strength to stop. There were days I really considered going back just so I would feel better. It took about 2 weeks for me for the withdrawels to not be as intense. I am sure everyone is different.

  280. I was a heavy drinker for the past 7 months. At least 4-5 “servings’ of some type of alcholol per nite. Last week, I decided I wanted to get sober for many reasons.
    This is the end of day 6 of detox for me, and I feel horrid. Leg spasms, anxiety, vomiting, diarhea, severe mood swings, depersonalization, etc. My family doc put me on 1 mg. of Klonopin every 6 hours, and over the phone today-through his nurse- told me I could take 5 mg. of Flexaril for leg spasms and shooting pain.
    I’m just wondering if this is normal. I feel like I’m not getting the correct care. Am I just being paranoid as a result of the detox?
    Thank you for any insight you can give me.

  281. Hi Scott. Alcohol can change the ph+/- in your body and cause an acidic reaction in the stomach (heartburn, or reflux). However, I’d suggest that you see a family doctor just to do some basic diagnostic work, because it may also be possible that you’ve caught a stomach virus/bacteria from fruits or vegetables or during your trip. It’s better to rule out all medical possibilities and understand the cause of a symptom than to wonder about it and not get treatment, if necessary.

  282. Hi, I recently went to Portugal, was supposed to go for the summer, I ended up drinking far too much, long sessions everyday, I had one day off in 3 weeks, I started have rushes of andrenyln sort of things going through my body, sweating, anxiety, strange dreams late in the night. I ended up flying home early, which was my second night off in about 3/4 weeks, I had sort of same symptoms but no where near as bad, its been 3 days now and I don’t have so much sore head or rushes, but my stomach is quite sore, which has caused me to get a bit of anxiety again. I just wanted to know if this is normal or if I’m just really hungry even, (diet is different back home to what I ate on Portugal?)

  283. Hi again Curious. The frequency and length of time one has been drinking does affect the severity of alcohol withdrawal and its symptoms. The central nervous system eventually loses its ability to adapt to alcohol. So even though you’ve only been drinking for a month, two years before that you were drinking excessively ALL THE TIME. So, physical dependence is very possible.

    We really cannot advise on how to taper alcohol for withdrawal. This is really a medical domain (and we are not medical experts). Can you make an anonymous phone call to seek help? If not, check out this manual which outlines protocols for alcohol withdrawal:

    Hope this helps!

  284. Hey Curious. I totally get going to a doctor not being an option as I am in upper management for the company I work with. Thankfully, I have not had a drink or cig for 12 days. Withdrawals were a lot worse than I imagined as far as the quitting smoking withdrawals. I am sure not in the medical feild but I think it is safe to say you have a problem with alcohol. That said, you have two choices. Try to beat it yourself or try to beat it with help/support. Beats the heck out of all the possible negative alternatives if you continue to drink. Just my thoughts. I wish you success in beating this. Life has enough ups and downs without adding being addicted/enslaved to something that can kill us.

  285. I have about a pint and a half on average per night. But if I go out with friends (like on a saturday night) it’s probably about a fifth when all is said and done. But like I said previously, this has only been for the past month (and I’m being honest about that). So this leads me to a couple other questions.

    Is it really possible to become physically dependent (again) after such a short time? I’m quite familiar with withdrawal and I’m having many of those symptoms. But can some form of fatigue combined with a heavier hangover feel the same? If so, what should I possibly be doing?

    I didn’t want to write an overwhelming post but I’ll share a little more info that may help. I think another part of the problem is the fact that it’s been so hot lately and that I work in a hot kitchen. So I’ve also been extremely dehydrated. To combat this, I drink a good amount of pedialyte. This seems to help some. Is there something else along these lines I could do to help?

    As for the tapering, the past two nights I didn’t want to drink. But I went ahead and had a little. It seemed to help (oddly). I really don’t want to drink during the day. But if spreading it out like that on a couple days off would help taper, I would do it. I would like to know more about that. Either way, thank you for the quick reply.

  286. Hello Curious. How many drinks are you drinking at night? IF you are physically dependent on alcohol, you will go through withdrawal regardless of tapering. And it might be best to schedule withdrawal for a long weekend, or at least 4-5 days of simultaneous rest so that you can recover. If inpatient detox is not an option, how about consulting a doctor anonymously and asking about medications that can help you during withdrawal? You don’t need to make alcohol withdrawal more difficult that it already is…and you may benefit from medical help!

  287. I’ve been doing some reading and I would like to understand something better. What I’m curious about is tapering and how it would apply to me and my situation.

    After a two year sobriety (prior to which I was a 24/7 drunk), I decided my life was in a better place and it was ok to have a few drinks here and there if I went out with friends. But over the last month my drinking has increased to having a drink every night (mostly just to help me sleep as I’ve been a chronic insomniac my whole life). But I don’t drink during the daytime (like I have in my past). Unfortunately, over the last week or so I’ve been going through withdrawals during the daytime when I’m not drinking. Also, it’s affecting my ability to do my job well.

    Going to the doctor is quite simply NOT an option. But apparently tapering off is much better than going cold turkey? But since I only drink at night, how should I be tapering to avoid the withdrawals? Am I really expected to change my drinking time to include daytime but spread out through the day? In order to eventually drink less I need to drink more often? I don’t drink beer btw (it’s vodka and I drink it straight). In short, what should I be doing?

  288. Hi Jeff. Also, another good resource is SMOKEFREE [dot] gov. THey have a 24 hour hotline, and great tips on how to stay quit. I’m proud of you for what you’ve accomplished! You’re doing a great job!

