Saturday September 20th 2014

Alcohol self help

What can you do to stop drinking?

If you are a person who happened to come across this article and are wondering about how to quit for yourself, I’ll share some tips with you.

1. You are not alone.

Some good news, if you feel you have a problem, you probably do and you are amongst 10%+ of the population that has an addiction problem. Addiction is a mental problem that leads to physical manifestations and if treated, including treatment by self, it can be brought into remission. You are not alone and if YOU want to stop, help yourself by getting some education and help from someone knowledgeable. Truly good news. What happens to body after stop drinking alcohol?

2. You’ve got to want to stop drinking alcohol FOR YOURSELF.

There is no one way to stop drinking alcohol, understand that. I do in fact know people of extremely strong character and unwavering stubbornness that have stopped entirely on their own and have truly used only self help. On the other extreme, I know of far more who have gone through the motions of several detoxes, rehab centers and 12 step groups and are still using today. They get help externally, but by continuing to use and do things their way, they fail to help themselves.

I would strongly suggest that no one stops unless they do it 100% for self. Others may put pressure on and give good reason to stop, but no one succeeds who does not want a clean life for themselves.

3. You can stop drinking.

The first thing naturally is to put a plug in the jug (cork in the bottle, a flush down the toilet) and stop for today. When your head is clear enough and you’ve gone through the necessary alcohol withdrawal duration (up to 7 days), do a little research about addiction. There is tons of information available. This, my friend, is self-help. It may well lead to getting help and solving your problem.

Do you want more from life?

But once you stop and clean your head from the booze for a while, you will face a deeper question: Do you want to just stop drinking or do you want a better life?

Stack the odds in favor of success.

If getting a life means you live sober and enjoy a vast majority of your waking hours with serenity then give your self some self help. Make a decision to stop drinking just for you, then stop and learn more about alcohol problems. You can then get the help you need to help you help yourself.

If you are so capable, why are you in the situation your in today? Is that sane behavior?

P.S. There are many who wonder about what can be done to stop others from drinking. Unfortunately, I usually get this question from a person who has a problem drinker (druggie) in their lives. In these cases, I suggest that you check out Al-Anon, AlaTeen or talk with a counselor about issues of co-dependence.

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12 Responses to “Alcohol self help
Session Therapist
4:20 pm August 30th, 2011

I think motivation is the most important step for healing from addiction. The addicts leave the control of their life to their addiction and it is difficult but not impossible to get the control back. These items may help them to remember that they can do it.

Isaias Chuck
10:32 am September 28th, 2011

Wow..Awesome. This is really inspiring.

trisha
4:54 pm November 9th, 2011

I’ve been very depressed lately, over family problems.,etc.
So I started drinking alot lately (smirnoff vodka) 1/2 half pint to a whole one. It seems I have to have it every day – so that my nerves would stop shaking. It’s a complsive think. I just want to know from
any one who has been in this type of perdiciment Does any one know without going to Rehab. what I should do. And I do thank you!!

Also, I have no energy whats so ever – that’s because of the drinking I
suppose – when can i get back into movidation mode after i quit for about 7 days – to get out of my lack of movidation and no energy at
all. I need everybody’s advice for me. Thanks again.

9:59 am November 10th, 2011

Hi Trisha. I think that you may want to check out SMART Recovery. They have online meetings and you can download reading from their website about how to stop drinking on your own. SMART is based on cognitive behavioral therapy and is a self help program in the real sense “self-help”.

In my limited opinion, it does sound like you have a problem with drinking, given your high tolerance, compulsion to drink, and daily pattern of drinking. Please let me know how else I can help.