  289. Yes, any supportive comment is always helpful. The last alcohol I had was 7 days ago and the last cigaratte was 6 days ago. The withdrawels from quitting cigarettes are worse than I ever imagined. Just head/chest flu-like symptoms. Seeing how I always smoked more when I drank, I don’t see myself drinking for at least a couple months. Just not worth the risk of “what if”. I am just so thankful for sights like this. I took medication for anxiety for 20 years. I quit taking it cold turkey. Wow, the withdrawels were scary. Check out what they say about getting off Paxil. Anyway, my doctor was the one who told me I could quit cold turkey. Thankfully, I got on several sights like this and realized my others had suffered the same symptoms I was having and that in time they would pass. IF YOU KNOW ANYONE TRYING TO QUIT A HABIT OR DRUG, PLEASE ENCOURAGE THEM TO READ INFORMATION FROM SIGHTS LIKE THIS!!! THIS IS THE REAL DEAL, NOT WHAT DOCTORS ARE TAUGHT.. Thanks, again and if you are thinking about quitting smoking, look at a picture of healthy lungs compared to a smokers lungs… After looking at those pictures, there is just no way I can inhale smoke again and subject my lungs to more damage.

  290. Hi Jeff. You ask a really good and honest question. The truth is that each person is different and while some people can control their drinking, others cannot. So, if you want to explore this issue some more, you might talk with a professional counselor who can guide you through a “motivational interviewing” process to help you identify how you drink, if it’s a problem and what you want to do about it.

    Does that help?

  291. I have been a daily drinker for about 3.5 years. I have drank on and off all my life. After my 18 year old daughter was killed in a car wreck I developed a habit of drinking everyday. Not using that as a crutch, that is just when it started being daily. This week I have only drank one beer every evening. Yesterday no beer and won’t drink anymore until I am ready or confident I don’t have a problem. Sounds contradicting but I am not sure if I am addicted to the habit or the alcohol. Guess I will find out. Not having any side effects and it has now been 47 hours since I drank my last beer. My question is, if you are an alcoholic or do have a drinking problem, does that mean you should never have a drink again? I only ask because I enjoy beach vacations and there is not much better than a white sandy beach and a margarita. Just curious. Prayers and thoughts are with everyone. By the way, I also quit smoking 48 hours ago. Been taking Chantix for 2 weeks. They got to where they tasted terrible.

  292. How long does it take for a high BP (160/100, sometimes higher) to return to normal after abstaining? I have been drinking nearly everyday (all day) for more than a month, but abstained 4 days ago. I take naldolol (and have for years) which sometimes works and sometimes doesnt. I am also dealing with extreme levels of anxiety about this, so that does not help. I went to the clinic today, and got a higher dosage and some SSRIs for the anxiety. In the past, my elevate BP lasted a few days, but im going on 4 now and its high even with a lot of naldolol. Im not sure what to do, but i will be looking for a new Dr tomorrow. Hopefully, one that is more alcohol friendly than all the Drs i have had in the past. I should mention that this withdrawal did not involve any risk signs of liver problems (no liver pain, no yellow pee), just high BP. Im fairly concerned now and having a beer in hopes that it brings down my BP.

  293. Hi Alex. You have my prayers and support. I might suggest that you let a doctor know your plans. Perhaps there are also some other medications which can help during withdrawal. And get your thiamine levels checked. Also, do you have friends or family who can help support you?

  294. I would like to say to those who have made it through, congrats on coming this far and remember why you decided to quit. It is MISERABLE living as a slave to something. Freedom is wonderful and i hope i can post on here in a month or two and claim i have regained mine. I am 36 and have been drinking since i was 17. I drink daily, 12 beers, 7 days a week and have not missed a day in 3 yrs. I have quit drinking twice in the past, both cold turkey. The first time i felt flu like symptoms, the second time i felt depressed, anxious and couldnt sleep for the first 3 or 4 nights. I would lay there and it felt as though i was staring at the back of my eyelids but come morning i would fall asleep and nap for a few hours and this lasted maybe 3 or 4 days then i slept like a log and felt like i was getting sleep i had deprived my body of for years.. I only stayed sober for about 4 months and relapsed. This was 2 or 3 yrs ago and since then i have been back to daily drinking. Today i will begin to taper myself off at home and tonight is my first night to start. I have battled anxiety problems for many years and i think the anxiety and the drinking go hand in hand, i drank to relieve it but the drinking is what was causing it so i have lived a life enslaved to alcohol which caused my problems then offered itself as the solution. I have no choice but to quit and quit for good, i of course fear the possible anxiety i may face… I have 2 valium as a just in case for when i taper off to zero alcohol. I would appreciate any prayers and good wishes. Its time to face the music for me. I hope the song is short lived and not too terrible. Good luck to you all and i wish you all the best.

  295. Hi Scott. It’s true that people who have been through bad alcohol withdrawal episodes are more likely to have worsened episodes during future detoxes. The risk of DTs and seizures increases if you’ve had them before, as well. I wish you ALL THE BEST of luck and happiness during this term of sobriety. And please let us know if there is any way that we can help refer you to programs, services or support.

  296. I found myself looking for this information about the question, we all seem to ask? How long? and it is somewhat re-assuring to us, when we share common ailments from the personal hell we put ourselves through when we are “lucky” enough to make that choice for ourselves.I was a functional alcoholic for 20 years, lost my wife, my family job,ground zero, not so functional anymore! I quit,a year after the split, became a regular at AA, and collected my coins, 24 hrs, 1 month 2 month 3month, 6month, and 1 year. The withdrawl, was bad,curled up in a ball like the flu for a week, but then felt much stronger with no physical impairments. Shortly after my 1 year, I let myself slip,had 3-4 beers on my Birthday, felt guilty the next day, so went to the next week-end and had another 3-6 beers one night, and bang-it was back as my old “friend”daily. Two years of daily drinking, 6-8 beers after work, week-ends lost count, always beer, but alcohol is alcohol, I just always preferred beer.One Monday morning, called in sick, tried to tapper with a 4 pack of coolers and 2 beers, 1 beer and 1 cooler still in the fridge. I have been 32 days sober.But I need to tell,the utter complete agony of a second self detox, I consider myself fortunate I did not end up in the hospital or worse. Rightly so according to the forums (that helped immensely) I took an awful risk not going to emergency.Day 2 was when it appeared slowly, by Day 3, never had a headache, but heart palpitations,huge emotions of fear and anxiety, which would come in waves….oh terrible.this lasted intensely for 7-10 days, scary.Unlike me detox 2 years ago, I did not escape unscathed this time, my vision is horrible,and like my arms from the elbow down to my pinky and ring fingers feel damaged as a result of the damage the alcohol has done to my nerves. I can only hope it gets better with time. Bottom line, never say never, with this cunning “friend” always calling your name.If you are luck enough to get through one detox….just remeber the second one will be living hell.

  297. Hi Dallas, Thanks for the reply!! I loved your response!! Very similar pattern. It has been almost 3 weeks, (no wine at 5pm to unwind) and feeling great. I really didn’t understand that I needed to get a hold on this evening ritual!! Love to cook, so with a glass of wine and the cutting board (music included) it was so easy to pour a glass of good wine. I agree with you…stress and anxiety symptoms, were perhaps the reason to reach for a glass of w. Exercise is better than ever, always kept in shape, realizing how it helps overall!!! Doing great, do not even feel anxious any longer…this blog helped me tremendously!! Will stay in touch, thanks addiction blog!!! Will recommend to others!

  298. Addiction Blog..That is exactly what we thought,as a malpractice siut is in action.Due to medical negligance her right leg HAD to be amputated in Sept of 11.Thankfully in another Hospital.Her Mom and I had her keys and all access to any money so she would not be tempted to drink again.HER decision,not ours and she no desire to drink any longer.CYA,yeppers..I have never heard or a delayed D.T episode in my medical life.NEVER!!

  299. Hi Jan. I have heard that DTs can be delayed, but 14 days seems a long time. It’s more like within the first week of the last drink. I winder if the hospital is just trying a CYA approach?

  300. Hi Mike. Some people decide to abstain from alcohol totally when they know that they have a problem with alcohol. Others decided to set a drinking limit.

    I’d suggest that you talk with a counselor or psychotherapist who specializes in treating drinking problems in order to come to the decision about how much to drink, or not. You can also check out the SMART Recovery and Rational Recovery programs and learn more about cognitive behavioral self-help that you can apply to drinking.

    Are you willing to seek help?

  301. im going on 6 days without a beer. been drinking for over 10. about 2 yrs everyday. 4 to 6 beers a night. i feel pretty good for the most part, except i experience anxiousness, irritability, and hard to fall asleep at night. my worst withdrawl symptoms have been being hungover and coming down. panic feeling, fear, bad dreams,rapid heartbeat, diareha. In December of last year i went 10 days w/o drinking and felt good then decided to have one beer at a restaurant with my dinner, and started drinking daily again like it was nothing and a part of my routine. I realize i have an addiction. It runs in my family. I love beer, but dont like the side effects of it. im drinking a gallon of water a day and taking multi vitamins daily. i dont want to drink daily anymore but on a social basis. What should i do?

  302. I have a dear,dear friend who stopped drinking July 14th of 2011.WE home detoxed with Librium over a two week period and she was fine.She went to the park–SOBER-and was hit by a truck-11 broken bones in R tibia.THEY the Hospital put her on dilude?? a very,very strong narcotic and in 24 hours started to hallucenate.After FOUR days of IV Librium,….no change.Hallucenations were worse.I FORCED them to take her off the Diluded and in 20 hours she was FINE.The so called Hosptal swears it was a delayd D.T episode..but I saw the rapid changes with four 25 mg Librium in her at the ER.The D.Ts STOPPED in an hour.
    Is this true about the “dalayed D.Ts.?I have Never heard of anything like this before and I used to be a Lab Tech and do drug and alchohol testing daily/Jan

  303. Hi Karen, glad to hear from you. I used to have 1 – 2 glasses of wine most nights for about 10 years with a few breaks along the way. While I can’t comment from a medical perspective I can say that on the occasions I stopped, I was fine for a few days but after a week or so I started to get symptoms like headaches, insomnia, raised blood pressure, mild anxiety and the most annoying was tingling in the extremities. This would subside a few days to a few weeks so anecdotally I blamed alcohol directly but also after speaking to my doctor about it, she said that it may also be stress and anxiety symptoms that had been relieved by the alcohol surfacing. She stressed that this wasn’t a reason to drink but to stop and deal with the stress in a healthier way like exercise etc. I took her advice and feel a lot better and now just have a glass of really good wine on special occasions.

    However for me, nothing relieved stress at the end of a long day and as quickly as a glass of wine so I sometimes want to reach for this but have trained myself (slowly) to use other methods so I don’t get back into the regular drinking habit.