Yours,
Lee

gIna
1:23 am January 3rd, 2013

well TrIsha I wIsh u the very best of luck! Im an alcoholIc myself & I havent had a drInk In a full day whIch I havent done In a long tIme, I usually black out from drInkIng, wake up & start drInkIng all over agaIn. Im thInkIng of doIng one of those a.a. meetIngs….so yea defInItely good luck to u! u can do It!

tilly
11:19 pm January 21st, 2013

I have had a problem with alcohol for 20+ years I am female now 55yrs old. I would drink most nights say 4 out of 7. Over a period of time I would drink a couple of beers, then at least 2/3rds of a bottle of red wine. I would never drink more than this it was my limit. Then over the past 10yrs or so I went to one beer and 1/2 bottle wine about 5 nights a week. The strange thing with my drinking was I would wait till i was preparing the evening meal and consume the drink have dinner then stop for the evening, 5.30pm to 7.30pm was my drinking time ??????
I would always drink copious amount of orange squash and drinking, i would be up peeing most of the night, and i have not had a full nights sleep for many many years, irratability etc. I have stopped for a couple of weeks on quite a few occasions, but always gone back, and yes i really do enjoy having a drink. I had my last drink 16 days ago, and apart from a sickly head on a couple of mornings i have been fine. The hot and cold sweats that i am having as far as i am aware are menopause flashes which i have been having for the past 12months or so, (not related as i was already having them. I must say I thought the hot flushes would of eased a little as I am not drinking alcohol but they have not reduced. I want to be able to drive again as i stopped 10 years ago as i felt it was the most responsible thing to do if i was drinking most days. I now wonder if i am going to be safe to drive? if my brain has been affected by alcohol? and if i can still expect any nasty withdrawral symptoms? i feel good at the moment eating a good diet and excercising daily, but is it to little to late? any advice would be greatly appreciated xx

2:35 pm January 23rd, 2013

Hi Tilly,

It sounds like you know the problem intimately. I’d suggest that you consult with a nutritionist to learn more about diet and lifestyle changes that work for you….and to seek advice from a primary physician for overall testing for possible long term damage to internal organs caused by drinking. You’ll have peace of mind, and you can also request more information about local resources for ex-problem drinkers (ie. counseling, support groups, social services, etc.)

illhavethecheck
7:34 am January 29th, 2013

I am a twenty six year old male who has been drinking very heavily for years. Every. Single. Day. When I was 19 had an ex girlfriend make me stop for two years but I had started again when I was 21. For the past year and a half I’ve been living in Paris which is where I reached my peak of drunking. During the summer I would sit by the Seine and consume 2 bottles of wine, 2 pints of beer and a small bottle of whiskey on a daily bases. Because I had a very physical job most of the alcohol seemed to sweat itself out every morning and hangovers were virtually non existent. Now I’m back to NYC and I usually just drink one bottle of wine a night but on the weekends I usually go a bit overboard. The problem with this is I feel HORRIBLE the following mornings now, especially now I don’t have a active job. Anyway I just got a good job that requires travel back and forth between Paris & NYC and the last thing I need to be dealing with is a habit like this. Now in my case I am going with the taper method. I have a distrust of doctors, and the last thing I need is this kind of thing on my record. I did AA a few years back it wasn’t for me either. All that talking of drinking only extended my hang overs and after a while I started feeling very indoctrinated by a philosophy that I respect but not feel is right for me. Saturday I had my last hoorah with 1 liter of vodka, Sunday I feel like sh&# but allowed myself about a bottle of wine. Yesterday was Monday and I brought myself down to one glass of wine and three beers. I felt miserable all night and all day at work today and this evening I’ve only allowed myself one glass of wine. It knocked me out instantly due to the fact my body had been pretty overactive today most likely due to withdrawals. I will take sips as needed for the next couple of days but I feel I should be in the clear soon, in fact I already feel on the other side of the hump! I have zero desire to be drunk again which is the needed ingredient to do this without medical support. I recognize how easy it is to rationalize an extra drink and I’m so scared of one day being truly powerless which is why I’m finding success in this now. I think any method is good as long as you make your health the number one priority. I drink only enough to avoid a serious medical emergency because on the other hand I do think it is stupid to go Cold Turkey. If you want to go that route that I would say go seek medical attention first. I saw some pretty graphic videos on youtube two nights ago of people going through DTs and no party or high is worth that. Good luck to all of you, and myself of course, I hope this helped in some way. God bless.