  304. Hello Karen. Welcome!

    One of the symptom that you mention – headache – can be caused by a number of different factors, and may not be attributed directly to alcohol withdrawal. So, you may want to look into other possible medical reasons for a persistent headache.

    As far as irritability and agitation go, these behavioral/emotional symptoms can persist for some time after you stop drinking in people who choose to get sober. It might help to talk with a counselor or psychologist with experience treating people who choose to abstain from alcohol, seek out self-help groups like SMART Recovery, Rational Recovery or AA, or speak with a spiritual advisor or guide. The underlying cause of these symptoms is often belief based or attitudinal and can be relieved with cognitive behavioral therapy or other shifts in perception.

  305. Hi, Have completely stopped drinking wine (only good wine) for almost two weeks. Yesterday and today have begun to experience some strange feelings-agitation, headache, and irritability. My question is: how long can I expect these symptoms to last? About a year ago, I stopped drinking wine for about 5 months and gradually begun having one or two glasses per night. You know the rest of the story. I do not drink more than 3 glasses of wine in any given evening. Give me some feedback…need to hear from others who can relate. This is very cool to be able to talk to people with similar situations. Thxs, Karen

  306. Hi Chris. It sounds like you might be drinking enough to provoke withdrawal when alcohol is not in your body. This is one sign that you may have an alcohol problem.

    Yes, it might be a good time to stop altogether. If you decide to stop drinking, be sure to inform your family doctor, and seek advice from about where to find resources for stopping drinking. Although you may not feel comfortable with the idea of being an “alcoholic”, the first step to getting help is admitting that you have a problem.

    Please let us know if we can help direct you to local resources.

  307. Hi Gino. Yes, I agree. Chronic drinking can take a while to recovery from physically. You might look into testing the thiamine levels in your body, as alcohol depletes the body of thiamine we get from our diets. And look into a thiamine rich diet. Also, SSRIs might help in early recovery, which are usually prescribed for depression, but which might help balance out serotonin levels in the central nervous system. I’d suggest that you schedule a physical check up with your primary physician to address these issues, and to get a professional opinion about other ways to enhance the way that your body feels. Healthy body, healthy mind!

    And congratulations on this long without taking a drink! Do you have A.A. in your area? You might really benefit from working on the 12 steps of A.A. If this doesn’t appeal to you, check into other psychotherapy models such as SMART Recovery, or Practical Recovery.

  308. I drink about 10 beers a night I make it threw the whole day
    Just fine but by 6:00pm I feel strange I can’t sleep unless I have a beer
    Sometimes if I try not to I wake up with what feels like a hangover. I’ve been sick for 4 days haven’t had a beer yet seems like I’m sicker then I’ve been ever befor seems like the flu but do you think the stop drinking is making the symptoms are worse because of not drinking? Maybe this is a good time to stop.

  309. I have had some moderate cravings but nothing that I havent overcame. It has now been 20 days for me without alcohol. I still feel a little strange at times but overall I feel much better than I did when I was drinking heavily. I have been staying away from the bars and partys. I have really found my strength in a relationship with God. I know that He has provided me with the strength to overcome my drinking problem. This 20 days is the longest I have been completely sober for over 3 years and it feels amazing. I can tell my body and my brain are still adjusting to sobriety. I think for someone who has a history of heavy binge drinking that these strange feelings come along later than someone who drinks every day because my body has been used to going 5 to 7 days without alcohol on occasions over the past few years but it has never went more than 10 days. I feel like I am no in the most crucial part of my sobriety because around the 15 day mark I started having more anxiety but the past few days it has diminished. Would you agree with that self-assesment, that my body is still adjusting to sobriety?

  310. Hi Gino. Thanks for your question. Yes, it’s most likely that the worst of the symptoms of withdrawal have passed. Do you have cravings to drink? Also, what’s your long term strategy for staying away from alcohol?

  311. Hey all,

    Just wanted to share my story and see if anyone has some helpful info.. Im 23, have been a binge drinker since 18 but really didnt start to binge drink heavily until 21. Within the last 8 months I really been drinking a lot. I have went a week or so in between binge drinking episodes but never more then 2 weeks. I am finally serious about getting sober and have now been alcohol free for 9 days. I suffer from alcohol induced anxiety because of my heavy drinknig. I feel pretty good today and really havent experienced many withdrawal symptoms over the past 9 days. Some anxiety and nausea, and some depersonaliztion but nothing I havent experience before. Just wondering if I should expect withdrawal symptoms to worsen or if I am out of the clear?

  312. Hi Faydra. In terms of chronic, heavy alcohol use (just as with any drug), tapering is a way to try to minimize the severity of withdrawal symptoms. But it concerns me that you refuse medical intervention during detox. There are pharmaceutical interventions that can ease symptoms. Plus, if you have a history of heavy drinking, DTs and/or seizures are always possible. Instead of hospital, is there an inpatient detox in your area?

  313. Wow. This is very disturbing information! I’ve been a lifelong member of AA since age 24. Never touched a drink for 20 years till I had such insomnia going thru a nightmare divorce at age 44 that I thought maybe wine would help so I could put my kids off to school. Well slowly I fell of the wagon for 4 years and nearly died.
    In the meantime I have very severe back problems which the last few years I’ve needed narcotics for. My grown kids have been pill addicts and this monthim very short. And last month my Pain specialist forgot to send them and went on a weeks vacation! I got so panicked I’ve been drinking again for 2 weeks. I hate yself.
    I am 28 hours w/out any drink at all, but I was hoping just getting chills was it and I’ll be over it tomorrow! Now. You all have me panicked! I refuse to go to hospital.
    P.S. I’ve never heard of tapering…is that better than cold turkey?
    Love to all,

  314. Hi Alley. Thanks for sharing more about your experience with alcohol detox. It sounds ike your symptoms are pretty severe. How muhc were you drinking daily? And do you have a plan for staying away from whiskey? Many people can not do what you are doing! Good job!

  315. I am years 23 years old. I have been drinking whiskey everyday for close to 2 years. I am 140lbs, i dont see the connection between age n health or whatever for detox symptoms! Im on day 5 of detox, it took 2 days just to start feeling them. Lost my vision, tremors, sweats, insomnia, fatigued, nauses. Dam near hospitalized. Never underestimate ur detox symptoms. Cold turkey sucks.

  316. Thanks for the update, Dallas. I am do very glad to hear the you are doing well and that the symptoms could be attributed to short term stress. Congratulations on your decision to stop drinking. I have found increased energy, health and well being as a result in my own life. And if someone asks you if you want a drink, just be prepared to say, “No, thank you.” Why you don’t drink? Health reasons.

  317. Thanks for the suggestion about seeing my doctor. I’ve done this and reported my symptoms and she sent me off for blood tests and an MRI and all came back normal which I was pleased about.

    As far as the symptoms went that I reported, they had peaked at around 10 days which had me quite worried but have gone completely now. I had also had high blood pressure along with it and that’s returned to normal.

    My doctor said it could have been from alcohol withdrawal but more likely stress as the blood tests were all normal.

    I have decided since then to avoid alcohol completely as it hasn’t really contributed anything positive to my life. Thanks again for the advice 🙂

  318. Glad to help, Ali. You sound motivated and positive. Please let us know if there are other ways that we can support you in your choice to stop drinking.

  319. Thanks for the advice and i will look at the self help programs.

    The after effects of this bout of drunkeness were intersting to observe and feel.
    For the past few weeks as I mentioned, I have not been drinking at all, and I have been running everyday..and along with my CBT everything was pretty sorted.

    Post drinking, I felt a real low,..not just hangover low, but as if all the healthiness and balance that had prevailed over the last weeks had been suddenly tossed to the waves
    This, is of course, the depressent effect of alcohol..but I have never been able to measure this against a prolonged spell of balanced exercise and healthiness..
    They are two Polar opposites without doubt, and this experience has furnished me with a new awareness.
    In CBT the aim is to swap negative core beliefs for positive ones,…well, I have made a decision to swap my unhealthy habits for healthy ones..

  320. Hi Question. Usually, the more serious symptoms of alcohol withdrawal appear 3-5 days after the last drink (seizure, DTs, hallucinations, etc.). But is a terrible headache 100% coincidental to stopping drinking? It doesn’t seem so to me.

    I’d suggest that you schedule a general physical exam with your family doctor as a baseline. Talk about your alcohol consumption (more than one drink per day or four servings per sitting for women is “problem drinking”) and get some more information. Your decision to abstain from alcohol or cut back is a personal one. But generally, people who develop alcohol dependence are encouraged to stay away from drinking.

  321. My husband and I drink red wine regularly. We will often split a bottle and sometimes even drink 2 bottles. We decided to trade our wine for exercise and now 4 days later i have a terrible headache. I don’t feel like its a coincidence. Is it possible to have no withdrawal symptoms for three days only to develop them on the fourth day? Should I be concerned about this? Additionally-if you have alcohol dependence to the point where you do have withdrawals does that mean you should never drink again?

  322. Hello Ali. Good for you for the self-awareness and recognition of what’s going on. I can totally relate. Right before I went to see a psychologist about my drinking, I drank enough to get drunk.

    One think that might help is to take an alcoholism screening test. You can find some basic ones here:

    The next thing is to look into self-help programs like SMART Recovery or Rational Recovery, which teach you principles of psychotherapy to make decisions about drinking that are right for you. You might also want to look into harm reduction techniques for alcohol. These are all alternatives to 12 steps.

    Does this help?

  323. I am trying to stop the drinking, and have been successful up until Saturday!

    I haven’t touched anything for 6 weeks or so,..and then when out and got wasted!

    I used to drink most weekends,heavily,…but then cut right back after having some Cognitive Behavioral Therapy.

    The thing, is, I haven’t been “resisting urges” for the 6 weeks or so that I haven’t had a drink,..I genuinely haven’t been interested in drinking, really hasn’t been an issue..I have been doing other things.

    The Sun popped out on Saturday, and i went off to the pub full of smiles and got hammered!..really drunk!..I hadn’t eaten before I went and it was just ridiculous,..I got back circa 03,00 am, after about a 10 hour session in the pub!!

    That is insane!
    I was 42 yesterday, and i wish this to be a true Watershed in my personal development.

    Can anyone else here, relate to what I am saying?

    I don’t think I am an alcoholic…but I know that when I do drink, it can be a very unhealthy practice.
    Has anyone got any advice?…has anyone else been through anything similar?

    I don’t wish to go to AA or anything similar,..I know that it works for some,..but it’s not my thing..but any other advice would be greatly appreciated.


  324. Hello Dallas. I’d suggest that you check in with your primary physician to report these symptoms. There are many neurological and systemic conditions that might cause the symptoms that you describe…so I hesitate to peg them to alcohol withdrawal. Still, your doctor can run necessary tests, refer you to a specialist and provide you with overall peace of mind as a result. Please let us know how it goes!