tilly
9:45 pm January 29th, 2013

Dear illhavethecheck, I am saddened to read of your situation, and I really wish you all the luck in the world. If you can taper off easily and find that way is best for you, that is your prerogative. I just wanted to say that youth is strength, and you have youth on your side. While you are young you can beat this drink problem, but if you find you drop back to drinking you will need some kind of help, even if its just talking things through with someone. The more you drink and stop each new stop start session will become more difficult, its just a fact (very complicated to expalin) I never realised this but read up on it some time a go. Reading between the lines you seem to have very high profile jobs which sound very interesting, lots of travel, you must meet lots of interesting people? The world is your oyster! The longer you drink the harder it is to stop. This might sound like a no brainer but please believe me it is something that the drinker does not really think about until its way out of hand. When drinkers get older, long term drinking makes aging extremely difficult, without all the health concerns which are a vast multitude, there is the social side of living which becomes unbearable to socialise, make friends, confidence problems, to name but a few. Please do not take this into your next decade, take your time find whats comfortable and right for you, but don’t let drink ruin your life, health, and all relationships, because it will, use the strength in your youth to beat it, and have a healthy happy long life you have the choice make the right one, not now this minute or tomorrow but in your comfortable time, I wish I could turn back the years, god bless take care with love Tilly x

Tami
11:22 pm January 31st, 2013

How did it go with your home detox?

tilly
11:38 am February 1st, 2013

Hi Tami, I have been doing fine, its approx 30 days without Alcohol, I am not sure to the day, which is good because normally you would be counting every minute let alone every day, so the fact I am not thinking about it massively is I am sure a very good sign. I have cut down all my fat intake and counting calories (in a fashion) and have lost a stone in weight which is most welcome, plus I have lost inches off my body areas which I am not measuring yet until next week. I have been doing 3miles a day on my treadmill with a 6 step incline. I have loads more energy I am no where near as restless as I usually am. and thats just after one month more or less. I had blood tests for kidneys,liver,thyroid etc all came back clear, I know you can have liver damage even though blood tests for liver funchion show to be ok? but as long as i am feeling good I will just take things in their stride, I can;t do much my and bad tempered with those close to you, but that is also related to a low carb intake, due to losing weight, but thats getting better now, I still have problems sleeping but hey! can’t have miracles for everything I am over the moon with myself and feeling very positive. I must say how kind it is of you to ask, it has made my day that someone was interested in me, yes got to sort out the confidence thing, but I am sure it won’t be far off. Thank you godless Tilly xxx

illhavethecheck
11:13 pm February 2nd, 2013

Thanks Tilly I definitely will take everything you said into consideration. I do want to say what works for one person will not work for everyone, despite age and all that. I’ve overcame a great deal in my life. While I was 17 I had the most traumatizing anxiety, OCD and depression. While most high school kids were living normal lives I literally went in and out of hospitals. I even had some of the nations best doctors tell me I would never live without medication and some form of outpatient care. I couldn’t even leave my bedroom. Now I would have to submit a novel of information to tell you how I got out of it but I did, without medication, doctors and I left my home on my eighteenth birthday to New York City and never looked back. Since then I’ve lived in Paris, overcome many fears and I’m still moving forward today. The problem is contemporary medicine, self imposed fears and most importantly an unwillingness to not take risks. Now back to the drinking….this week was miserable but I got through it. In fact I’ve felt good since the night I posted on this blog! Sure it was not easy and I don’t wish it on anyone but it is possible. Unless you are completely powerless over your ability to control yourself I would even recommend doing what I did without doctors. In fact ethanol is usually administered in a lot of cases and it leads to better sleep during detox and less relapses overall. Although I wouldn’t suggest this to most I will drink again and I’ll do so by training myself to moderate. This is what is done in most places in the world and I think its affective overall. Sometimes in America doctors tend to give us wheelchairs when what we really need is be taught how to walk. In either case I hope you people out there have found the way that makes you happy, which is more important than anything overall…

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About Keith Bray

I am a Master Life Coach who is ICF certified and a certified addictions coach. I consider myself recovered from the effects of addiction (16 years) but still in recovery mode as it relates to personal growth. Professionally, I am university educated, a former corporate CEO and have been in the consulting business for over two decades. I'm a husband, father, grandfather, friend, uncle son, a trusted confidant and many other things but bottom line, I'm Keith. I hope that I can help SOME out there with ideas that will make you think deeply.