  325. Hi, I’ve recently experienced some mild anxiety, insomnia, blood pressure up around 140 and numbness and tingling in my hands, feet and parts of my face etc. It’s only started in the last week and six days ago I gave up alcohol. Until I read this blog I didn’t think that would be the issue but now I’m not so sure. I drink one standard drink (1/4 bottle of wine) about six nights per week for about the last 10 years with a few days off here and there. Could that be enough alcohol to cause withdrawal symptoms? I don’t feel the urge to drink or anything and have never drunk more than two standard drinks in one night in 10 years. It really been to relieve stress at the end of the day. Just the numbness and tingling is really annoying, I run about 5km 4 times a week and that takes most of the symptoms away, but then they return at night when I’m tired. If it is alcohol withdrawal, how long can I expect the symptoms?

  326. Hi John. Congratulations on your decision to stop drinking! That is a major life milestone. Good for you!

    I’d suggest that you see a doctor to address long term withdrawal from alcohol. The questions that you ask are really best answered by a medical professional with experience in alcohol detox. But please, let us know how it goes and what the recommendations are.

  327. Hi, I’m on day 14. I have drank beer daily for 20 years. I had little in the way of withdrawal symptoms, but now I’m feeling very anxious. A little research indicates PAWS, which can last up to a year or more. My blood pressure is now high, over the 140/90 maximum allowed for my job, which will be measured for a renewal certification due in about 60 days.
    My question…..since my body is so used to it, should I start drinking 2 beers(max) a day to lower my bp?
    Will it lower my bp?
    I’d rather not start again, but this job is very important.
    After the certification, I can stop alcohol again and work through the anxiety before the next renewal. I do want to quit completely.
    What do you think?

  328. Hi Alicia. Good for you! Congratulations on getting sober.

    As I understand it, the most uncomfortable symptoms of withdrawal from alcohol occur in the first week, or so. The more serious symptoms of delirium tremens or seizures occur later in life, after prolonged chronic and heavy drinking. But it may be worth the money to just go and check in with a doctor. You can get some peace of mind and also ask for suggestions on a lifestyle without alcohol.

  329. Strange smell of the breath can have many causes. When caused by severe liver disease the “foetus hapaticus” = smell of liver, usually doesn’t appear until the patient has other severe symptoms of liver failure such as jaundice, bleedings, confusion etc.
    The perhaps most common cause of changed smell of the breath is an undetected diabetes. In this case the smell is somewhat like nail polish remover and sometimes it can be like over ripe apples. If you have experienced abnormal thirst and increased urination diabetes is very likely. In any case you should see a physician as soon as possible.
    The acute alcohol withdrawal usually is over within 5-8 days but some people suffer from depressions, sleep disturbances and other diffuse symptoms for weeks or even months after a long period of drinking.

  330. Hi,

    I have ben 16 days sober, i have been drinking since i was 15 it went from 4 beers a night to now more than 15 beers or until all the alcohol is gone. i am now 22 years old. i forgot about detox & since i’m a heavy drinker & would drink fives times out of the week, i’m starting to have anxiety about not doing detox, after 16 days of sobriety am i in the clear or should i still go do a detox? i haven’t had withdrawals i don’t think i just can’t sleep but thats nothing new & i am diagnosed with agoraphobia so i don’t know whats normal anymore.

  331. Hi Vee. I see the problem. The symptoms that you describe seem to be related to alcohol withdrawal or a flu/virus. Alcohol withdrawal can last for several days, but is relieved by resumed drinking. So you can always test that theory by drinking again. However, I’d suggest that you see a general physician and get a nose/throat culture to rule out bacterial infection and to discuss the symptoms.

    Are you planning to drink again? Do you want to stop? Because given your description of drinking quantities, it seems that you have a drinking problem.

  332. I am wondering if it is likely that I am experiencing alcohol withdrawal. For the past month I have been drinking excessively everyday, with a minium of at least 4 litres of cider a day but at times could include large bottles of spirits, wine, and lager. I havent had a drink now for 2 days but yesterday became increasingly ill experiencing intense nausea and vomiting, diarrhoea, sleeplessness, heart palpitations, cold shivers and headache. I dont know whether this could be just a stomach bug, but no one around me seems to have had these symptoms. If so, how long will it last and is it wise to stay off the alcohol for the near future? Thanks Vee x

  333. Hello Bill. Thanks for your question. I’d suggest that you go and see a doctor. From what I’ve read, musty odor or sweet breath can be a symptoms of hepatic encephalopathy, a worsening of brain function that occurs when the liver is no longer able to remove toxic substances in the blood. It’s a good idea to get some blood work done just to rule out the chances of liver problems.

  334. I’ve not had a drink now for 14 days but a couple of times now my wife says she can smell alcohol on me this has led to one big arguement is this common

  335. I’m finally out of it and I’ve promised myself that this was the last time.
    NEVER AGAIN!!! (I know… one day at a time)
    Since I’ve only been drinking heavily around the clock for less than a month this time I managed to get through this by myself, and a friend, without hospital care. I tried to copy the hospital’s method, but I used alcohol instead of diazepam (Valium). The idea is to give the patient a dose of sedative that makes the withdrawals endurable but not to totally eliminate them. In that case you’d just postpone the withdrawals or get a benzodiazepine dependence instead.
    I waited until it was really rough: about one and a half day. I then drank 8 beers a day for 1 day, 6 for 2, 4 for 1 and 2 for 1 day and thereafter no alcohol at all. It was not easy and I still had a medium severe+ withdrawal, but it was manageable. I had an old reliable friend who gave me the “doses” of alcohol and she also took care of my wallet and bankcards for this week. I do not think that I would have managed to make these 26 beers last for 5 days without help. Its now 3 days since my last 2 beers and I’ve been out skeeing several hours this afternoon. I still feel a bit sweaty and jumpy but this is nothing compared to what I felt like a few days ago. I do not recommend this method to everybody but it might be working for some people with a lower degree of dependence and an unproblematic social situation. As I said before: good luck and all my love to all you fighters out there!!!! It’s never to late to change our lives!

  336. Hi Alcoholic Male. Thanks so much for sharing about the real effects alcohol has on the body. I hope that you can find happiness outside of the bottle. Please let us know how we can help support you in your recovery.

  337. I’m once again in the middle of fighting the sweats, shakes, unbearable panic attacks, vomiting, restless legs and arms, diorrea, strange sound and visual distortions and, and and….
    First of all I’d like you to know that english is not my native language. Please ignore my misspellings and grammatical misstakes.
    Thank you all for your stories. It feels good to know that I’m not alone in this struggle to get my life back.
    I’ve allways liked to drink and in my late teens I drunk several times a week. I’ve very seldom been overly drunk. I liked to have a “good buzz” while staying in control. In my 20:s and early 30:s I had some alcohol 4-7 nights a week but I never experienced any severe withdrawals. Sometimes a bit sweaty and edgy the next day but I had no problems to stay sober during the days at work. When 38 I’got unemployed and at the same time inherited some money. My drinking slowly started to escalate. I woke up at night within a few hours of my last drink and I started to drink around the clock. I still never got really drunk but I kept a “low” but steady alcohol level in my blood 24/7 for almost a year before I decided to quit. Since I never had too much withdrawals before, I didn’t expected it to bee so bad. I was WRONG! After lying on the bathroom floor for a day or two the symptoms just got worse and worse. After convulsing, constantly vomiting and having a pulse rising above 140/ minute I ended up in the hospital. They told me that in the future I will get physiologically dependent much more quickly for each withdrawal and relapse in drinking. Stupid as I was I thaught that I could at least drink a little during a christmas holiday. It took less than two weeks to get me back to what the first time took 20 years. Please don’t think that you are immune to becoming dependent and DO reduce your drinking before you start to feel really bad withdrawal symptoms. Good luck and love to you all!!

  338. Hi Marci. I’m so glad to hear that your mother came through the delirium tremens and is not feeling better. Are her weekly classes on the topic of alcohol recovery? She may want to supplement this with support groups like AA, SMART Recovery or Rational Recovery. Have you ever heard of them?

  339. Thank you! My mom is now almost at week 3 of not drinking.. I haven’t seen her look and feel this healthy is years! She is still gaining a lil strength back but its wonderful! I have my mom back! She is very happy too!

    The dt did hast for about 9 days.the worst dayd of my life. She doesn’t remember a lot about it, but the thought of it scares her enough not to drink anymore. Thank you guys for all your support, and posts!

    Oh! She has been home from the hospital for about a week, and she starts weekly classes this week,which she is excited about!

  340. Jason, sounds to me like ur going through withdrawls, sorry man. We have all been there. Stopping and setting urself up with some good support would be best for u. I’ve toyed with that for 2 years, and the answer is that somewhere u crossed the line and once u do that you can never go back to any type of drinking! Every alcoholics fantisy is to go back to social drinking, but we can’t cause just a small amount of alcohol can bring ur withdrawls back, mostly be worse than the ones before. So I hope I was helpfull to you and goodluck

  341. Hi Jason. I think that you may want to see a general doctor, and potentially ask for a referral to see a psychologist or psychiatrist.

    From what I understand, withdrawal occurs after periods of heavy, chronic drinking. Which does not match your description of occasional drinking which is sometimes excessive.

    Certainly, it’s best to avoid alcohol totally if you feel these symptoms are related to drinking. But there may be some underlying issues that a counselor or medical doctor can help you with. And there is no shame in asking for medical help for a medical problem. Anxiety that does not permit you to live your life normally can be treated with pharmaceuticals (prescription meds) or even cognitive behavioral therapy (learning how to cope).

    I do hope that you can seek out medical help. I think that your questions can be better answered by a medical professional.

  342. I have some questions regarding alcohol withdrawal. About 8 years ago I was hit with a panic attack and subsequent “days of walking nightmares”.. i slowly came out of it. Before, during and after i drank. Not a lot, not a little, just an average amount. Drinks withs friends on Friday, maybe 3 or 4 on a Tuesday. after the panic attack I developed these strange anxiety issues. These would be easily controllable sometimes, to out right dreadful. I found that having a few drinks calmed my nerves and it all went away.. I continued on this course for 8 years. I dont feel I was drinking too much at all. I would never black out, never vomit, rarely have hangovers etc.. Recently, Ive been dealing with back to back flu’s i believe. I was sick, cough, phlegm etc.. both lasting a few weeks, about 2 weeks apart. During this time I hardly drank at all. When I started to feel a little better I decided to have some drinks..I didnt get drunk.. but the next three days were like the same “walking nightmare” 8 years ago. I felt as if my mind was not my own. Everything scared me, Insomnia, it was 3 days of unbearable dread like i lost my mind. This isnt normal for me when i drink but is noticeable now and feels just like 8 years ago. I continued to lay off for a bit and went to a wedding recently. Still feeling under the weather, I got drunk. That night, again insomnia, anxiety, then 3 days of hell again. The symptoms are mainly mental. I dont have tremors or chills or sweating. just “FEAR”. I couldnt drive, watch tv, walking around was hellish…anyway..a week or two went by and I had 2 beers with dinner.. and again!, feeling paranoid and fearful for three 2 beers!.. and they were over a 3 hour period. Im confused to what this is!. Ive been drinking for years without this happening. It also hapened once and went away…was it a weird virus? will I ever be able to drink socially again? It feels like if i dont drink ill be anxious, if i do (to calm my nerves) ill suffer days of hell. I havent drank in a while now, I dont feel as if im going through withdrawal. Im just scared to try and go through hell. I just want to feel normal again if i drink.
    So the question is.. if this IS alcohol withdrawal, is it reversable? meaning if i am sober for a while (how long?) and chemistry rebalances, can i go back to have a few drinks a week? Or is this something that means you can never drink alcohol ever again EVER? (I keep reading this scenario everywhere, however this happened 8 years ago and WENT AWAY…. im just scared to think it was a fluke and im broken forever)

  343. Hi Pink. I drank the amount have, about 50 oz of wine a night, or 24 oz, and vodka. I’ve been doing this for five years now. I attempted to quit about two years, and my withdrawals symptoms were horrific, shakes, tremors, nausea, headaches, tingling in my fingers at night, and horrific anxiety. It was absolutely horrific. I think I stopped drinking for about a month. Then, I started up again, drinking 2 glasses a day, then a bottle of wine a day. That lasted until about now. Now, I am day 5 going without, and my symptoms have been mild, so far, with the exception of dealing with a headache that seems to rear its ugly head in late afternoon, and continues on and off until bedtime. What helps me alot is the following protocol

    1) for anxiety and sleep, I take Gaba 750 mg, Valerian, and Melatonin. It does wonders. I sleep really really good, and wake up refreshed. Sometimes I will take St.Johns Wort with it too.

    2) I juice spinach juice.carrots/wheatgrass in the morning, make sure I have a complex carb breakfast.

    Ever since i stopped drinking, I have a crazy appetite, especially for CARBS! I did not eat that much at all, come to find out. I could get buy on a salad, or one meal a day.. now, I am eating all the time!

    The headaches are driving me crazy. I dont understand, I feel more energetic and more fatigued at the same time. one moment I feel happy, and the next I am irritable as heck!

    I was forced to really stop drinking because I literally no longer have the budget for it, and I know that the time is now. I know that I am poisoing my body, and I actually feel like crap when I drink anyway. So finally, I had to stop.

    But these headaches are driving me crazy!!!

  344. Thanks for checking in, Genie. Talk about draining! It’s smart to keep a bit of distance from a “dry drunk”. I wish you the best as well as your friend. Hopefully he will come around to believing that treatment can help.

  345. Hi, Thanks again for your reply. And you are right again, unfortunately. He’s not had a drink for nearly two weeks and is on the antabuse still. When we last discussed the drug and alcohol clinic and counselling he was still in denial about needing it. I’m distancing myself now because I’m feeling drained and useless about being to help him further. Before he was miserable because he was an alcoholic and now he’s miserable because he’s a recovering alocholic. So, it is as you say. I feel he has to ‘man up’ himself now or else all he will achieve is a longer life, not a better one.

    To Marci, I hope your mum is doing better now. More still, I hope you and your family are OK. Take care of each other and try to fit in some happy times to help keep your thoughts and spirits up. lol

  346. Hi Marci. Symptoms of delirium tremens can occur up to 7 – 10 days after the last drink. How is your mother now?

  347. My mom has been a heavy drinker for years, she was sober for about 3 months, then off and on drinking from there. She would drink about 4-5 strong hard alcohol drinks a day. when she finally decided to quit on Saturday, she started getting her worst nightmare. delirium tremors. It started slow, she knew her surroundings, she just was seeing and hearing things she knew was not there. we took her to the hospital, where she is being carefully monitored, and given medication to help. Now visiting my mom… she doesn’t know who we are, or her surroundings at all. she is now on day 7. when will the delusional stage stop? i know the whole process takes months, but is this normal?

  348. Hi Genie. If your friend is serious about getting sober, you might recommend a support group like AA, SMART Recovery or Rational Recovery. These groups address the underlying emotional and psychological issues of WHY alcoholics drink. Until he clears this up, he will probably be a “dry drunk” or generally unhappy in life. So prepare for lots of blaming, self pity and general discord until real change happens.

  349. Hi again,

    Thanks for your reply. I followed your advice and he was in touch over the weekend, still drinking as his appointment last week was a false start. He starts Antabuse today though, assuming he carries through.
    I am a believer of positive energy. I keep him tucked up in my heart and my thoughts high for his recovery. Thanks for that last sentence in particular, I’ll keep that with me when times are tough.
    I have another question now though. He’s been quite a serious heavy drinker for more than 10 years, what might I expect will happen to him over the next week (or several!) and what further adivce for me to help him ( and myself – he can get very dark and twisty when drunk) as he adjusts to being sober?
    That’s a big question – sorry – but I’m a complete novice at this and would like to be prepared if possible, I seem to be his only friend now.
    Thanks again for your help, Genie.

  350. Hi Genie. I think that you instincts to stay away may be right on. If you’ve left a message (or two or three) to let your friend know that you are available…that’s about all that you can do. If you practice a religion or have a spiritual practice, perhaps the best thing that you can do is to hold your friend in your heart and say prayer for him. This kind of support takes faith but can increase your connection with your friend on another level.